One of very few openly bisexual actors, Kristanna Loken is passionate, outspoken and unflinchingly honest — about everything. In a recent interview with AfterEllen.com, the Painkiller Jane and T3: Rise of the Machines star was as candid as ever about her experiences on the set of The L Word, her nonprofit work around the world and her recent engagement to actor Noah Danby.
AfterEllen.com: Well, first, I understand congratulations are in order for your engagement.
AE: You met him on the set of Painkiller Jane?
AE: Have you gotten any reaction from fans?
AE: You’re one of a handful of actresses who have come out as lesbian or bi. Did that put added pressure on you when it came to announcing your engagement?
I didn’t know how people would react [to my engagement], but frankly I don’t really care at the end of the day. It’s my life and I’m going to love whom I choose, but I would hope in the end people would just be happy for someone else’s happiness.
AE: So, to be clear, you’re still openly bisexual.
Loken and fiancé Noah Danby
AE: I think your engagement could be a little challenging for some of your lesbian fans, just because so few celebrities are openly partnered with a person of the same gender.
But in the end, you just hope people are going to support your happiness. It shouldn’t really matter. I think that was the biggest thing about coming out, is being accepted to love whom you want. I guess it’s kind of the ultimate test of that: Are people in the gay and lesbian community going to accept you if you love another gender?
AE: Being bisexual rather than lesbian puts you in an especially difficult position.
And it’s tough for me. This is something that I’m going to have to deal with within my relationship on a personal level, and for me it’s day to day because I’m never, ever not going to be attracted to women or want to be with women. But I’ve made a choice with a person who fulfills most of my desires — and I’m not talking sexually, I’m talking compatibility.
I think the more truthful you are with yourself and with the public, then there’s less judgment that’s going to be made because it doesn’t become about guesswork or lying. It’s just the truth, and people should accept your truth. Isn’t that what everyone strives for in life?