Why must we introduce ourselves with labels/stigmas?
Okay when you came on to this earth, you are who you are. Then your mom,dad,grandparents, who ever named you. Why does it matter when I come up to you that you have to tell me that you are a femme,butch, stud, dom, AG, fud(i dont even know where the heck that came from), stem, ABCDEFG lol etc.
Why can you not just be Sally or Ashely or Jane? Either way I am still going to treat you with the same respect as everyone else.
Society has this need to label everything, point blank period. But it is our own choice to accept it, it will never go away but you can not get mad if you choose to accept it, because that is your choice.
I know we have this need to "identify" ourselves to feel at peace or whatever(so not true). I label myself as a stud because that is what I feel in my heart. Same as lesbian,bisexual,same gender loving, etc. Half of you all go around labeling yourselves as femmes and feel the pressure to uphold this fake image that screams fake from miles away. "Oh I don't wear make up or high heels and have an off day oh no somebody is not going to see me as a femme anymore" What do I do, