Everyone wants the person they’re in love with to think they look bangin’ hot, and if they truly love you, there’s no doubt that they should. Fashion is a category in one’s relationship that stands all on it’s own. Have you ever dated anyone whose wardrobe was a complete atrocity? That it is thin ice to tread, indeed.
Some of you may argue that what you or she wears is truly not a matter of importance when developing a long and lasting relationship with someone. But, really, in order to keep your attraction alive and burning bright for years to come, it’s vital to nudge your love in the right direction if she happens to be a total “closet” case. Just try and not hold her ex against her in the process.
Should you be some kind of weird tyrant dictator girlfriend who lays her outfits out for her? Absolutely not — that’s sick and crazy — but if your beloved asks you if she looks good in what she’s got on and she’s, in fact, violating hardcore with her outfit, you have to tell her. If I asked my partner if she liked what I was wearing and she didn’t, and I found out later that she had held back that kind of information from me, I would be devastated.
If something she’s got on is straight up unflattering, telling your GF is the correct thing to do. I’m not saying a dislike for your girlfriend’s favorite pair of sneakers is reason for alarm, so take it easy and recognize the difference between clashing tastes and clashing on the real. Honesty is always the best policy, but only if it’s major. Constantly picking at minor details will cause more harm than good and no one made you the queen of style anyway, so use your good judgment, yeah?
I know certain halves of couples who absolutely hate dressing up. I get it, especially with the sometimes strange politics of formal wear concerning our more butch counterparts, but if you make it a fun occasion instead of a dreaded affair, I promise some of that enthusiasm will rub off. It’s no secret that I’m into couples who coordinate clothing and I think if you try it, you would be too. Not straight up matchy-match, but making an interesting detail or color a part of both of your ensembles is actually really cute and is esthetically pleasing to the eye, setting your look up for success without a lot of effort. It’s important to keep in mind that dressing down the “dress up” has becoming quite fashionable, so compromise by pairing some nice pants with some chic sneaks. It’s totally acceptable. She may not be jumping for joy, but some of these tactics may make it somewhat of an enjoyable experience.
On a more serious and psychoanalytical note, say your sweetie stops wearing all those cute jeans in exchange for lounge wear every single night that you’re hanging out at home. What’s wrong with comfy clothes, you might ask? Nothing at all, but sometimes it’s a slippery slope. If she’s never trying to dress up for you anymore it can signal the root of a different growing problem. Serious — think about all of those depression commercials.
I would wager if the p.j. pants are being broken out more than 3 times a week before 8 p.m. you’re not having sex that much anymore. A declining desire to make an impression can actually be quite telling and detrimental. I can count on two hands how many couples I personally know who have gone down this route and ended up on the road to Singletown, USA, population 1. Sad story, sweatpants.