When I was a child, I remember telling my mother that I would “absolutely never” get married or have children. She told me that my opinion on the subjects would change as I grew older, but who knew that when I did get older and fell in love, I couldn’t get married anyway — not even if I did change my mind.
Weddings are a touchy subject for many gays, and rightfully so. While some hope to legally marry their partners sometime in the not-so-distant future, others swear off the tradition as heteronormative and want no part of it. After yet another heartbreaking loss with Maine’s Question 1 this week, one might think we gays are ready to step back, take our civil unions where we can get them and let this country treat us as second class citizens forever. Not so much.
Bigots from the National Organization for Marriage can throw their dirty money around all they want, but they will not break our spirit — and most certainly will not prevent us from having a big, themed, lesbian wedding whenever and wherever we want. Just ask Anli and Laura.
The lesbian gamers were wed in September in New South Wales, Australia, where gay marriage is illegal — but that didn’t stop them. The wedding was based on the video game “Portal” and the anime series Revolutionary Girl Utena.
“We incorporated lots of geeky details, from the table names (Revolution, Sierra, Katara and GLaDOS) to the choice of music,” Anli told OffbeatBride.com. “We also kept several traditional elements such as bouquets, dresses and bridesmaids. However, we both walked down the aisle unaccompanied and skipped the garter/bouquet toss.”
The wedding was complete with a walk down the aisle to video game music, wedding photos featuring the brides holding Nintendo DS consoles and a “Rock Band” party as opposed to a typical bachelorette bash.
Anli and Laura weren’t the only lesbians covered by Offbeat Bride, which features many atypical weddings of the gay and straight variety. The site featured Julie and Stephanie, who were married at the San Francisco Zoo in May (which made for some of the coolest wedding photos I’ve seen).
There’s also Laura and Gosia’s garden weddingin Portland, which involved a soccer match that would determined which of the ladies changed her name.
We don’t need a law to tell us who we love and we certainly don’t need permission to have a way better wedding than most. A wedding may not be in my budget anytime soon, but I really hope to be invited to a badass theme wedding sometime soon. What about a lesbian vampire wedding?
Or a badass rockabilly wedding at a bowling alley? I came across photos from Jessica and Nik’s Philadelphia wedding a few months back and cannot stop swooning.
Where do you stand on theme weddings — or would you rather not talk about the whole marriage thing for a while?