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Spread of ´LESBIANISM´ article lol..from the Middle East !!!

first here is the link http://www.khaleejtimes.com/DisplayArticleNew.asp?section=theuae&xfile=data/theuae/2005/december/theuae_december687.xml

 

Mixed reactions on KT's report on lesbians
Voices by Meraj Rizvi, Eman Al Baik and Amira Agarib

23 December 2005

DUBAI — The report on the spread of lesbianism in the UAE, especially in 'women's only' educational institutions, published in Khaleej Times yesterday has evoked mixed responses — with many hailing the boldness of the University of Sharjah students for highlighting the issue.

But a few people opined that such 'abnormal behaviour' in women should be kept under wraps in order to protect their future and family reputation.

Khaleej Times spoke to a cross section of people, particularly from the Arab world, who admitted that 'female homosexuality' had existed in their societies, but never surfaced publicly because people chose not to discuss such issues openly.

However, it needs to be dealt with through debates, discussions, awareness programmes, right from the school years. Hushing up the matter is no longer the solution. Reprimanding and punishing women with lesbian tendencies is not the solution either, they said.

Rashida Badri, former assistant director of Private Education in Dubai warned against such behaviour and open discussions, " because the UAE is a conservative society and hearing about such issues will hurt people, specially the girls themselves and their families."

"I admit it is a serious problem and we have to find a solution. However, punishing girls with such abnormal sexual tendencies is not the solution. Lesbianism is a disease and it needs to be treated medically or through therapies and counselling and even by discussing the problem, but I do not agree that such an issue be discussed so openly like in the West where it is not considered a social problem. Both female and male homosexuality has found social acceptance in the West, but it cannot find such acceptance in the Islamic countries," she said, hoping the authorities will deal with the problem more carefully.

A Counsellor at the Ajman University of Science and Technology says the phenomenon is not common in the UAE and there are probably very few women who have such abnormality, since most others strictly conform to the Islamic teachings and culture.

"Personally, I have only one such case brought to my knowledge at the university so far, but the university officials monitored the problem closely and one of the girls, the dominant partner, was treated and later moved to another hostel," she said.

She said that universities have qualified women staff supervisors and social workers to monitor the female students and to prevent any negative behavioral traits among them.

Hissa Abdul Rahman bint Mohammed Al Madfa, a member of the Sharjah Consultative Council and a former educationist admitted the existence of the problem in the society, which she thought was five per cent.

She said the Family Committee of the Council listed this issue in its agenda and actually started discussing it with the Mothers Council of the Sharjah Educational Zone. The Mothers Council will investigate the issue including the causes in order to derive solutions that would help eliminate it, she added.

Hissa said that monitoring the actual magnitude of the problem should begin with surveying such cases in schools. "These cases can be easily discovered in schools by the administration by observing the behaviour of students. After knowing who are involved in abnormal behavior, the school should investigate the causes behind the behaviour by directly talking to the students and their parents, she explained.

Reports should be submitted to the Mothers council and Family Committee to collaboratively recommend the necessary solutions. Widespread programmes that aim to educate the family including mothers and fathers as well as young women about the existence of such cases and how to prevent their occurrence should be carried out.

"Parents should be made aware of the seriousness of the issue and the probable complications when their daughter comes up with a boyish attitude in dressing and appearance," said Hissa.

" Unfortunately, parents of young women with abnormality either keep a distance from their daughters or they are ignorant to the extent that they think it is a kind of harmless fashion."

An Islamic Education schoolteacher said on condition of anonymity that she received some questions from her girl students on different gender related matters but none was about this particular problem.

However, if the problem does exist , it should be openly and daringly discussed to prevent it from developing into a phenomenon in society, she added.

Dr Hussein Mubarak, a psychiatrist at Zulekha Hospital who hails from Iraq referred to Lesbianism as a sexual perversion and said it was not a new phenomenon. "There has been a trend, but nobody talks about it openly, or consult a psychiatrist for help. Sometimes, it is the family members who consult us on abnormal social behaviour among their girls which is manifested in forms of depression, anxiety and abstinence from marriage."

Dr Mubarak believes that such problems can be dealt with medically and by discussing the issue with the affected women. Medically, we treat such women with the' behavioral aversion therapy,' a treatment administering drugs intravenously, the psychiatrist disclosed.

He said the growing cases of female homosexuality was not a problem limited to the UAE or the Gulf countries, it is a global problem. While some societies have given it their lawful acceptance, the Muslim world cannot allow its blatant prevalence, he added.

