Lesbian slang?

Ok I need to find myself a coach for this lesbian lifstyle because I totally don't get it.

So I'm online yeah, meeting girls yeah. And all is good, right up till the point where she says: 'I'm not looking for a relationship right now'.
It sucks but hey shit happens you know. It not the end of the world. But here's the thing right. A couple of weeks later I talk to the girl again and guess what..... she met someone and is head over heals, totally in love (after meeting just once) and she wants to be in a relatioship with this other girl.

That has happend to me a few times now.... so I'm wondering, is  'I'm not looking for a relationship right now' lesbian slang for: 'hellll no I'm ever gonna date you'.  (Ok that sounds a bit harsh but you get where I'm going with this right?) 

(PS: No chick this aint about you.)

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