Ok well we all know that people just assume that if ur gay u gotta have short hair, n dress like a biker or a preppy guy and I am walking proof that you cannot judge a book by it's cover.It's unbelievable how ignorant people are when it comes to the GAY WORLD...I love a wife beater and ripped jeans with my hair up in a pony tail but I love to put on somethin sexy evey now and then...The today lesbian is classy and chic and ruff around the edges?? What do you think ladies??
because these days it's getting harder to tell who's a lesbian/bi and who's straight. A lot of lesbian/bi women don't fit into the stereotypes, short hair, no make up, mans clothes etc. A maried mum with kids is just as likely to be gay.
Lesbians aren't all the typical stereotype anymore. We could be butch, femme, or anything in between. The titles 'butch' and 'femme' don't describe all lesbians. We are as diverse as anyone else in this world.
Someone with a short, spiky haircut, braids or a fade of some sort (if your black), flannel, dresses like a man, hates all men, yet are used by men for pleasure. Is only a lesbian because she can't get a man, ugly.
My today's lesbian is smart, sexy, chic, maybe a little rough, and is like any other woman---except she's into the ladies.
i am with ya Road Hazard i too love to run around in wife beaters and guys board shorts all the time b/c i dress for comfort first fashion second but at the same time if i go out somewhere i like to dress sexy b/c it makes me feel sexy so i guess todays lesbian is all about what she feels comforable looking like
more intellectual. we've gone past the idea of having to look masculine in order to be identified. it's more on the attitude. i feel we are more empowered with all the support that we are getting the world over. so we dress up whatever way we want and still exude our persona.
with the exception of course of the shoes. i dont' know how to call it, but whatever dress you are wearing, there's always the urge to use the best darn lesbian looking shoes..lol!
My opinion is that, in a multifaceted world, where we are praising individuality, there is not only one "today's lesbian". If you look accross the total spectrum, there are many different expressions of self.
"You and I wear the dangerous looseness of doom and find it becoming. Life, for eternal us, is now and now is much to busy being a little more than everything to seem anything, catastrophic included.."
I totally agree with you Spice......i don't believe that there is only one "TODAY'S LESBIAN" and i think that if we start putting all lesbians of today under the one description we are in a way thinking like the narrow minded straight people of 15-20 years ago who decided that all lesbian had short hair, wore mens clothing and acted masculine... which was not always the case!! i think most peolpe today whether gay or straight are just being individuals by wearing and doing whatever feels comfortable to them...
I happen to agree with both Spice and Emma224...and yes, I see a pattern to all of the above responses as well. Nice going ladies...I'm glad to see that the majority of us feel as if "Today's Lesbian" is anything she wants to be, looks anyway she wants to look, acts anyway she wants to act, loves anyone she wants to love....and so on and so on. Labels are the things we (society) should never want to use to indentify ourselves. All women...well all people...for that matter...have their own spirit and lifestyle...so yeah...I agree..."how can we all fit one description..."
I love that today's lesbian doesn't have a particular look. Sure there are some who are more visibily gay than others, but by no means is there a sole image. But I do think that there is something about lesbians that gives us a look. It's the eyes. You can usually read it in the eyes of other women if they are into women, or just even open to the possibilty. My friends call it a "quack vibe." We can usually tell if a women has quack in her eyes. So, Today's Lesbian has that look in their eyes.
I think today people are more open to possibilities and it really isnt taboo. Personally, i like dressing really "preppy" and wearing make up. Nobody would suspect me being gay, and the only person i think suspects anything is my dad, (cuz we used to share a computer, and i think i've left this website up once or twice lol) but I think in today's society its hard to tell. The lesbians at my school (that i know of) are either gothy or emo (ugh) or just dress like guys. I'm sure there are other in the closet lesbians though. It's hard to tell. Today, a lesbian can be anybody.
the today lesbian would rather call herself "queer" due to lesbophobia/the hegemony of queer politics in lesbian communities, goes well out of her way to prove she isn't a man-hater, aids in her own (and other lesbians') oppression by idolizing straight women and failing to look critically at heterosexist beauty standards, and she balks at any connection between lesbianism and radicalism and is generally indistinguishable from the average straight woman (which is her goal, after all).
When i came out to my friends, they were like omg you don't look like a dude, you don't act so masculine, i think that's the preception the straight people have. I am less masculine, but i like acting tough. I love makeup and jewelry and dressing up hahah...So i think today's lesbians are anything. You can't exactly categorize them.