He refuted the suggestion that segregation of boys and girls from an early age in schools and in social gatherings in the UAE resulted in this problem. "Segregation is not the issue in the western countries, but such trend continues to prevail there." he said.

Among the factors responsible for this increasing problem is that the UAE society failed to keep pace with the fast-paced economic progress.

However, he stressed the need for sex education to be made part of the academic curricula in schools in order to kill the curiosity of young men and women about sex.


linzadaisical's picture

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That's scary. Its just scary.. This doesn't directly affect me, but I'm scared for the girls who end up drugged up because they are "diseased".
vivieny's picture

More recent article:Woman to Woman Relationships in the Kingdom

Woman to Woman Relationships at Some Schools
Hayat Kharbash, Arab News
ABHA, 21 February 2007 — In a scene that many would describe as disgusting and contrary to the religious and cultural traditions of the Kingdom, sitting intimately in a corner of a classroom at a high school in Abha is Fawziya and Uhoud — two young female “lovers.”
The two girls speak romantically and exchange kisses in a relationship that is forbidden in Islam. Fawziya is in the final year of high school. She is engaged to a man and will be getting married in summer after graduation.
“I’m not bothered what people at school say about me. I’m just looking for an emotional relationship and I found that in Uhoud,” said Fawziya, adding that having love and feeling is the key to life.
“My relationship with my family isn’t very good and I don’t get the love and attention that I should be getting from them. My family is very disconnected and there are a lot of family problems,” she said, adding that she is not paying much attention to her coming marriage. Rather she says her attention is fixed on Uhoud.
Uhoud, on the other hand, feels similarly and also pays very little attention to other students who frown at her relationship with Fawziya.
Fawziya and Uhoud’s affair is not an isolated one. There are other girls involved in similar romances. Reem and Nura is one such couple, whose relationship began with a smile and an exchange of gifts. The relationship grew stronger and now both find it difficult to separate from each other. Their love for each other is so intense that Nura cried for Reem just before the beginning of the midterm seven-day school holidays.
There are other examples of such relationships blooming behind the walls of schools run by the Education Ministry. Sawsan Al-Ghamdi, a college student, said that the college squares, where students take breaks, have “lovers’ corners” where girls kiss and hug each other.
“What is surprising is that there was a married girl in her seventh month of pregnancy who was pursuing other girls to satisfy her sexual needs. Administration at colleges do carry out random inspections to prevent such behavior from happening,” said Al-Ghamdi.
Aisha Al-Qahtani, a student of Arabic language at the College of Education in Abha, said that she feels shocked at what she sees sometimes happening in colleges. Al-Qahtani said that some relationships develop into becoming very intimate. “I blame a lack of awareness among families toward their daughters,” she said.
Such relationships are strongly objected to, especially by students from religious backgrounds. Religious observant students refuse to accept that sort of behavior. When they see couples sitting intimately together they disturb them by talking to them, giving them positive advice and letting them know that such behavior is wrong.
An Asir Education Department source said that the ministry has not outlined punishment for students who are caught in such relationships and added that the problem is not a new one and that it exists in other countries as well.
“A student who is not receiving enough love and care from her family tends to look for love in other students. At first she will admire a girl’s clothes or living standards. After that the relationship deepens and they exchange gifts and perfume to express their admiration for each other,” she said.
Latifa Saleh, a social specialist in Abha, has received at least 10 cases involving girls having strong feelings for other girls. In a phone interview with Arab News, she said that same gender relationships are quite old and that they had become isolated to recently resurface again.
“Families do not pay enough attention to their daughters. Such girls need help and treatment. This is a growing problem that we are now seeing in our schools and colleges,” she said, adding that school administrators need to address the problem and speak to individuals involved. “If that doesn’t work, then they should be transferred to a specialist for treatment.”
Woman preacher Layla Mahran said that such relationships can potentially develop further and become physically intimate. “They are against Islam and considered to be sexually perverse. The relationship between a man and a woman is considered normal and I am talking about marriage here because that is part of human nature. The relationship between a man and a man or a woman and a woman is frowned upon by our religion and considered a big sin.”
Mahran added that the problem is beginning to spread and said that she knows of a teacher who resigned because she was against some of the stuff that was happening inside the high school where she worked.
 

Sally10825's picture

I think I am lucky!

After reading this article, can't think but how lucky I am! I am able to live in a place where people accept me and don't have problems with me being a lesbian.  Even though my mother is not really accepting that "problem" but at least she didn't send me to some place to be "cured".  I feel bad for them.  Hope they can find a way to be themselves.
sarah-stockholm's picture

It means its sooo natural

Its good or bad is another is discussion.

