The Lo-Down: Lesbians, Gender and “Tila Tequila” Episode 3


This week while watching A Shot at Love With Tila Tequila, both Sarah P. and I were, admittedly, a bit bored. Now that the foam party’s over, it just seems like nothing can compare — not even a game of Spin the Bottle-cum-Truth or Dare topped off by a stripper pole injury.

Nonetheless, we persevered and have delivered another episode of The Lo-Down for your amusement. In this week’s episode, we talk about a certain video clip in which Vanessa does a little job for Maxim, so if you haven’t seen the video, check it out here. (Warning: NSFW! Unless you have my job.)

We also addressed the following important issues:

  • Lesbian or not? After Rebecca’s midnight “back scratching” episode with Steven, Sarah and I decided we’d better run down the list of women vying for Tila’s affections and determine whether they are lesbians or not. Because nothing says “not lesbian” like hooking up with a man.
  • Firefighter Dani and our affection for her pie-eating ability dimples.
  • The homophobic and queenie moments of the week! And yes, Ashley (aka Mr. Below Less) is involved in one of them.
  • Plus, a lost scene (aka “fanfic-like re-enactment”) in which Tila and Rebecca thoroughly process the fallout from Rebecca’s dual indiscretions.

Last but not least, Sarah and I have a question for all of you astute readers out there. One reader posted a comment in which she said that she watched A Shot at Love with some of her straight friends, and they made a bunch of negative comments about the “butch” contestants, Steffanie and Dani. Sadly, since I’m writing this blog post in the middle of the night, I can’t find that comment, so I’m sorry if I am misrepresenting what you said! (Please tell me if I am.) The point is, Sarah and I were both struck by that comment, and Sarah particularly wanted to know the following: Why do people have a problem with butches?

As the managing editor of, I want to make it clear that we are not looking to start a flame war, but this is a genuine concern of mine and of Sarah’s. It’s something I’ve given a lot of thought to, not only as a student of our culture, but as a lesbian who personally enjoys butchness (is that a word?). For Sarah, who identifies as butch, it’s a matter of both personal and political interest. We are sincerely interested in what you think about this, and we hope you’ll give us your honest (as well as thoughtful and not hateful) responses.

Hey, given that this week’s episode of Shot at Love was so weak, the least we can do is start up a stimulating discussion. Have at it!

Oh, and here’s our vlog:

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