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Lindsay Lohan Confirms Romantic Relationship with Samantha Ronson

After months of refusing to comment on the public speculation about their relationship, actress Lindsay Lohan and DJ Samantha Ronson finally publicly confirmed their relationship in a L.A. radio call-in show last night, in a short, casual exchange confirming that they've been together "a very long time."

Lohan and Ronson called into the radio show Loveline last night to chat with DJ Ted Stryker about DJ AM's recent survival of a plane crash that killed four other passengers.

Lohan mentioned on air that she initially learned of the plane crash, " "when I woke up, er, when Samantha and I woke up..."

In wrapping up the conversation a few minutes later, Stryker casually asked Lindsay, "Now, you guys, you and Samantha have been going out for how long now? Like two years? One year? Five months? Two months?" Lohan responded, "A long...a very long time."

"I hope you guys stay together, you're a very lovely looking couple," Stryker added, to which Lindsay replied, "Thank you very much."

Lohan and Ronson are among only a handful of high-profile American celebrities in same-sex relationships, including women like Ellen DeGeneres, Portia de Rossi, Cynthia Nixon, Sarah Paulson, Cherry Jones, Suze Orman, Heather Matarazzo, Leisha Hailey, and Michelle Paradise. At 22 and 31, respectively, Lohan and Ronson are among the youngest out lesbian celebrity couples in America.

In a editorial on AfterEllen.com last week called "Lindsay Lohan and the New Definition of 'Out'", we profiled Lohan and Ronson as an example of a new wave of same-sex couples who are re-defining the notion of what being "out" means.

Lohan and Ronson have accompanied each other almost everywhere for over two years now, attend public events together, wear matching rings, kiss in public, and have had their relationship captured in countless photographs. They have even spoken out together against Gov. Sarah Palin's anti-gay stance.

They have done everything but verbally confirm their relationship — until now.

Lohan and Ronson at TV Guide's Sixth Annual Emmys After Party

But does acknowledging the relationship with words still matter in an era in which the grocery-shopping, event-attending, ring-wearing and hand-holding behavior of same-sex couples is now reported on almost as often as heterosexual couples?

While saying it out loud is arguably no longer a requirement to being out, words still have power — especially to the vast majority of straight Americans for whom the presumption of heterosexuality is so great they simply won't believe a same-same relationship is true unless it is openly declared.

This is one of the reasons Ellen de Generes and Portia de Rossi's "Wal-Mart wedding" makes such a difference — it makes the romantic nature of their relationship both appealing and unavoidable to mainstream America.

Lohan's simple and low-key verbal confirmation of what most lesbian and bi women already knew may well do the same for a younger generation.

9/24 MORNING UPDATE: Lohan refuted her father's recent anti-gay and anti-Samantha comments via an email from her rep to Page Six saying, "Samantha is not evil, I care for her very much and she's a wonderful girl. She loves me, as I do her."

9/24 EVENING UPDATE: Lohan's publicist is now denying that Lohan confirmed a romantic relationship with Ronson, telling TV Guide that Lindsay was simply confirming they have a close friendship. This spin on the radio conversation is not supported by Lohan's statements, however (no one confirms how long they have "been together" with a friend).

In related news, pop star Clay Aiken has just come out on the cover of People magazine.

Listen to the Loveline radio interview and read
"Lindsay Lohan and the New Definition of Out"

Lezliemac's picture

some might call it progress

I call it normalization. Even if everybody knew about it, it's still good news and additional visibility to have a normal celesbian couple come out, in such an undertoned, uneventful manner.

Even with the new definition of 'out', some still need to hear it out loud. Or softly spoken on a radio show. It all comes down to hearing it. They're softly out. And loud in visibility.

You go girls !

PenniesFrHeaven's picture

Yay! Lindsay's confirmation!

