“Sex and the City”: Friends are family


Last Friday, the full-length Sex and

the City
movie trailer was leaked online.



I’ll admit it: I’m excited

about this movie. And I say that as someone who took quite a long time

to become a fan of the show. When it first premiered in 1998,

the glossy-looking previews got me to tune in, expecting a New York–based

comedy along the lines of Friends. What I got seemed a lot more

along the lines of soft porn to me — plus a seemingly endless run

of terrible puns and vacuous-sounding questions from sex columnist Carrie

(Sarah Jessica Parker) — and I just as quickly tuned out. When

friends talked about the show to me, I told them in no uncertain terms

that I couldn’t stand it.

Yet somehow, around the time

of the fifth or sixth season, I found myself taking another look. And

whether it was just because I had gotten older, or because the show had

gotten a lot better, I unexpectedly found myself being drawn into it. Carrie

seemed less brittle, self-obsessed and neurotic to me, and I found myself

noticing what a good friend she was. Prissy Charlotte (Kristin Davis)

had met her perfect match in the short, bald, fat Harry (Evan Handler)

and had loosened up a bit. Slutty Samantha (Kim Cattrall) was

no longer shagging everything that moved, but seemed on the verge of

settling into an actually rather touching relationship with Smith (Jason

) — plus I admired the tough, steely way she was handling breast


And then there was Miranda.

Even before I knew that Cynthia Nixon played for our team (and even before she handled being outed in such a classy, fuss-free way),

Miranda was always my favorite of the four women. Like Dana on The

L Word
, she seemed the most normal, the most relatable, and the

most down-to-earth of the show’s glamorous, high-earning female characters.

Even if they are straight,

I also really liked her relationship with Steve (David Eigenberg). Defensive,

unromantic Miranda’s unwillingness to admit that she liked him made

total sense to me — plus there was the fact that Nixon is such a good

actress (she won an Emmy for her role in 2004). While I can’t find

a clip of my favorite moment between them — where Miranda thinks she

has lost Steve and finally admits she loves him — this one is pretty




The center of the show, of

course, is the friendship between the four women — and, as you might expect,

this is the aspect of it that I most enjoyed. Yes, all the women are

straight. But watching Miranda call after Carrie after they have

had a fight — “Carrie I love you, come back” — or watching the

girls’ supportive reactions to Samantha’s news that she has breast

cancer, it feels like you are watching women who are life partners

emotionally, even if not sexually.

Trying to explain to her boyfriend

Aleks how she feels about Samantha’s illness, Carrie tells him that:

“Samantha is my friend. She’s my family. My insides. She will be fine

because she has to be fine. That’s how important she is to me.” And

as Mr. Big tells Charlotte, Samantha and Miranda in the show’s penultimate

episode: “You’re the loves of [Carrie’s] life, and a guy’s just lucky

to come in fourth.”

If all that’s not enough

of an incentive for you to see the movie, then there’s the fact that

it also features Jennifer Hudson (though how big a role she’ll

play isn’t totally clear from the trailer … and what I really want

to know is, is she going to sing?)

Anyway, to put you in a musical

mood, I’ll leave you with this Sex and the City–inspired video

for the Destiny’s Child song “Girl.” Anything that involves

Beyoncé holding hands with girls works for me:



Are you looking forward to

the movie? Did you love or hate or “eh” the show when it was on

TV? Let me know below.

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