Some stereotypes about queer women can be true, but most of the time, they only apply to some of us. There are as many womanizing Shane McCutcheons as there are U-Hauling serial monogamists; as many women who prefer heels to sneakers, and plenty who rock both. So today’s Huddle is dedicated to busting the assumptions people have about lesbian/bi women.
Group, what’s something about you that doesn’t fit in with the stereotype?
Dana Piccoli: Watching YouTube makeup tutorials. I mean, I’m wearing flannel when I do it, but still.
Miranda Meyer: I enjoy the process of putting on makeup. I think it’s because it lets me focus on something really minute and precise that’s outside my own brain. I can lose all track of time doing it, is the problem.
Natasha Negovanlis: People often assume I’m not getting any lady lovings when my nails are long or super polished, or that my nails reflect my sex life, but the truth is they reflect my work. As do my outfits. Being an actress means having to look a certain way for certain roles, and the truth is, I have a crippling habit of picking at my cuticles to the point where they bleed. So sometimes when I’m playing ultra femme or straight, and/or have to be on camera, I get fake tips because they’re not sharp and prevent me from hacking away at my fingers and give them time to heal. Getting weekly manicures is also just much enjoyed me time. You hear that, ladies? THEY’RE NOT SHARP.
Grace Chu: I prefer pretty much every musical genre over gals with acoustic guitars.
Elaine Atwell: I have never changed a car tire to completion. I mean, I think I could, but every time I get a flat, industrious young men just appear and offer to fix it, and I let them.
Chloe: I can’t fix anything.
Valerie Anne: When I was little I used to think all lesbians had short hair. I obviously no longer think this; my only requirement for any haircut I get is that it’s long enough to braid, but it does seem to be something straight people have a hard time wrapping their head around when I first come out to them. (Which is practically daily in this heteronormative world of ours.) Also, I’m allergic to cats. I did play softball, but to be fair, I wasn’t all that great at it.
Lucy Hallowell: I’m allergic to cats.
Ali Davis: I’ve never taken a straight couple up on their offer to help them out with their bucket list/make their anniversary more special/get in their van and head back to Indiana for some magic. I’ve never cheated on someone I’m dating or murdered someone with an ice pick while in the middle of an acrobatic sex act. I forget what else it is we’re supposed to do. Paint our faces and howl inspired songs of esoteric extraterrestrial knowledge-no, wait, I’ve totally done that.
Erin Faith Wilson: I carry a purse and IDGAF.
Bridget McManus: I’m a really good tipper, and none of my exes were invited to my wedding.
Kimberly Hoffman: I don’t have a tight lesbian friend circle I can call up for brunch, invite over for season premiere viewing parties or gossip with when one girl cheats on the other with the girl that’s been in our group for-ev-er and now they’re making out at our bonfire, and we have to keep their secret, or not. Pull out the chart, we need to update the fuck out of that love triangle. (BUT I HAVE.) (And yeah, it is like that.) (And we did have our own chart.) This would probably be a weird time to say my girlfriend, and I frequently go: “I wish we had more lesbian friends.”
Chelsea Steiner: I hate sports so much you guys. I hate playing sports, I hate watching sports, I fall asleep anytime I hear someone talk about sports. With the exception of martial arts and roller derby, I would rather do literally anything else. I have a queer friend who regularly invites me to join her gay lady basketball league, and the answer will always be nope nope nope. Guess I’m just an indoors queer!
Lindsay King-Miller: I’m terrified to ride a motorcycle since wiping out when I took the class. Also, I do not sports.
Trish Bendix: I have never, ever had a thing for a straight girl.
Jenna Lykes: Welp, I’ve been going through every queer stereotype that I know of and I think I hit them all. Do I get a prize?
What stereotype doesn’t apply to you? What about you makes you different from the typical ideas people have about queer women?