This is Grrrrr-eat to finally hear about! I am a HUGE Lindsay Lohan fan and the fact that she has FINALLY broadcast her relationship verbally with Samantha Ronson has totally made my day. I think that is so why she has had so much trouble in the past, for the public to witness. Girl just needed to admit who she is. Awesome and damn, is that girl hot!!
marcia marcia marcia's picture

  I think its fantastic

 

I think its fantastic and they look gorgeous together. Lindsay is very beautiful. Some of things her hideous father is blogging about them is shameful.

raven's picture

Her father is just mad

Her father is just mad because she gets better p**sy than he does....
rae's picture

Personally, as much as I

Personally, as much as I admire Ellen and every proud gay girl who has gone before I will give serious kudos to Lindsay. This is a quite incredible thing she has done and I hope everybody realises it. A young actress with her whole career before her saying 'I'm in a lesbian realtionship and I'm fine with that' is a quite incredible thing. She's a being a bit of a maverick. Who'd have thunk it?
JT's picture

I hope

I just hope it won't ruin her career. Did she do any major movie ever since the rumours about her being gay started?

Somehow I doubt that Hollywood is very progressive concerning the matter.

And with a President Palin it definetely won't be in the future..

It's quite "brave" of Lindsay to come out none the less. And I really like that she treats the subject as if it is something totally normally and needs no specific statement.

After all, straight people are not being asked: So, you are straight, then? 

not only but also's picture

ruining her career...

Because her career had been going so well up until the gay rumours started this year. You know, the whole underage-Disney-star-on-crack-and-falling-out-of-cars-without-her-knickers-on-and-nearly-being-sacked-from-"Herbie"-before-entering-rehab scene had really been paying off for her up until then. Yep. Being gay could just ruin that. 

Not Only But Also

JT's picture

well,

apparently, you can be a bad girl in the business as long as you are a straight girl.. cause bad behaviour causes good media coverage.. 

that's cause it's all so nice and hypocritical

aliasmadonna's picture

i find it wonderful!!!!

The world would be a better place if we just accept people for who they are. These two ladies are in love and it is great!

I hope the word"out" and others will disappear in the future.

Diane

Munchkin_licker's picture

Yes, definately though we

Yes, definately though we all thought we knew, and it's no one's business but their own, fair play to them.

:)

Leenaomi's picture

It's nice

It's great for lesbian visibility. But don't think it's a requirement to say it out loud when your "lifestyle" is already stating it !
Ed Would's picture

The New Old?

The 'new' definition of being 'out'.  What utter tripe.

Now that my morning bile is out of the way, I actually find this whole Lohan/Ronson thing sort of cute.  Which makes me question myself.  Soon I'll be obsessing over Perez Hilton or something...

[brb, going to read some good wholesome non-celebritarian books.]

frosted_fraggle's picture

Seeing as

we live in a society where rumors about Lohan trying to romance Michael Phelps are launched in the media the very day she leaves a comment reading 'guess who loves you' on 'galpal' Ronson's my space site ... I guess we still need verbal affirmation for people to wrap their heads around even the possibility of two women being in a romantic relationship. Or maybe it's just women who look like Lohan?

On the other hand some German tabloit included Lohan and Ronson in their 'celebrity relationship check' months ago. And what do you know - Ronson was one of only two celebrity partners deemed a 'prince charming' rather than a 'frog'.

tess's picture

oui. well put.

oui. well put.
Jessy's picture

Sam and Lindsay..

I am glad it's finally officially out there. I hope these two will be very happy!
eve_jig_it's picture

I told

I told my ‘straight’ girl-friend the other day that Lindsay Lohan was dating a girl and her response to that comment was, “you wish luv”, hehe.

Oh how little she knows.
imthey's picture

Perhaps...

Perhaps the simple confirmation of how long they have been together was in part because of Lindsay's comments the other day regarding the tragic events that led to the hospitalization of her and Samantha's good friend Adam "DJ AM" in which Lindsay via her MySpace blog said that "we must all treasure each and every moment- and be thankful for what we have..." Perhaps it was this wake up call that has made her more open, whereby she still believes that it's no one's business and that she's happy, but while she won't make official proclamations she won't bother denying the relationship when asked point blank.

It still goes to show that we are in a new era of "out"... where no one has to actually ever utter the words I'm Gay in order to formally be considered out in Hollywood. Now it's just a case of live your life happily and openly and not care about what is written or said about you and thus you are living your life "out".  And perhaps that is the best way to show the rest of the world that the LGBT community is just like everyone else, simply wanting to live our lives and be afforded the same rights as everyone else... after all as Sarah pointed out in her article Visibility Matters: Lindsay Lohan and the New Definition of "Out" "Straight celebrities don't announce their heterosexuality, we just make assumptions from their behavior."

