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calling for your stories!

 Hi there!

I am interested in your lesbian/bi/trans/questioning/queer stories! I am a writer, and I want to generate a collection of short stories all under a central lesbian/queer women theme. I want the fantastic, the unbelievable and the out of this world. But, more than any of that, I want what has mattered to you.  I want what’s real, what has changed your life. You give me the raw details, and i'll write a non fiction peice about it!

So. In what ways did being gay change your life? In what way did it all stay the same? I want to hear about your first love, your first time, your first heart break. Maybe it was your 7th love that stuck with you. Unrequited love and reckless abandon. I want it all. You have a story, and I want to write about it. It is my sincere belief that we are all only stories. So be honest and share you stories with me. I promise to honour them with sincerity.

Here are some questions/ points to consider and comment on:

-          Your coming out story

-          Your family/friends reactions

-          How you knew you were gay

-          Your first girlfriend

-          Your first heart break

-          What hasn’t changed with you coming out

-          Does being in a relationship change how you feel about your sexuality

-          Being out vs. Privacy vs. Activism

-          Violence or homophobia/ heterosexist issues you’ve faced

This is just a starting point- I’m interested in anything you have to say that’s queer related, good or bad, positive or negative.

Other things you can think of to include are you age (or age range), how out you are, your name, whether or not  you’d like me to email you back, if you’d prefer I don’t email you, how you’d like to be addressed like first name, initials, nickname, whatever (And at the top of each piece I am hoping to say this piece inspired by:_____), and anything else you think I should know.

  

To make this a little more comfortable for you, here’s a bit about me:

                My name is Meg, I’m 23, and I’ve been writing all my life.  I came out about two years ago.  I’m starting this project for a couple reasons. First I don’t think we have enough stories about our lives and our experiences. Second, I am applying to Masters Programs where I need to submit a collection of work. I can and do generate my own ideas and stories, but (and this is point 3) I want to be a creative non-fiction writer.  I completed my BA studying Social Justice. I have learned about problems all over the world, and I could quote you stats, but this doesn’t change anything. We are not moved by numbers. We are, however, moved by stories. In fact, I believe that we are all only stories. I think the world can change if we share our stories, our selves, with the world. (Yes, I really am that idealistic.)

Anyway, here is a short sample of my writing; This is an except from a story I wrote called She Knew the Songs. (It’s a piece I wrote about a woman who falls in love with a woman, though she didn’t know she could. I hope it will help you understand that I will do my best to ensure you’re stories are treated respectfully, and written well. )

As her fingers traced along my jaw line, down my neck, skimming my body, the swirls and loops that decorated their tips whispered to my skin. They told the secrets of pleasure, ten times over. My nervous hands tried to shout confidence, but the shaking betrayed them. I wondered: Could she tell? Could she taste it in my skin? Was my skin sweeter, never having been kissed free of its innocence? Was it salty, never washed over by someone else’s tongue? Was she searching my body for the greasy trails left by another’s fingerprints? There were none to be found. I would tell her this, whisper the confession of my ignorance, but as her fingers danced along my skin I couldn’t bear to separate my lips from hers.
I looked for cues: not confident in what came next, I followed her lead. My shirt, her shirt: like a dance. I let her guide me across the room. I didn’t resist, didn’t ask her to slow down or explain the rules of this new game. Maybe I should have, but I was caught up in the playing, thought I’d learn as the game went on. She had clearly played before. Her touch told me she knew the songs.
 THANK YOU!!!

letty-jane's picture

also...

my email address is lettyjanegrace@gmail.com . email me if you have a story to share!

Melissa Hsu's picture

not out to mum and dad but to every one else lol

Your coming out story

 

 

-          Your family/friends reactions

 

OH MY GOD, DOES GAYS REALLY EXISTS?

 

-          How you knew you were gay

 

DONNO - I FORGUT - I ALSO FORGUT WHEN I KNEW IT

 

-          Your first girlfriend

 

JOELLE - SHE WAS YOUNGER, I WAS 17, SHE HATES ME NOW

 

-          Your first heart break

 

NEVER HAD ONE

 

-          What hasn’t changed with you coming out

 

EVERYTHING IS STILL THE SAME AS FAR AS I KNOW

 

-          Does being in a relationship change how you feel about your sexuality

 

 NAAA... WOMEN ROCKS

 

-          Being out vs. Privacy vs. Activism

 

MM?

 

-          Violence or homophobia/ heterosexist issues you’ve faced

 OH YEAHHHHH... BEEN IN JAIL WHEN I WAS 18 FOR A VERY SHORT PERIOD, BUT BEEN TREATED BAD NOT CAUSE OF THE REAL ISSUE, BUT CAUSE THEY DISCOVERD AM GAY LOL - COOL YEAH?

letty-jane's picture

tell me more!

thats a great start! Thanks so much- but why don't you tell me more. When you think about being gay, what is the thing that sticks out most for you. If you are confident in who you are, what makes you confident? And we all have moments where we doubt ourselves- what makes you nervous or uncomfrotable. Why were you in jail? how did it feel when you got treated better because you were gay? tell me more!
Melissa Hsu's picture

MMM need more info>?

mm.. k m so confident in myself and never will i change or cheat a woman with a man.. m a spiritual person and i tend to know and understand myself more - i am proud of who am i, coz actually there is no straight and gay, is only words created by men kind as a try to understand sexuality

 

lots of questions makes me nervous and uncomfortable, people interfering in my own life, not having at least two hours per day for my own ... actually anything that interferes in my privacy and silence bothers me

 

were in jail twice for religious reason once and rpolitica reason the second time.. the first time they knew am gay, the second time they didnt investigate with me.. when they knew am gay i have been treated badly, since all officers over there were old men, and they related the reason of why am in jail with me being gay.. it was a horrible experience really... when i entered the second time in jail, i was so worried from the investigations, questions... oufff... was so worried like hell, but luckily enough they didnt even speak to me, they just let me out.. it was all about politics and protestations in the streets.. 

 

is that enough for ur story?

 

thank u for not asking anymore

 

bless u

Melissa Hsu's picture

Heya

Your coming out story

My teacher told my parents (against my wishes), when I was going through a really

hard period in school. I was about 12/13.

Your family/friends reactions

A lot of my friends were accepting, some just completely ignored it, and only my

parents know, in my family. 

How you knew you were gay

Always kinda known, but only really knew when I kissed a girl when I was drunk,

liked it. Did it when sober. Kinda went from there. Also a major event happening,

with a guy kinda shifted how I felt about guys.

Your first girlfriend

I've had too many, that I'd just call special friends :/ but now I'm with my first

proper girl, and we've been together also a year!!

Your first heart break

In love with best friend... :/

What hasn’t changed with you coming out

I don't really know..

Does being in a relationship change how you feel about your sexuality

Yeah, it does kinda, just cements how I really feel

Violence or homophobia/ heterosexist issues you’ve faced

Where should I start :(

 

You can contace me if you wanna know more, I'm probably not alot of help ¬¬