Just a note to let you all know that this episode is a departure from our usual format, because it's all about Gray Matters, and we don't have an introductory discussion before the guests come on (too many people to interview, not enough time). Next week we'll resume our usual format of discussing multiple topics, and talking amongst ourselves prior to introducing the guest.

I love the scene of them kissing for the first time!! too hott!! i love heather graham and her energy plus Bridget is a hottie as well!!

I love the fact that the creator is straight, shows that other people out there wants to see the homosexual community seen in a positive light and it cool to see their perspective on the matter.

 Honestly, i think the guy Thomas is really dry indeed and kinda lame, i already see that i would want to fast forward alot of scenes with him....but thats just me...

SdQ still running things...stay humble and wise...

The director seems really nice and sincere. :) And Heather, Bridget and Tom are really funny. It looks like they definitely get along! The interview was cool!The subject and everything was really nice!

And even if we didn't see her that much, Lauren was... well... Lauren!! so cute!!

No one told me I was supposed to be hit on more because I'm a redhead. But then again, I'm not Bridget Moynahan so maybe that's the issue.

Good job on the continued success of the show.

I am not particular fond of this episode. But that has to do with the fact that my sarah/lauren/chagmoin/stacey time was sacrificed for that silly movie. O please don't shoot me lovely lesbians...but if I have to watch one more silly movie like, I'll give up cinema altogether. The truth of the matter is that this movie is nothing more then a hetero-acceptable portrayal of gayness. And I for one am quite sick of watching straight women playing gay actresses who are still playing straight. it's call acting people! Invest in some lessons.

Heather graham as a gay woman is a joke! A joke. And no, I do not mean that as some silly reference to what I believe is my ultimate ability to distinguish straight women. I mean that from the trailer alone, I am disgusted by the straight face that is put on this story in order to make lesbianism easier to swallow.

I know that this was an interminable rant. But I have to say that I'm a little upset that none of the women were assertive enough to bring that point up. Espcially Sarah Warner! You're my favorite fire cracker! I love your point of view and your articles because you don't take shit from mainstream America. And well...I was seriously dissapointed with both interviews.

On top of it all...the story sounds like the biggest piece of non-innovative fluff ever! The plot line...argh. Horrid.

I'm rarely ever critical of this site....but I think I felt a little bruised that no one made a strong enough statement--but then again, this is entertainment. What did I expect?

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Hi all,

I'm trying to watch the video and for some reason it won't play.  I have the latest version of the flash player but it's still not working.  Can anyone help?

maybe i am just being a bitter lesbian, but i can't figure out why no one else was offended by the way heather graham was talking about "why can't they just move to san francisco and be together." or "could they really be that in love if they weren't together?" i am really annoyed with this. brokeback mountain was the most painful movie for me to watch because it brought out every feeling i felt while coming out. and for someone (a straight someone) to act like all gay people can just move to san fran and be happy was nauseating. i can't help but be angry. she is a dumbass hetero who knows nothing about being gay. i don't think i will watch this movie.

the earlier post (by cetienne) was right on the money. i hate that pretty straight girls play gay and we all think it is some kind of leap forward. seriously, two really feminine women (oozing with straightness) playing dykes just isn't that special.

ok, i am done. like i said i am a bitter lesbian, so sorry.

Did Bridget Moynahan play the also obviously straight woman who had a crushed on Bridget in the sequel to Bridget Jone's diary? (Aside: the plotline made no sense whatsoever). If not, I seem to remember the woman looked like her.

Yeah, haveing the same problem, it won't play....technically it plays for the first 5 seconds and then stops and doesn't load.

 BTW - Jacinda Barrett played Rebecca on Bridget Jones 2 not Moynahan. They do look similar though.

i totally disagree that this movie is typical or made for straight audiences.

not all lesbians look like butches! and not all lesbians are "gay acting" or "straight acting" as you seem to have stereotyped it. i'm very feminine, and i act a lot like heather graham's character in the film. does that make me less of a gay woman? no way!

added to that - my life is FULL of all kinds of people. gay and straight. and guess what - gasp! i have a straight brother too who i get along with. how is this film SO unrealistic or problematic to you?

and to the movie side of it: movies like this are refreshing. i don't need to see a gay film that has ALL gay actors in it. i need to see films that positively and lightheartedly portray being gay and coming out - because that is the way it was for me and many others. it's a romantic comedy...has gay and straight characters, and it has a happy ending. how could that EVER be a bad thing?

plus, with my hometown boy tom cavanaugh in the movie - how can you go wrong??

I too was a bit offended with that San Francisco remark... I mean wtf?! "yeah dude, you gay people all move to San Francisco and be all gay and happy there"... what?! That was totally clueless of her.

Bridget's reaction to the gayness of Cynthia Nixon was also kind of strange... like she couldn't believe Cynthia could be into women. Brings to mind the famous "not that there's anything wrong with that..."

