Have you been in love?

I only say that because, I don't know about you, but on tv in movies, love is the ultimate. There is one person in the world for you, your soul mate, you're true love or what have you. Being raised, not necesarily my parents teaching me this, but society. When I thought I was in love it was very intense and you think that this is it this is the one. When it turns out she's not it puts a lot of questions in your head. Like what you're asking. Did I really love her, was that what love was supposed to be ect ect. (I'll get to my point soon I promise)

I think that what makes our minds more convoluted is the fact that love is a word that is something that is now being thrown around with ease. The more you use words the less power they can contain.

But from my experiences from what I've seen, learnt, felt. I would have to say there are many different kinds of love that cannot be explained with words. I think that if you think you loved her than you did and that doesn't mean she was the ultimate, your soul mate, just someone you cared for a lot.

I believe I have been in love, and to a certain extent I still love her. I know that I did, simply because her time and her words became more important to me than anything else. Just holding her in my arms was more significant than any grand adventure we could have gone on. and two years after the fact, she still holds a place in my heart. A bitter angry place, that refuses to allow her near me again, but its there. I think you know your in love, when you know that they are capable of harming you emotionally. Am I making sense? I don't know, thats my take and I am still very young with lots to learn so take it with a grain of salt.

I am in love now. It's something you don't question. The other person fills your thoughts and dominates your desires. Their very presence elates you, their voice is like music. But here's the trick...it *lasts* for the long term. It gets better and better with time. You fight and as you're glaring at them in anger you're thinking in the back of your mind, "why does she have to be so damn cute when I am angry." Nothing feels better than holding her or being held.

 You just know.

Seriously. You just know. If you have to ask... you've given yourself the real answer. 

I have been in love, was quite a long time ago, but I have.

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Sudol the Ros: "Hoooopppiiipoooolllaaaa"

I am now in the process of getting back my love. We had a 3 years relationship that I ended about 2 years ago...I thought then that I had to end it because it did not "feel like love" anymore. I didn't find her cute when we were fighting, for instance, I just labeled her as annoying, sometimes stupid...

So at some point, we parted. We stayed friends, still talking and seeing each other. I began dating again. And then, it happened: I found myself comparing everyone up to her, to my now ex-girlfriend. And I dated a woman which I judged more intelligent than her, others that were more beautiful, or more sensual. She was definitelly not the coolest girl to be had.

But even so, it was like some part of myself went missing for those 2 years (i know it's a cheesy expression, but it is accurate nonetheless). If 2 weeks went by without a sign from her, I found pretexts to call and only in hearing her voice, I could find some relaxation.

We are now together again. And our most recent serious conversation about us ended with both of us agreeing that, even if we don't find each other as the best girl out there, and we don't always share oppinions, we feel linked, symbiotic in a way. Our love "feels" calm, a little sensual and absolutely undescribable in its minute details...

 

 

with everyone. You just know. Personally, I was in love with my ex long before I admitted it to myself. When I finally did, it just made sense. It was like the sun coming up... I didn't have to think about it, it just was.

And, I think I might be falling for a friend of mine and it's throwing me off a little to actually see it happening. It's a really bizarre situation and I won't bore you with the details but the reason I think I am is because when I think of her, the feeling is so calm and peaceful. It's not erratic and chaotic and I don't lay in bed all night wondering if she likes me. In fact, I'm quite sure the feeling is unrequited but I'm surprisenly ok with it. I want her to be happy, and while I would prefer that be with me, my primary concern is just being her friend. Just sitting next to her makes me happy.

Anyways, yeh, if you have to ask, that's your answer.

We do not stop playing because we've become old. We become old because we've stopped playing.

No, I haven't. But hopefully someday I will be. Of corse I have had crushes, but nothing more. Funny thing is that when I was in a relationship, I didn't have any feelings towards the person I was with, but I have never been in a relationship with a person, whom I really liked....

But I think that I will just patiently wait and not rush things. Hopefully someday I will fall in love. From my previous relationship I have really learned that I can't make myself fall in love.

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And life is always moving like love moves
at its own will
my question to you then would be
why do you sit so silent?

When i was in love, i just knew. It's a gut feeling thing i guess.

you won't have to question whether you are you will just know. Your first relationship is always extremely intense and is often misconstrued or perceived as being in love. Take what you learned from that first female relationship and apply it to your next relationship. Enjoy dating hun it’s a lot of fun and an incredible experience even if you meet some crazy girls along the way. We are all looking to fall in love dating is just a fun ride you go on before you meet her or him.  

I don't think I have.  I've really, really liked people before and have been infatuated, but I don't think it was love.

Once, and quite madly so. 

Love is hard to believe, ask any lover. Life is hard to believe, ask any scientist. God is hard to belive, ask any believer. - Life of Pi

I have not been in love mutually with anyone so far. I did (and still do) have a "I love you" major crush for an individual who helped me realize my same sex attraction; I had tried to befriend her some months ago but I had realized my feelings will always be there. Plus with those feelings she kept me in the past so I had to move on. I was ready to and have officially let her go a few weeks ago. I want growth for myself as well as for her; I let her know that. :)

Ive never been in love before. Maybe someday. :)

"Maybe someday we'll figure all this out. Try to put an end to all our doubt. Try to find a way to make things better now. And maybe someday we'll live our lives out loud. We'll be better off somehow, someday."-Rob Thomas

You would rather be doing ANYTHING with her than be doing anything else at all with anyone else! She walks into a room and lights up your life!

As some of the above posters have said, when you are in love, you will know.  I'll add to that.  If you have to ask, then you aren't.

for me, being in love means that the room is a little warmer when your loved one is in it..

its the totally unromantic idea that putting them to bed when they have the flu and have just gotten sick all over the house is the only place in the world you would want to be.. and then going and cleaning the house.. and crawling into bed beside them exhausted afterwards

its missing the little things, like how they cook carrots in slices rather than your chunky cubes and how lonely your toothbrush by itself looks in the bathroom..

its about wanting to always shower after them, because one of life's simple pleasures is the smell of her shampoo..

to me, love is the balance between softness and passion..

its a steady kind of humming that sometimes you dont hear, but its always there..

put one foot in front of the other, but dont forget to look up to the stars..