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A Lesbian Curse...

I have a lesbian curse. Every time I date someone, whether it's for a few days or months, we breakup. Sometimes we don't even date, just mutual hangouts and talking and then they disappear. So you're thinking, that's not a real curse right? Generally within a few weeks time I find out that we broke up because they found someone else or found someone in mere hours after our parting. The latter may be a bit exaggerated, but come on, this is frustrating! I have yet to find a girl that I have a true connection with so it isn't anything that has truly broken me up but still worry-some for my future. Somehow I have become the ultimate seal in a long term relationship. The sad thing is, I am never a part of these relationships, only my exes. Has anybody else experienced this? Do I need to start studying spell books? Or go back to my past and investigate whether I pissed someone off badly enough to curse me with this? Are you looking for a long term relationship in the next month, because I can guarantee you one after me! 


Jenna's picture

Oh muffin

Don't worry. You're a cutie, you'll find someone great. Maybe theres just some super fantastic woman waiting for you out there and the powers that be don't want you to waste time or miss out. Or maybe those girls that hurt you are going to get a really nasty STD or get hit by a bus. Who knows ;)

“I once had a large gay following, but I ducked into an alleyway and lost him.” - Emo Philips

Lunakiss's picture

Relationships

The right relationship will come when the time is right. Until then keep going and keep loving.

Cindayyy's picture

Give it time...

... like they all also said to me. I'm kinda in the same boat. Within a week after my past girlfriends broke up with me, they immediately got a new girl. So right now, I'm just trying to relax, take things a day at a time, and I now really believe that the right woman WILL come. So, before ya know it, you'll have some smokin' hot lady whom you'll definitely be interested in. Like what Jenna said, maybe the PTB didn't want you to get serious yet 'coz those chicks were bound to have a WICKED gross STD or something. Haha.
girlbeatsdrums's picture

Please...

don't lose hope or give up. There's someone perfect out there for you, I promise. Things will work out in the end.
pinknblue's picture

afraid you've become the

afraid you've become the "goodluck chuck"? hehe. don't be frustrated and give up yet on finding your true love..she is out there,somewhere so don't stop looking for her. you're still young and really pretty, i bet you turn heads everywhere you go! :D  so go get out there and mingle.. we all have to kiss a few frogs before finding our princess. ;)

Ash's picture

She'll be comin'!

She'll be comin' round the mountain, here she comes!

*reads your fortune cookie* Good things come to those who wait. Your next gf will appear when you least expect it. Remember, patience is a virtue, and don't look too hard for your keys, they're on the tabletop. =P

Seriously though, as long as you don't give up hope, and let things be, the perfect girl will be coming when you least expect it. You could be walking in the park one day, and this cutie catches your eye... AND BAM! She's yours! What's important is that you don't give up hope, and magic spells certainly didn't get Merlin the Magician a wife. :/

 

=a v i a t o r='s picture

Haha

Lol I love your statement!  You always have something profound to say too.  You're like a walking fortune cooking in a positive cool way!

 

| "No longer forward nor behind I look in hope and fear; But grateful take the good I find, The best of now and here." - John G. Whittier |

gobuckeyes's picture

I am the biggest Good Luck

I am the biggest Good Luck Chuck too so I know how you feel girl! I decided I'm not gonna settle for anything but the best though :) so keep holding on

sick.girl's picture

man,

you're not cursed, you just have had some bad luck. just don't become bitter or start expecting all women to end up like your ex's. you'll find her eventually.

PS, if it turns out some of you actually have this curse...want to date for a week or two? i haven't had a good long-term relationship in forever.

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http://www.myspace.com/invincilana  <---only music i co-sign these days

gobuckeyes's picture

Hahaha that's great

Hahaha that's great
Lyliana's picture

Easy comes easy goes :)

well .. I think what is the missing part of the relationship is the connection ... I think it would be best if you start off with a friendship ...

 

 

=a v i a t o r='s picture

No need to rush relationships if you're looking for lasting ones

Very much agree with this statement.  Sometimes the best relationships are the ones that start off as friendships, and especially when you're in the lesbian community and have a big pond to fish from.  Although, make sure to make a move before you wind up in the "Friend Zone" lol... But yeah... definitely worth your time to be friends first.  No need to rush relationships if you're looking for lasting ones.

All-in-all though, agreeing with everyone else, you're a beautiful girl and someone out there is gonna be lucky enough to have you in their life.  Just give it time.  As Shakespeare put it: "Love sought is good, but giv'n unsought is better."

 

| "No longer forward nor behind I look in hope and fear; But grateful take the good I find, The best of now and here." - John G. Whittier |