Honestly, I'm not really fond of any of the actresses and the movie doesn't really captivate me, so I don't know if I'll watch this. But congratulations to Sue Kramer anyway for doing it. Also, let me just say that I think this movie is waaaaaaaay way far from the coolness that was Imagine Me and You. Because THAT was a cool movie.

Oh and also: Lauren Blitzer is really beautiful. Seriously.  

Yikes, this seemingly innocent little film sure has provoked some serious anger. While I think that there are probably more worthy targets of our collective ire out there, some very interesting points of discussion have been brought up, so what the hay, I'll roll with it. First of all, regarding the "San Francisco" comment. Yes, it certainly displayed a degree of naivete on Heather Graham's part, but there's nothing intrinsically wrong with the sentiment. I'm pretty sure she was trying to communicate that even in conservative areas of the country, there are places that will accept gay couples. Obviously it's rarely as easy as packing your bags and moving to a nice, progressive urban area, but there are options.

Anyway, the bigger issue for me here is the somewhat distressing fact that we still seem to be butting our heads up against the whole this-girl-is-too-femme thing. I think it's quite offensive to marginalize lesbians that adopt a feminine style as somehow "lesser" because of that fact. Perhaps I'm overestimating the progress that has been made in this regard, but I'd like to think that nowadays a woman - any woman - can choose to wear stilettos, skirts, makeup and all that with it being simply a matter of personal choice and not out of some ingrained desire to satiate archaic, patriarchal beauty standards. One comment I took particular issue with was one poster's assertion that it is disingenuous to make a film that promotes being true to yourself as a lesbian and then casting femme women in the film's lesbian roles. Now, can you see why I'm having some trouble wrapping my head around this? I mean, what's the message here? We should be true to ourselves unless that involves adopting a very feminine style? Something about that doesn't sit right with me.

Now, don't get me wrong here. I definitely would like to see more butch lesbians around, but as it stands, we should consider taking a step back and considering who our real enemies are. There are lots of them out there, but I don't think this movie is one of them.

 I think it all shouldn't be taken as heavily as some people seem to do... it's just a romantic comedy... it's supposed to be entertaining. If you think it's silly and you feel the same way about a lot of movies, maybe you just don't like the same thing a lot of people do :S

Also, I think the comments were just said jokingly and shouldn't be treated like political statements. Maybe it's just me, but it seemed like they didn't quite know what to say and just tried to say something funny and light, yeah? I didn't like the interview that much either, but just because nobody seemed very enthousiastic or relaxed to talk about the topic.

Anyway, like I always say: don't take yourself too serious, 'kay? :)

(lol I didn't meant for it to rhyme like that on purpose XD)

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I thought all the actors' responses were embarrassing and insensitive. Tom C seemed irritated that he was expected to say something gay friendly and politically correct. He also gave himself the male privilege of interrupting the women several times so he could emote. Sarah should have gone after him. Did he expect to have his ego smothered by a lesbian interviewer? Of course, she was more interested in the women and the lesbian storyline.

 Both women seemed to be relatively unendowed with the gray matter we call brains. I found them an embarrassment to my sex.

As for the comment preceding mine: most of the ranting was about what the women said and not the content of the film. As to the genre romantic comedy, a lot of lesbians and straights liked Kissing Jessica Stein, but it does seem to me that these oh-so-very-unpolitical  films let the men come out victors. They get the bisexual women and the newly come out lesbian has to find someone else. If the woman who comes out  always loses the girl, this light romantic comedy isn't so light after all. I think that's why several people previously commented positively about Imagine Me and You.

Firstly, Tom C seemed incredibly annoyed that the focus of the interview immediately zoomed into lesbianism. I have the feeling that he's having a tough time with the press junket for this movie because while he is a major character, no one cares about interviewing him. They're all over Heather G. and Bridget M. I felt a little bad for him in this interview because after the initial question, he was essentially ignored for the rest of the interview, which is why I think he kept interrupting and being rude.

As for all of this ranting from everyone...let me just ask, have you seen the movie yet? I don't think you can judge the movie itself until you've actually seen it. I wouldn't judge the movie on the ignorance of the actors. While they might be ignorant, they're playing characters who are not, characters who have dialogue written by someone else!

It's very possible Bridget had no idea about Cynthia Nixon. She worked with her years ago in 2000. Cynthia was still with her kids' father Danny Mozes until 2003. They had been dating since high school.

And Heather was completely joking about that San Francisco thing. A bad joke but a joke nonetheless.

And the director never claimed to be making the movie for a lesbian audience. She has said that she made the movie for everyone. That's why it's rated pg-13. I'm appreciative this movie was made for the simple fact that it opens the door for more movies with lesbian/bisexual characters to be released to wider audiences. I think we are still years away from their ever being a "lesbian Brokeback Mountain" but movies like Gray Matters and Imagine Me and You and Puccini for Beginners are a step in the right direction.

And I'm so tired of the "real lesbians don't look like that" argument. What makes a "real" lesbian?

If heather graham is gray, then I think I love her. lol

I love when she sticks her head in the middle of Bridget and Tom's stare in the hotel room. :P She's so quirky and cute that I just want to steal her off the movie screen!!