I also agree with SISTERINVINCIBLE there is something about their eyes, that you can somehow distinguish from straight women, they have that 'want' and 'desire' for other women lol :P haha
I see "Today's Lesbians" as chameleons. In other words we are able to adapt to be or show anything that we want to be. Sometimes we change our colors within a day (i.e. we can wear jeans in the morning and change the oil in the car, and dress to the nines and woo and tease a lovely lady in the evening). Or sometimes the changes to our colors are more subtle and take time (i.e. in my 20's I was closeted, reserved and shy; in my 30's I burst onto into the feminest scene and screamed injustice from the highest mountaintops; in my 40's I married a beautiful woman who had children and lived so fully through the life of a family; in my 50's I grew into such a radient self confidence and glow of life knowledge; etc)
These are examples of the ever changing lesbian. We are adaptable and ever changing. One thing is for certain, whatever you "think" a lesbian is someone can always say "I am a Lesbian and that description doesn't fit me because I am unique!"
One thing is for certain every one of us is beautiful.
that you can generalize like that. I mean, there are some people you see, and just know their gay, but there are just as many that you can't tell, such as myself. I like dressing up, wearing make-up etc. but nobody would know unless i told them.
but in all seriousness i'll keep the ditto short - the diversity astounds (though i reiterate makes them hard to locate unless you have the local resources to gather in one place - which we don't here in southern IN)
~ Art is why I get up in the morning but my definition ends there. You know I don't think its fair that I'm living for something I can't even define. ~ Ani DiFranco
I'm new here as of today. I found it hard in the beginning not necessarily to come out but to be accepted in the lesbian community. I am femme and in the past when I identified as Bi it was very hard to gain the respect and trust of out lesbians. I can understand that because like all of us they dont want to be toyed with. Once I met someone, left my husband (yes that was another issue that threw respect for me out the window from 'her' circle of friends) it becamse more aparent to them that I wasnt toying but staying and creating a partnership I had never had with anyone ever in my life! Some were more reasonable than others and it can still be a battle. Anyway I AM OUT! Its been only since the beginning of 2007 but its right and I know where I belong and am most happy. CHEERS!
I'm new here as of today. I found it hard in the beginning not necessarily to come out but to be accepted in the lesbian community. I am femme and in the past when I identified as Bi it was very hard to gain the respect and trust of out lesbians. I can understand that because like all of us they dont want to be toyed with. Once I met someone, left my husband (yes that was another issue that threw respect for me out the window from 'her' circle of friends) it becamse more aparent to them that I wasnt toying but staying and creating a partnership I had never had with anyone ever in my life! Some were more reasonable than others and it can still be a battle. Anyway I AM OUT! Its been only since the beginning of 2007 but its right and I know where I belong and am most happy. CHEERS!
Congratualtions Precious14u2 for accepting yourself. Sometimes it takes awhile to get to the center of ourselves. People leave their spouses for lovers everyday. It's so common. Don't ever feel bad when something feels right. Sometimes it takes someone to open your eyes about the world around you and within you.
Today's lesbian is everything and in between. Appearance is not always a dead giveaway. I've been fooled. I'm a femme but sometimes want to act tomboyish b/c of the freedom it comes with it. Other days I want to act grown-up b/c I am an adult and it's fun to be mature. I have to be careful not to judge though. Yesterday my bi male friend said my gaydar has been sharpened. I think it has too. LOL. I can clock someone really good. Like another AE postee said on another forum it's all in the eyes that u know someone is Lesb or gay or bi or attracted to the same gender. To be honest we worry too much as a society what folks think. Like I told my friend, I really think LGBTQI/Unidentified labelers are the majority and straights are the minority but due to fear/hatred ruling over peeps, a lot of them will not come out . However, only in private they will if they're trying to get with someone. I suspect my Fitness trainer is a lesbian. So many hints have been dropped and comments been made.
now-a-days everyone seems to be fine with girls lovin girls, or at least in my town. lesbians today go to extremes of the stereo types like drag kings to femmes who nobody would guess they're gay. i like the lesbians today who are proud and use their "woman-ness" to get what they want from guys but at the end of the day go home to a girl. i like when the boys hit on a girl that i know is lookin past them at me. cause boys are funny, they dont know any better, put it this way
A lesbian is a woman who can dress the way she wants, let her hair down or in a poneytail, wear it short or long or everything in between. Lesbians and bi women aren't just that, they are women first and they will act and dress to match their personalities and tastes. Lesbians and bi girls of today dress the way they want because they're comfortable with their sexuality and they don't feel the need to "look" gay or bi or straight, they just wear what they like. I, myself, am kind of a punk rock chick, a little emo sometimes. I wear short hair (shaved) and dress mostly in black or with band t-shirts, but I also wear dresses or skirts and I like makeup. Most people assume I'm straight and I don,t mind, I'm bi and what I wear is only the expression of my taste in music, clothes, way of thinking. I'm different and I like it. Lesbians are different too, they don't need to look like other lesbians to feel good about themselves. The lesbian/bi- girl of today is unique and that's what so wonderful about her.
