Joan Rivers is arguably the mother of transgressive comedy. Decades before Sandra Bernhard, Roseanne Barr, Kathy Griffin or Sarah Silverman, Joan was one of the most successful comedians in the world talking about real life and telling uncensored jokes about her sex life. And while most notoriously vulgar and crude, she was a genuinely caring and sympathetic person. Everything I know about make-up I learned from her turn as Miss Piggy’s coworker in The Muppets Take Manhattan and I can remember listening to her Grammy award winning album What Becomes a Semi-Legend Most? and staying home to watch The Joan Rivers Show before I was old enough to understand what I was hearing.
Over the last week, while closely monitoring Joan Rivers’ recovery, it became clear that Joan was one of those celebrities I expected to live forever. With a career that spans over 50 years, I am a part of a generation who can’t remember a time without Joan Rivers. Unfortunately, today is the day we figure out what life looks like without her outrageous opinions.
An outspoken ally who has openly supported gay rights, Joan was described by Phyllis Diller in Yael Kohen’s We Killed: The Rise of Women In American Comedy: “If you want to be successful, you better stay with the gay-crowd. Joan Rivers, to this day, just tells you that right out.”
One of her first times onstage was when she played a lesbian opposite a then-unknown Barbara Streisand in an off-Broadway play, Driftwood, in the late 1950s.
“The first play I did was in Greenwich Village in the early ’60s. Barbra Streisand and I played lovers and we kissed,” Rivers once told The National Post. “This was before she was singing, before anything. I knew she was talented, but you never know what someone will be. She was a fabulous kisser, that’s what I knew.”
In Season 3 of Joan & Melissa: Joan Knows Best?, Joan revealed that she had recently kissed a woman. Explaining how the kiss happened on The Today Show, Joan said, “Lily Tomlin, who is my very good friend, she and Jane Lynch had a dinner party, and I met this lovely woman. At this point, all the men I go out with remind me of my father — dead … I figured I might as well try it at this point. Maybe I’ve been missing something.”
She went on to say, “I like her very much. It’s like the Katy Perry song, ‘I Kissed a Girl.’ I don’t know if I liked it or I didn’t like it. I woke up this morning with an incredible urge to play golf.”
Aside from coining the catch phrase, “Who are you wearing?” the best and gayest thing Joan created is her webseries, In Bed With Joan. In June she conducted a hilarious interview with Hannah Hart from “My Drunk Kitchen.”
And try this she did.