The Most Lesbian Moments of “Sex and the City”


Today is the 15th anniversary of the premiere of Sex and the City, which had many lesbian connections, characters and scenes throughout its six-year run on HBO. Out designer Patricia Field famously handled the wardrobe for the inspired fashion on the show and actress Cynthia Nixon (Miranda Hobbes) came out as being in a lesbian relationship in 2004.

So we’re counting down the most lesbian moments to be a part of the SATC franchise, which has also included two feature-length films.

1. Miranda gets set up with a softball player (Season 1, Episode 3)

Miranda’s law firm thinks she’s into women, so they set her up with Syd (Joanna Adler), who really does bat for our team. Even though she’s not gay, Miranda desperately wants to be invited to the couples’ dinner parties her boss throws, so she brings Syd as her date. Unfortunately, she has to be honest with everyone, including herself and she tries to kiss Syd but then says, dejectedly, “Not gay.” “Nope,” Syd says. “You’re not.”

2. Carrie kisses Alanis Morrisette in a game of spin the bottle (Season 3, Episode 4)

Sarah Jessica Parker‘s Carrie starts dating a bisexual guy who brings her to a very queer party where everyone has dated one another or provided sperm for another couple’s babies. Desperately hoping to fit in or at least have a good time, Carrie indulges the free-thinkers in a game of Spin the Bottle and lands on Dawn (Morrisette). “It’s a girl. Try again,” Carrie said, but Dawn tells her “It’s OK” and she leans in to kiss Carrie. After that moment, Carrie realizes she’s too old and boring to be a part of these junior high games and leaves the party.

3. Charlotte comes out as straight to the power lesbians (Season 2, Episode 18)

Charlotte (Kristen Davis) loves hanging out with the gay women of the art world (think a bunch of Bette Porters), but hides the fact she’s straight from them until finally, one of them asks. “No, I’m not,” Charlotte said, “But I do so enjoy the company of all these women. Everyone’s so smart and funny. After spending too much time and attention on men it feels Iike such a safe, warm environment. And while sexually, I feel that I am straight, there’s a very powerful part of me that connects to the female spirit.” The woman smiles and says, “Sweetheart, that’s all very nice, but if you’re not going to eat pussy, you’re not a dyke.” Membership revoked!

4. Samantha starts a relationship with Maria (Season 4, episodes 2-4)

Kim Catrall played the uber-sexual Samantha who was interested in men, men and more men until she met Maria (Sonia Braga), an artist she was enamored with and wanted to become close to. But when Maria admitted she had strong feelings for Samantha, Samantha decided to explore her Sapphic side, declaring to her friends “Yes, ladies. I’m a lesbian.” “How does that work? You wake up one morning, and you’re a lesbian?” Carrie said later. “I forgot to tell you. I’m a fire hydrant” Miranda joked. The relationship lasted only three episodes in Season 4, but it ended mostly because Samantha could not commit to any relationship, much less one with a passionate, emotional Brazilian woman who broke plates when she was angry.

5. Charlotte dresses in drag (Season 4, episode 4)

Charlotte has a crush on a photographer who is working on a drag king series and he asks her to pose for him. Once she puts on a mustache and a sock bulge, Charlotte has some cocky confidence. Best line of the episode goes to Stanford, though, after he sees a photo of a drag king cowboy: “I’m attracted to her. Maybe I’m a lesbian.”

6. Charlotte’s nanny is hot and gay (Sex and the City 2)

The second SATC movie was kind of a bust, but it did give us a fun new lesbian character in Erin (Alice Eve). Charlotte is jealous of her nanny, who has some huge, uh, assets, and is worried her husband Harry might fall for her. Charlotte is relieved, though, when it’s revealed that Erin has no interest in anyone’s husband — she’s gay.

7. Miranda and Carrie spend Valentine’s Day together (Sex and the City movie)

While eating at an Indian restaurant on Feb. 14, the waitress tells Carrie, “I’ll be right back to take you and your girlfriend’s order.” The two friends raise their eyebrows at one another and lesbians everywhere were happy to see the hat tip to Cynthia’s IRL lesbianism.

Honorable mentions go to Samantha and Charlotte’s threesome attempts, although they were mostly for the men and the women didn’t touch each other once.

What’s your favorite SATC lesbo-moment?

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