The trusty website, UrbanDictionary.com, has several definitions for the term lesbro:
1. A man who has more friendships with lesbians than other women or men.
2. The male equivalent of a fag hag.
3. A heterosexual man who is either one or both of the following: a brother to one or more lesbian sisters, or, friends with a disproportionate amount of homosexual women. “Wow, your brother really only hangs out with gay girls, doesn’t he! And you’re a big gay yourself, sister! What a lesbro you’ve got there!”
To us, a lesbro is a little bit of all, but at his core, a lesbro is a male friend to at least one, but possibly several, lesbians. This column shares a little bit about some famous lesbros that we love.
This week’s Lesbro: Jarrod Gorbel.
Jarrod Gorbel was the man behind the musical project The Honorary Title. This past year he has ditched the band moniker and released his first solo album, Devil’s Made A New Friend, followed by his latest offering, The Bruises From Your Bad Dreams EP.
AfterEllen.com: Of the above three definitions of Lesbro, which do you think describes you best?
AE: What is the best thing about your lesbian friend/s?
AE: Do you think that having lesbian friends has anything to do with where you fall on the Kinsey scale? Care to comment on your own sexuality?
I’m straight but have a tendency to date girls that are more open sexually. I’d consider myself to possess a lot of effeminate qualities and find that I’m attracted to females with masculine qualities. I sometimes enjoy female softball and volleyball, and think Peppermint Patty and Lucy are very attractive human beings from the Peanuts characters. None of these females are necessarily lesbians, but this is a scale of some sort considering my complete lack of athletic skills.
AE: What stereotype about lesbians have you found to be false?
AE: What do you think it is specifically that draws you towards being friends with lesbians?
AE: How has your girlfriend responded to your friendships with lesbians?
AE: What is the first thing that comes to mind when I say same sexy marriage?
AE: You have toured with your bands for many years. Have you gone on tour with any all girl bands or female fronted bands?
AE: It seems like you tend to collaborate with female artists a lot. What do you like about collaborating with women?
The female voice seems so much more multi-dimensional then the males it carries emotion is such a sultry and delicate way but can be ultra powerful as well in R&B and soul. I had Orenda Fink sing many of the higher harmonies on my latest record I just love how her tone worked with mine. I have been touring most recently with a female violin player who sings as well, named Andrea Babinski — another voice that undoing very complimentary with mine. I have also toured with folk singer Jaymay who would accompany me on many of my songs.
On my latest EP I did a duet with another female voice I love, Nicole Atkins The song is called “Miserable Without You” and when I wrote it, I knew she’d be perfect. Plus she lives in Brooklyn, which made things real easy logistically. Her voice is powerful and unique and has a very classic tone.
Whether on record or on tour, I tend to work better with girls. I have always tended to gravitate towards artists that have huge lesbian followings — at least in their beginnings. I have to admit I went to see the Gossip many years ago and felt very much like the minority. Back in the day I would travel with a mostly lesbian group of friends to see Ani D. I was obsessed at the time.
AE: You are on tour now with the organization To Write Love On Her Arms, how did this come about and what drew you to that organization?
Most of the songs I’ve written over the years were inspired by these very issues. It seemed like an obvious pairing. The organization helps young people find the correct treatment and community they may require. It also encourages others to reach out and help those they may know who suffer from such problems. I tend to turn my problems into song or towards humor, this organization helps young people find their own ways of coping.
To find out more about Jarrod Gorbel, visit JarrodGorbelmusic.com.