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Jae opens up during a date with a woman on “#Blacklove”

ICYMI, #Blacklove is an FYI Network reality series that follows five women (Monet, Tennesha, La, Cynthia and bisexual Jae) as they learn what they want out of love from relationship gurus Damona Hoffman and Jack Daniels. The show premiered earlier this month and airs its third episode last night.

This week on #Blacklove, the women go to the Museum of Sex where they try out some sugested sex positions and jump on “boobies.”

When the five ladies go out for drinks later that week, they are having a great time laughing and chatting about G-spots and online dating when Jae turns to the table next to them to apologize.

At the table is Nneka Onuorah, the filmmaker behind the documentary The Same Difference.

“I see this girl and she’s not my type, but something about her intrigues me,” Jae says in her confessional. “Maybe it’s her confidence.”

La notices they are vibing, too.”Is there somebody giving Bentley giving competition? There may not be many men who can handle Jae, but I’m pretty sure there’s a woman who can.”

Nneka is smooth, taking a sip from Jae’s glass (she offered!) and asking Jae’s friends to tell her two things about Jae: “She’s cute so I just wanna know some things about her.” The other women offer that Jae is “sassy,” “intelligent” and “mature,” but Jae puts it right out there and talks about herself in the third person: “She’s into women.”

“Nneka might have more game than a man does,” Monet says. “Becuase she closed the deal signed, sealed and delivered. She was ready to go, in and out.” I love that Jae’s friends are supportive of her and her dating women.

Nneka slides over to their booth where she asks if they’re all single. Jae says she’s not single, but she’s also not exclusive. “I think I maybe can find something in my schedule for this girl,” she tells the camera. “We’ll see.” The group toasts to being single and new friends. Mhm.

Later that week, Nneka and Jae meet up for a date at a parkour gym, which Jae is excited about because she’s “tired of boring dinner dates.” I guess that’s what happens when you start dating 60-year-old rich men! Nneka keeps her hat on while jumping in and out of foam pits and duckwalk racing. Jae notes she seems tough on the outside but is “probably warm once you get to know her.”

She’s more concerned, though, that she’s going to “look like such a cornball in front of Nneka.” Nneka, though, goes out of her way to make sure Jae knows she’s right there with her. “I respect it,” she says, watching Jae try to balance herself on a moving object.

Damona the love guru explains to the camera that “active dates” like this one can “lower your inhibitions” and “always give you something to talk about.” It seems to be working, because after they fall into a pit together, they sit down to talk and get right into relationship chatter.

“I don’t know if you know in the lesbian community there’s a stud and there’s a femme,” Nneka says, which is exactly what her documentary is about. “So normally, you know, masculine women dates a feminine woman. That’s what’s expected. Do you follow that?” Jae says she doesn’t; that she is more interested in getting to know people for who they are and connect with them on the inside.

“I’m a little different from my lesbian and bisexual friends because I don’t have a label,” Jae tells the camera. “I don’t have a slant. And I will date whoever.”

Nneka has a very specific type: “I love women who can cook because I love to eat all the time, and who can take my jokes because I like to play around a lot.” She wants to know why Jae is holding back on love, and Jae begins to retreat, as we found out she likes to do last episode. She doesn’t want to go into “her pain and her past” on the first date. But she’s with another woman, here, so processing is what you do. Also, she’s trying to listen to Damona and follow what the workshop is asking of her, so she opens up about her last heartbreak, when her boyfriend completely ghosted her and popped up three months later, married.

“The first date is not supposed to be this intense,” Jae says. “I’m an intense person,” Nneka answers. Jae says she’d definitely like to see Nneka again, and not once does she ask Nneka how old she is or how much money she makes, two things she has made priorities for anyone else she’s dated. Maybe she truly is learning from the workshop. But she still has to accept her vulnerability and allow herself to not see sharing herself as “admitting failure” or showing “weakness.” In next week’s preview, it looks like she could be having a breakdown to get to the breakthrough, and hopefully, she’ll continue to see Nneka, too.

#Blacklove airs Tuesday nights on FYI.

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