We'll have to see how this story plays out via the rest of the media as well as what Lindsay and/or Samantha do or say (or perhaps don't do or say) next. 

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Lowell's picture

out

i don't buy this "new" out b.s. it's not hard to say that you don't want to label yourself, but still admit that you're in a relationship with someone. in fact, this is how many people do it, especially those who are new to being gay, don't like labels, dont know what exactly they are, or just like to remain open, 

trypr's picture

My thoughts exactly.

My thoughts exactly.
Traveler's picture

...

Wasn't DJ Stryker the dj for the Ellen Degeneres show last season? And I seem to remember reading that Ms. Ronson dj'ed at Ellen's 50 b-day party - along with a bunch of others. Small world out there in Hollywood lesboland ...

At any rate, it is clear from the clip that Ronson and Lohan were talking to someone they know well and are comfortable with as opposed to selling the "story" to some magazine.  And I like that the interview had next to nothing to do with their relationship but was mostly about the friends who had gotten hurt.

Lindsay, Lindsay - for once listen to your mother - fly commercial! Small planes and musicians don't mix!

frosted_fraggle's picture

Good point

about them not selling the story as I remember reports back in June that OK Magazine had offered Lohan $ 1 Million for an exclusive coming out interview. Bravo for doing it her way instead.
itsonlymagic's picture

Good on them

Maybe now people will be quiet about how it's all "attention-seeking," which I've always thought was ridiculous. Wanting creepy photographers to follow you around and ask you to kiss for a picture? I don't think so. They've had to deal with a lot of crap, but more power to them for saying what they want when they choose to, not when they media demands. They look so happy together in those pictures.
FS's picture

Cool

I'm glad that disbelieving straight people can't deny it anymore, even in the face of blatant couple-y behaviour... and as much as it's brilliant that they don't/shouldn't have (or want) to do any kind of formal announcement, this subtle confirmation will mean a lot to many people.

Despite my better judgement, I'm actually quite taken with the whole 'transformation of Lindsay' story and her emergence as a surprise lesbian favourite.  Particularly as her new stability seems to be due in some part to Ronson's influence.  Good luck to 'em!

 

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pancreas's picture

Yay! It's fitting and

Yay! It's fitting and commendable that she would confirm in such a low-key way.
sannedewit87's picture

Really great

I think this is really great news!!! Now i'm wondering, since Lindsay hasn't been doing any interviews lately (that i know of) if she's gonna talk openly about her relationship??? Probably wishfull thinking right....
Natazzz's picture

Yes, it does

Sarah wrote:
But does acknowledging the relationship with words still matter in an era in which the grocery-shopping, event-attending, ring-wearing and hand-holding behavior of same-sex couples is now reported on almost as often as heterosexual couples?

Yes, it does.

At least, it does to me. And it will continue to matter, until there is more than a handfull of out celebrities.

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rebelzz's picture

One thing - Lindsay always

One thing - Lindsay always looks so happy when she's with Sam. I think they're really in love.
JasmeenKru's picture

Good for her! Wasn't much

Good for her! Wasn't much into Lindsay before but i'll be a huge fan now :D.
monica_ca's picture

So I've got to say....

I had a dream about this exact thing last night....kinda eerie.....
Nat's picture

Samantha's 31.

Samantha's 31.
rebelzz's picture

I realise the age difference

I realise the age difference is always quite large with celebrity lesbian couples - Ellen and Portia have a 15 year age gap, Melissa and Tammy are 13 years apart, and Sam / Lindsay's age difference is only 9. Interesting to note.
Bianca's picture

I'm really proud of

I'm really proud of Lindsay, Her and Samantha are just adorable together. I really wish them all the luck in the world, and I hope they stay together. <3

~ Bianca

ysubassoon's picture

Welcome to the team, Lindsay.

Here are your cargo shorts, rainbow toolbelt, and the keys to your very own U-Haul.  An invitation to a potluck will be forthcoming.  Sam, the toaster oven is in the mail.

We're glad to have you on board. I hope the two of you have years of happiness together.

