First Date

congrats on your date! i'm probably the worst person to give advice because i always did the hangout-turns-to-dating thing and really only went on about 5 proper dates ever, but i would say to try as much as you can to be yourself (wow, how cliche!?) and to treat her like you'd want to be treated or how you think she'd like to be treated.  bring her something small but sweet, open the door for her, smile, thank her, offer to pay, etc.  i don't know what type of gal she is, but just try to do things that communicate that you're stoked to be out with her.  i hope that helps soon.  i'm sure you'll do great.  congrats again!

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Hahaha true that.  =)

Um, heres a general "clue":

1) Treat her with respect.  Be polite!  No texting at the dinner table, say please and thank you, hold doors open.

2) Be YOU.  Trust me, it's to hard to go back and be yourself later, so just act how you would with close family and friends-aka bare the true you!

3) BE sweet and enjoy yourself!

4) Be honest at the end?  Loved the evening?  Say it!  Hated it (or her?)  Tell her you just want to be friends.  Don't drag it out if its not going to work...but give her positive feedback if you loved it!  =) 

p.s.  we are all clueless.  and that's a fact!

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just be yourself..she said yes to the date or asked you for a reason..compliment her..dont text..talk about things that you both have in common and most importantly have fun..dont worry you'll be fine..and good luck on your date..let us know what happends!

Sexuality is fluid, whether you're gay or you're straight or you're bisexual, you just go with the flow~ Shane McCutcheon

I don't know where you two are going on your first date but if you haven't chosen the location yet I'd advise you to go somewhere where you can have a conversation so loud places like clubs,bars or movie theaters are a no no for first dates. I know you're nervous and may have a hard time talking to her,I always feel nervous on first dates despite of my dating experience so what I do is,I keep the first dates short because first dates drain my energy so quickly. Concentrating on the other person and trying to maintain a conversation can be hard.Keep the date no more than an hour or an hour and a half but not longer than that because the more you talk the more it is likely to say something that may screw things up.Keep it short and sweet.

Now the real important part: First,BREATHE,breathe deeply,don't slouch or fidget. Just breathe,smile and WATCH her. Look deeply in her eyes while she is talking and don't look anywhere else actually no.. look at her surroundings but most of the time keep your eyes on her. Do not overthink what to say, forget about yourself,get curious about her and imagine you're doing "it" with her (trust me it helps LOL!) Show your feelings for her but don't TELL her how you feel about her,show it with your actions. If during the conversation you run out of things to say or if your brain stops working due to her presence ask her questions and let her do the talking. Believe it or not if you make somebody talk about themselves they will be more fascinated by you.

That's all I can think of right now...Good luck and have fun! :)

"I believe that I will be with one person for the rest of my life, but that person will be a woman." Luce-Imagine Me&You

YES to what wondergirrl said!  If you aren't looking at her she'll think you're bored.  But try not to look directly in her eyes constantly because that can be a little intimidating.  Don't be so focused on keeping a conversation that you get hyper-concerned about what you're going to say next because then you'll involuntarily not be paying attention to what she's saying lol.  A few moments of silence isn't a big deal, so if it happens just stay cool.

OH this good too: make sure you don't have anything distracting you like.. a hangnail, a broken nail, a scab (yeah idk lol) or something pressing on your mind.  You want to be able to give her your full attention!

Since it's a first date there's got to be a lot to talk about since you don't know each other well right?  Think up some basic questions 1) favorite movie/music/book 2) what her childhood was like 3) last movie she saw 4) if she went/is going on vacation.  And if she's polite she'll ask you questions back so you'll have a steady flow of conversation.

If you think she'll take it well end it with something flirty!!!  But if she's kinda shy (or you are) just be like "This was fun, we should do it again sometime are you free x day?" (if you actually liked it) but if you don't want to see her again say something vague like "Well, I guess I'll be seeing you around...."

Everyone is giving pretty good advice. I think you should watch the This Just Out episode where Liz has Tegan Quin as a guest, and Liz and Raimy discuss what and what not to do on a date. Here's the link... http://www.afterellen.com/blog/trishbendix/this-just-out-video-season-2-...

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just be who you are.. coz the more you try to please someone, the greater the chance of screwing things up coz it isn't 'you' in there.. but someone else you're trying to be.. just be you.. the real you.. and see if it goes pretty well.. weather she'll like you or not, the important thing is you're for real.. and apart from that, here's a piece of advice you'll need.. a simple one.. "Know how to treat a lady", if you know that (which I'm pretty sure you do coz you're one), it'll be all good.. just keep it smooth and have fun.. don't stress much and screw things up.. Good Luck..