“I identify as Q. It stands for Queer or Question mark. … I believe in sexual freedom, I promote it, but me personally? I haven’t had sex in six, eight months, maybe longer. I think to have sex you should be in love… I’ll meet the love of my life when I meet the person who can see through every layer I have that’s meant to distract you and throw you off. I’ve been mistreated and abused my whole life, so I have these barriers up and I’m waiting to find the person who sees through that.”
Another cover girl this month: Carrie Brownstein for Bust. Her photospread is inspired by Lily Tomlin‘s The Incredible Shrinking Woman, and Bust writes about her wanting to keep her dating life to herself.
The interest might also be because she’s very particular about keeping her private life private. Though it’s been rumored that she’s dating Portlandia guest star and musician extraordinaire St. Vincent (aka Annie Clark), when her publicist snaps a pic of her on set at our photo shoot, she says that she can use it for her Tinder profile. (Either she was being sarcastic, or every single person in Portland should start swiping immediately). But Brownstein’s not interested in talking about her love life, or anyone else’s for that matter. “It kind of heightens the experiences and maintains a mythical quality to someone’s work, especially music, when I don’t know what they ate for lunch, who they’re dating, or what their favorite beer is,” she says, playing with the delicate gold bangle on her wrist. “I just don’t care. It doesn’t help me enjoy their music.”
They also mention how she was outed by Spin years ago while in Sleater-Kinney.
It’s no surprise that she keeps her romantic cards close to her chest. Brownstein was burned by media oversharing very early on, and the experience seems to have shaped her reticence with the press ever since. In August 1996, Spin published a profile on Sleater-Kinney, after their second album Call the Doctor was released. In it, the writer outed Brownstein as Tucker’s former lover (as Brownstein told Marc Maron on his WTF podcast in 2012: “Corin and I dated for, like, a second”), when the fact that she sometimes dated girls was something she had not yet discussed with her family. “It was very disorienting,” she says. “We were so excited about that [interview], it was one of the first big articles [about us] so mostly I just was annoyed ’cause it took all the excitement out of the experience. But I think it instilled in me very early on a sense of wanting privacy and not being very interested in having personal information be tantamount to the work itself. Like, it didn’t make anything about that article more interesting at all. Except that I then had to explain a lot of things to my family,” she says with a wry chuckle. “That was interesting.”
Jillian Michaels explains how to balance everything in your life, especially if you want to get fit.
Speaking of her partner and kids, they came out to The Dave Thomas Foundation For Adoption’s Kickball For A Home last week in LA.
Want to hear Brandi Carlile‘s new album in the very studio it was recorded? Bid on the opportunity now before it gets up any higher.
Today in Lesbianish TV: *The Ellen DeGeneres Show, *The Queen Latifah Show, Good Morning America (ABC 7 a.m.), *Comedy Central Presents “Erin Foley” (Comedy Central 9 a.m.), *Buffy marathon (Pivot 9 a.m.), *Supernatural “Pac-Man Fever” (TNT 10 a.m.), The L Word Mississippi: Hate the Sin (Showtime2 12:15 p.m.), *Sisterhood of Hip Hop “Rap Battles”/”Love or Hip Hop” (Oxygen 1 p.m./2 p.m.), *Police Women of Memphis (OWN 1 p.m./2 p.m.), How I Met Your Mother “Big Days” (FX 1:30 p.m.), The Talk (CBS 2 p.m.), Happy Endings (TMC Xtra 4:15 p.m.), To Rome With Love (Starz Comedy 4:25 p.m.), *Police Women of Memphis marathon (OWN 5 p.m.), Jane Velez-Mitchell (HLN 7 p.m.), *Masters of Sex “Asterion” (Showtime 8 p.m., 11:30 p.m., Showtime2 10 p.m.), *South Beach Tow marathon (Tru TV 8 p.m.), The Rachel Maddow Show (MSNBC 9 p.m.), *Ray Donovan “Walk This Way” (Showtime2 9 p.m., Showtime 12:30 a.m.), *Living Single “Woman to Woman” (Logo 9 p.m.), *Defiance “All Things Must Pass”/”I Almost Prayed” (Syfy 12 a.m./1 a.m.), *Friends “The One With the Birth” (Nick 12:12 a.m.) (Thanks Roni!)