But Muslim should think its so natural to be gay.Its happening and it will be there.I find male-female relation very unnatural.Whats common in them.....nothing.Their love is illusion to reproduce childern,once childern are there love vanishes.This is a trick from nature.

Come on world understand this.

Cailean's picture

Totally right on there!

Sounds like what a true modern Amazon would say! That is why there are terms like sisterhood and brotherhood because only in that communities the individual can develop to full strength. It's the same what i say about men and weapons. Men are far to unstable to wield that kind power, the danger of abuse is to great to allow men to carry weapons. ... :D
julesss's picture

for Stockholm Syndrome...

LOL... i will wait for your book.
gitd's picture

for Stockholm Syndrome... (2)

surely, a propagandist material...

and i guess you'll just have to initiate the crusade to gay empowerment in your country if no one has ever done it yet.. i believe you'll have lots of supporters to follow..

it'll be a challenging mission to prove to religious authorities and reluctant governments that homo/bisexualism is not a disease to be treated but a phenomenon that is supposed to be explained so that people may understand it, appreciate it, live it!!!

how many times do we have to remind them that every living organism is unique in some way as a result of diversity in nature? even wild animals are given welfare. so why shouldn't we be accepted and given the right to live they way it's supposed to be?

* complex as it seems, life is simply amazing *

may89's picture

oh man this is sad!i love

oh man this is sad!

i love living here in the middleeast, but hate it at the same time...

lol i'm gettin depressed readin this article ...

leilaleila's picture

well i've lived in the middle east

and let me tell you that lesbians and gay men exist. some of them are married, some aren't. but they find ways to get together. it's one of those untalked about "secrets."

I also know "western" women (Americans) who were institutionalized in the 80s for being lesbians. They were medicated and one was given shock treatment. That was only 20 years ago. So let's not look too down on our noses at less "enlightened" cultures. Everything takes time.

la lune's picture

LOL

hey guys its not as bad as it seems :p actually it's hilarious when they say that there are only a few incidents that were observed HAH! cos I lived in this country all my life and graduated from the uni. mentioned this year and the ratio is roughly 2 "at least bi-curious" girls to 1 hetero girl in ANY university in ths country ^^ 

every girl had at least one admirer or romantic relationship with girls(perhaps of the innocent kind?) during highschool (even heard of elementary kids hookin up nowadays) of course half of these eventually get married but hey at least they provide visibilty :)

many parents don't have the faintest clue about what their daughters are up to so it's not that hard to maintain a relationship..except for the fact that we as locals (some of us) have more boundaries and crappy traditions..but it's a great modern country and i have a great partner so i ain't complaining ^^

 "we are each of us angels with one wing..and we can only fly by embracing each other.."

ginaji's picture

To me the question is

How many are situational lesbians? You know, they can't date, they have hormones, so they go ahead and experiment. Then some succumb to tradition, others were actually straight the whole time.

 

How many true queer girls are left?

 

I doubt it's something the parents know nothing about, they were raised in the same culture and probably did the same things. They were probably situational though and would happily marry off their girls and get the problem "fixed".

la lune's picture

true queers scarcity

i know what you mean its kind of frustrating here but i think that if you find anyone over 24 who is still active they probably are real lesbians..

I didn't mean that parents didn't know about homosexuality, its just that it never crosses their mind that their daughter is doing it with a girl (unless she's very obvious about it..not a smart thing to do) , its easier to go to a "friend's" house than go shopping for example..because it's the norm..

"we are each of us angels with one wing..and we can only fly by embracing each other.."

brutal_romance's picture

it made my skin crawl

yeah i knew one girl who was forced in therapy and drugged to the point of numbing her brain to kill this 'perversion'. living in the UAE is hell when you are gay, i just pray i dont become a nagative statistic anytime soon.
Volkova84's picture

argh! :S

whenever i read such articles my blod starts boiling in my veins&i get straightly angry! the ones who consider it as "abnormal" are in fact abnormal by saying such a crap! if tmen there treat women as submissive and women dont have much to say coz men are as their "mastares" and women should only please them and no one askes women what they want..so please! dont be surprised women turn to women..in general, omg that would be a bit hit in their balls if all the Arabic women in the end "convereted" into lesbians..muahaha.. may love rule and intolerance disappear!
Luni's picture

Stupidity

Why can't they just let us live! I mean what the heck, if someone wants to be gay, then so be it! It's none of their business in the first place! :@

It just makes me so angry & sad..Sometimes I just hate living in the UAE -.-

 

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