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Too lost in HER!!!

Hi girls! - I would so love it, if you could give me some advice... I think I really need:(

To make a long story short... There's this girl... And I think I might just be falling in love with her.. Well.. I know I am! She's just amazing! But the thing is, I have no clue wether or not she's gay. I don't see any "gay-signs" at all, but when we're together, I just really feel like there's something there. It's like we have these long eyecontacts, and... It's hard to explain.. But I've never felt this way before, and it's like there's something in the air when I'm with her.

We met like six months ago, when I moved into the apartment right next to her, but we never really talked up until like four weeks ago. We were both invited to a party, and we just had the best time. At one point she was touching my hand, and I swear, I thought I was gonna pass out right there on the floor!!

I don't know, maybe it's just all in my head, but I am dying to find out about her feelings.. I don't want to scare her away or make her uncomftable, but I'm very outgoing and all about just telling her how I feel about her, or maybe just that I really like her... But is that a stupid thing to do? What should I do?

 

 

 

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Submitted by
Anonymous
on November 25, 2009 - 4:56pm.
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sel_01's picture

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Submitted by
sel_01 (154 posts)
on November 25, 2009 - 6:40pm.

i think you should invite her over to your appartment and cook for her.. get to know her a little..then just as she's ready to leave and walking out the door.. grab her hand..come in close to her..tell her how beautiful you think she is..softly push her against the door and begin kissing her.. show that your confident and make the 1st move..hopefuli she'll dig ;)

and she lives in the appartment right next to you.. so im thinkin 'Fuck Buddies'! haha lol omg im sooo dirrrrty!

hope ive helped..but knowing me, ive probli made things worse thoo! gooodluck neways :)

Leenaomi's picture

...

Submitted by
Leenaomi (277 posts)
on November 25, 2009 - 7:13pm.

Someone have mad skills and a tone of confidence. I wouldn't mind being your neighbor at all.

 

sel_01's picture

haha

Submitted by
sel_01 (154 posts)
on November 25, 2009 - 7:17pm.
haha loll... come on over ;)
Leenaomi's picture

I'll book the next flight

Submitted by
Leenaomi (277 posts)
on November 25, 2009 - 7:33pm.

What's the address or you might come pick me up at the airport !?

Just messing with you. lol.

But come to think of it, it would of be the crazyest thing I ever do.

Rapid Hope Loss's picture

Oh my fuckkkkkk.. You

Submitted by
Rapid Hope Loss (56 posts)
on November 25, 2009 - 9:42pm.

Oh my fuckkkkkk..

You would be the best person to date, like, ever. 

Linda's picture

hmm yeah maybe just leave a

Submitted by
Linda (175 posts)
on November 25, 2009 - 7:06pm.
hmm yeah maybe just leave a note under her door or something saying you enjoyed spending time with her at that party and invite her over to yours for dinner? :)

i wouldnt really tell her how u feel this time, just use it to get to know her better and maybe try to find out if she has a boyfriend/ had a boyfriend or anything u can that might indicate shes not straight :)
Leenaomi's picture

getting to know her first

Submitted by
Leenaomi (277 posts)
on November 25, 2009 - 7:16pm.
Just find a way to spend more time with her. Try getting to know her a bit more before saying anything.
Jamie's picture

Gay?

Submitted by
Jamie (167 posts)
on November 25, 2009 - 8:17pm.
Yeah, I would definitely say that the first step (after getting to know her) is finding out whether or not she's interested in women. That's something that you could bring up pretty easily, and without the investment of divulging your deep feelings for her. If it turns out she's available and plays for your team, the rest can come in time. =)
honey's picture

Get to know her first. 

Submitted by
honey (653 posts)
on November 25, 2009 - 9:56pm.

Get to know her first.  Talk to her about your past relationships to get her to open up about hers.  I had a similar situation to yours happen and I added the girl on facebook.  Her profile says she only likes guys, so I stopped liking her romantically but she and I are still friends.  I have found that doing that can be a great way to find out the orientation of a girl who doesn't want to talk about it.  So, give both of those a shot first and if she says she is gay/bi/bi-curious, perhaps invite her over for dinner or something.  =)  Good luck!

Audrey's picture

get to know her

Submitted by
Audrey (34 posts)
on November 26, 2009 - 11:21pm.
no matter her sexual orientation. seriously, get to know her as a friend first and just see what happens. even if she's not gay, you never know what'll happen. maybe she'll see the light ;)

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