"Brains grow love."--H. H. the Dalai Lama

Hollywood Marie's picture

Hilarious

That made me laugh.  Nice one.

Yay for Lindsay and Samantha!!

alittle's picture

wonderful!

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Ariann's picture

I have to say

Its always nice to have  hot women coming to our side. I get tired of people thinking of us girls as the (butch type) I am not saying there is nothing wrong with being a butch. I am just tired of people thinking lesbians are more butchy then femme.
Amy Jo's picture

Finally...

I’m pleased Lindsay finally confirmed all the rumors. Now there is no reason for me to doubt her. And to answer the fabulous Ms. Warn’s question, yes word confirmation does still mean something to a few of us. In a world filled with such unreliable media, I prefer to get my information from the source. Heck, I’m still on the fence about Jorja Fox. I have my guesses, but until she confirms them, they are just that. In my short 25 years of existence, I've found that assumptions only make an ass out of you and me. But I’ll be damned if we aren’t all guilty! Except, I'd like to think that most of use don't print ours in a magazine!  

"I hate people, they hate me. So doesn't that classify as a healthy, functioning relationship?"

gooby's picture

I honestly don't think it

I honestly don't think it matters if you confirm it or not and I think that's why it kind of just ... I think Lindsay was just waiting for someone to ask her directly and she felt honest and truthful about. 

Plus, she said that "Sam and I woke up..." which kind of gave it away too :D

I think Lindsay's just at a point in her relationship with Sam that she just doesn't care if people find out. She's in love, she's really really happy and it shows. It's been on her face for months now, she's glowing, she's happy and in love.

Also thanks to the interviewer for not using the words "gal pal". I much prefer the fun term "lady friend" :D somehow that's less annoying than "gal pal".

Batman's picture

"gal pal"

how much do I love "gal pal" - if I see that in a tabloid ever again I will stab someone in the jaw. I actually heard someone refer to Portia as Ellens "gal pal"!!! wtf.  screw it... I'm gonna introduce my girlfriend as my "fuckmate".

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busysleeping's picture

"gal pal"

Werd up, friend.

There's condescending and then there's just effing ridonkulous. I think I can safely say "gal pal" falls under the latter. 

robo1's picture

"fuckmate"

LOVE it. i think i'll do that too.
Amy M's picture

In related news

In related news, the sky is blue, water is wet, and the economy sucks now.
notshane's picture

You and me both, Amy M :)

You and me both, Amy M :) But for some of my friends, it'll still be a "bolt out of the blue" [roll eyes]
emily hartl's picture

a very tasteful delivery, li-lo.

hats off to my favorite ceLESbrity couple.

Que9's picture

:)

:) this makes me happy. i love how she confirmed it. i mean in my opinion she was already out. but to people who dont pay attention, i like how she verbally confirmed it; no big spectacle, no cover story, just answering a simple question in an honest casual coversation. kudos lindsay.
AnnaRG's picture

i'm overjoyed

this excites me a lot. I hope that more closeted younger women or even men can now feel more comfortable coming out, now that one of America's most popular younger IT girls has. I am already out and proud, but if this was happening 5 years ago, then i would have been less scared, and more confident about it. I know lindesay was having many problems in the past with rehab and all that junk, but look at her now! She is glowing. and i'm not going to say that it's all thanks to Samantha, but she had to have something to do with it! I really hope the media doesn't get on her ass about it anymore. She is now just like hundreds of gays and lesbians all around the world, just because she's famous and a teen idol, shouldn't make it any different.
Kimmaayy..!'s picture

That's awesome!

I loved her before she was gay, and before she was a drug  addict, alcoholic, crazy person, but this is the icing on the cake!

Memoriae's picture

Aww :)

I am glad they finally officially came out to the public ^__^

I loved the nonchalant way as well.

Glad to see Lindsey back on track :D

andreea's picture

Did you know that she is a

Did you know that she is a lesbian? I had no idea, but as far as I can see I am the last one who finds out. Anyway, I can't say that I am happy for them, but I hope to have a good life together.

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Marianne's picture

:)

I think its great that we see more celesbians in the media :)
visibility matters!!! AND it doenst hurt that they are a hot couple ;)