"Seize the day or die regretting the time you lost"
...is an updated version of the 1980's Canadian children's television program, "Today's Special." In this new version, the mannequin character with special powers will now be played by a lesbian, hence the change in title.
The flexibility of "today lesbians" makes it that much harder to ditinguish between a friend-friend or a i-want-want-to-get-in-your-pants friend. But, i agree with the comments...we are anything we want to be.
so color blind&deaf...
...i think it's getting tougher
We are everything and anything
Lesbians aren't all the typical stereotype anymore. We could be butch, femme, or anything in between. The titles 'butch' and 'femme' don't describe all lesbians. We are as diverse as anyone else in this world.
I guess it would be
Someone with a short, spiky haircut, braids or a fade of some sort (if your black), flannel, dresses like a man, hates all men, yet are used by men for pleasure. Is only a lesbian because she can't get a man, ugly.
My today's lesbian is smart, sexy, chic, maybe a little rough, and is like any other woman---except she's into the ladies.
~Muah!~
I agree with your
so true
lesbians today are..
more intellectual. we've gone past the idea of having to look masculine in order to be identified. it's more on the attitude. i feel we are more empowered with all the support that we are getting the world over. so we dress up whatever way we want and still exude our persona.
with the exception of course of the shoes. i dont' know how to call it, but whatever dress you are wearing, there's always the urge to use the best darn lesbian looking shoes..lol!
Today's lesbian
My opinion is that, in a multifaceted world, where we are praising individuality, there is not only one "today's lesbian". If you look accross the total spectrum, there are many different expressions of self.
"You and I wear the dangerous looseness of doom and find it becoming. Life, for eternal us, is now and now is much to busy being a little more than everything to seem anything, catastrophic included.."
Todays Lesbian
I totally agree with you Spice......i don't believe that there is only one "TODAY'S LESBIAN" and i think that if we start putting all lesbians of today under the one description we are in a way thinking like the narrow minded straight people of 15-20 years ago who decided that all lesbian had short hair, wore mens clothing and acted masculine... which was not always the case!! i think most peolpe today whether gay or straight are just being individuals by wearing and doing whatever feels comfortable to them...
I'm EVERY Woman...
I happen to agree with both Spice and Emma224...and yes, I see a pattern to all of the above responses as well. Nice going ladies...I'm glad to see that the majority of us feel as if "Today's Lesbian" is anything she wants to be, looks anyway she wants to look, acts anyway she wants to act, loves anyone she wants to love....and so on and so on. Labels are the things we (society) should never want to use to indentify ourselves. All women...well all people...for that matter...have their own spirit and lifestyle...so yeah...I agree..."how can we all fit one description..."
One size does not fit all...
Quack in her Eyes
I love that today's lesbian doesn't have a particular look. Sure there are some who are more visibily gay than others, but by no means is there a sole image. But I do think that there is something about lesbians that gives us a look. It's the eyes. You can usually read it in the eyes of other women if they are into women, or just even open to the possibilty. My friends call it a "quack vibe." We can usually tell if a women has quack in her eyes. So, Today's Lesbian has that look in their eyes.
"Enjoying Life"
I think today people are
today lesbian
the today lesbian would rather call herself "queer" due to lesbophobia/the hegemony of queer politics in lesbian communities, goes well out of her way to prove she isn't a man-hater, aids in her own (and other lesbians') oppression by idolizing straight women and failing to look critically at heterosexist beauty standards, and she balks at any connection between lesbianism and radicalism and is generally indistinguishable from the average straight woman (which is her goal, after all).
Ummmm...
She likes shagging women?
Love Pussy xx
agreed!
quack vibe?
that's funny =D
i concur with most of you, today's lesbian can be whatever she wants to be. i just wish there were more confident ones, who would actually hit on me!
Today's Lesbians . . .
All think they're Shane.
no, but seriously.
LOL
CERAK...true dat, true dat! they're all wanna-be pimps or something to that nature. haha.
Anything
When i came out to my friends, they were like omg you don't look like a dude, you don't act so masculine, i think that's the preception the straight people have. I am less masculine, but i like acting tough. I love makeup and jewelry and dressing up hahah...So i think today's lesbians are anything. You can't exactly categorize them.
