State by state, the gays are making slow but steady progress in the wedding department. Honestly, I’m not sure what all the fuss is about. Many a wedding coordinator is a homosexual and we’d be great for blowing bucks on the nuptials of our dreams for the simple fact that many same-sex couples of marrying age are without children and (hopefully) mature enough to have some
Jewelry to mark your eternal bond is pretty easy for your average boy-girl couple. Boy consults mother, sister or BFF for the inside on his girl’s dream engagement ring, he gets on one knee, she is the envy of all of her single co-workers and friends. When converting traditions and making them our own, it’s so intricately personal and can be really confusing: Who buys the ring? Do you even need the engagement ring, or do you go full speed ahead with matching bands? Is that something you decide as a couple or has the dynamic been previously established?
One of my dearest friends got hitched last month and boy, was it a lesson in traditional wedlock. Her wife and her have a pretty obvious butch/femme relationship and did everything to a T — cake, first dance, video slideshow, all of it. They did however go the route of having matching, simple titanium bands. It was perfect for them and, to be honest, I believe the decision to get married was a mutual one so, really, not traditional at all, but perfect for them.
Another lesbian I’m acquainted with was presented with a ring made of high quality white gold, a simple band with hearts interlocking pretty abstractly. I thought it was a cool alternative to the straight up bands. I mean, just because we generally wear our nails short doesn’t mean we have to be sporting the plain old bands.
I can even imagine some lesbo somewhere out there getting one of those rings that doubles as a compass, you know so that she didn’t “waste” her money on jewelry. (If you’re reading this and now contemplating that, please don’t. There’s nothing romantic about a ring that doubles as a tool for camping.)
When Portia and Ellen tied the knot, Portia got all of the bling. I’m sure that it was a thought out process and I don’t know about you, but Portia totally looks the part of a woman who wouldn’t mind showing the world her sparkly left finger.
That being said, it’s not always the femme desiring the diamond. That’s what’s so tricky about “She & She” — there’s no right or wrong way to do it. The bands sealed the deal when those two got married in the short time frame in which it was legal to in the state of California.
The decision to wed is intensely personal and is a different experience for everyone. Will you be getting down on one knee? Who will you be wearing on your ring finger?