Bisexual surgeon Callie sleeps with a male friend and her girlfriend on the same day on Grey’s Anatomy (ABC), and House, M.D. (Fox) promotes a racy lesbian sex scene for October sweeps (the only time the bisexual character is ever actually involved with women on the show).
Fox’s new animated show Sit Down, Shut Up includes a "flamboyant" bisexual male drama teacher who is obsessed with sex, and Comedy Central’s new series Krod Mandoon and the Flaming Sword of Fire features a gay guy eager to have sex with 300 men in a row. Saturday Night Live regularly falls back on gay panic humor — and (usually) not in a good way.
One of the biggest pop songs of the last year is about a girl who kissed a girl and liked it, even though she’s not gay or bisexual and it’s "not what good girls do."
Movies aimed at a young, heterosexual audience routinely feature characters or conversations that portray gay men and women as oversexed and predatory (Lesbian Vampire Killers, Meet the Spartans, Harold & Kumar: Escape From Guantanamo Bay).
With so many media images working together to over-emphasize the sexual aspect of homosexuality and bisexuality, should we be surprised someone at Amazon.com apparently put gay and lesbian books like Heather Has Two Mommies and John Barrowman’s biography Anything Goes in the "adult" (i.e. explicit sexuality) category?
Amazon.com is calling this a "glitch with our sales rank feature that is currently being fixed." Even if that turns out to be true, this kind of glitch is inevitable in a culture which relentlessly oversexualizes gay, lesbian and bisexual people.
Amazon isn’t alone in making this correlation. Internet filters at schools and libraries, ISPs, even whole countries routinely block gay and lesbian sites, even when they contain no "adult" content. YouTube requires users to be over 18 to view a video of an innocuous same-sex kiss, but not an opposite-sex one.
Anti-gay rights activists have frequently cited pedophilia and bestiality as inevitable outcomes of legalizing same-sex marriage, because they’re all deviant forms of sexuality — and of course, same-sex marriage is all about sex (unlike heterosexual marriage, which is all about love).
This message is so pervasive in American pop culture that many people aren’t even aware they’ve absorbed it — or that they’re guilty of promoting it, as AfterElton.com’s exchange with Disney Channel Entertainment president Gary Marsh last July illustrates:
According to American pop culture, the answer to Marsh’s question "how do you identify the gay persona" is through sex.
Just for the record, sex is fine, and so is portraying queer people as sexual beings. The problem is that we are too often defined in music, film, and TV solely by our sexuality, while heterosexual men and women are portrayed in a much wider variety of ways.