I also agree with SISTERINVINCIBLE there is something about their eyes, that you can somehow distinguish from straight women, they have that 'want' and 'desire' for other women lol :P haha
Chameleons
I see "Today's Lesbians" as chameleons. In other words we are able to adapt to be or show anything that we want to be. Sometimes we change our colors within a day (i.e. we can wear jeans in the morning and change the oil in the car, and dress to the nines and woo and tease a lovely lady in the evening). Or sometimes the changes to our colors are more subtle and take time (i.e. in my 20's I was closeted, reserved and shy; in my 30's I burst onto into the feminest scene and screamed injustice from the highest mountaintops; in my 40's I married a beautiful woman who had children and lived so fully through the life of a family; in my 50's I grew into such a radient self confidence and glow of life knowledge; etc)
These are examples of the ever changing lesbian. We are adaptable and ever changing. One thing is for certain, whatever you "think" a lesbian is someone can always say "I am a Lesbian and that description doesn't fit me because I am unique!"
One thing is for certain every one of us is beautiful.
I don't think..
today's lesbians...
are hard to find?
but in all seriousness i'll keep the ditto short - the diversity astounds (though i reiterate makes them hard to locate unless you have the local resources to gather in one place - which we don't here in southern IN)
~ Art is why I get up in the morning but my definition ends there. You know I don't think its fair that I'm living for something I can't even define. ~ Ani DiFranco
We're all in the same gang...
I'm new here as of today. I found it hard in the beginning not necessarily to come out but to be accepted in the lesbian community. I am femme and in the past when I identified as Bi it was very hard to gain the respect and trust of out lesbians. I can understand that because like all of us they dont want to be toyed with. Once I met someone, left my husband (yes that was another issue that threw respect for me out the window from 'her' circle of friends) it becamse more aparent to them that I wasnt toying but staying and creating a partnership I had never had with anyone ever in my life! Some were more reasonable than others and it can still be a battle. Anyway I AM OUT! Its been only since the beginning of 2007 but its right and I know where I belong and am most happy. CHEERS!
Lesbians Everything and In Between
I'm new here as of today. I found it hard in the beginning not necessarily to come out but to be accepted in the lesbian community. I am femme and in the past when I identified as Bi it was very hard to gain the respect and trust of out lesbians. I can understand that because like all of us they dont want to be toyed with. Once I met someone, left my husband (yes that was another issue that threw respect for me out the window from 'her' circle of friends) it becamse more aparent to them that I wasnt toying but staying and creating a partnership I had never had with anyone ever in my life! Some were more reasonable than others and it can still be a battle. Anyway I AM OUT! Its been only since the beginning of 2007 but its right and I know where I belong and am most happy. CHEERS!
Today's lesbian is everything and in between. Appearance is not always a dead giveaway. I've been fooled. I'm a femme but sometimes want to act tomboyish b/c of the freedom it comes with it. Other days I want to act grown-up b/c I am an adult and it's fun to be mature. I have to be careful not to judge though. Yesterday my bi male friend said my gaydar has been sharpened. I think it has too. LOL. I can clock someone really good. Like another AE postee said on another forum it's all in the eyes that u know someone is Lesb or gay or bi or attracted to the same gender. To be honest we worry too much as a society what folks think. Like I told my friend, I really think LGBTQI/Unidentified labelers are the majority and straights are the minority but due to fear/hatred ruling over peeps, a lot of them will not come out . However, only in private they will if they're trying to get with someone. I suspect my Fitness trainer is a lesbian. So many hints have been dropped and comments been made.
today?
now-a-days everyone seems to be fine with girls lovin girls, or at least in my town. lesbians today go to extremes of the stereo types like drag kings to femmes who nobody would guess they're gay. i like the lesbians today who are proud and use their "woman-ness" to get what they want from guys but at the end of the day go home to a girl. i like when the boys hit on a girl that i know is lookin past them at me. cause boys are funny, they dont know any better, put it this way
"boys will be boys and girls will do girls!"
Simply a woman
A lesbian is a woman who can dress the way she wants, let her hair down or in a poneytail, wear it short or long or everything in between. Lesbians and bi women aren't just that, they are women first and they will act and dress to match their personalities and tastes. Lesbians and bi girls of today dress the way they want because they're comfortable with their sexuality and they don't feel the need to "look" gay or bi or straight, they just wear what they like. I, myself, am kind of a punk rock chick, a little emo sometimes. I wear short hair (shaved) and dress mostly in black or with band t-shirts, but I also wear dresses or skirts and I like makeup. Most people assume I'm straight and I don,t mind, I'm bi and what I wear is only the expression of my taste in music, clothes, way of thinking. I'm different and I like it. Lesbians are different too, they don't need to look like other lesbians to feel good about themselves. The lesbian/bi- girl of today is unique and that's what so wonderful about her.
"Seize the day or die regretting the time you lost"
Todays lesbians are hot!
"Today's Lesbian..."
?...
The flexibility of "today lesbians" makes it that much harder to ditinguish between a friend-friend or a i-want-want-to-get-in-your-pants friend. But, i agree with the comments...we are anything we want to be.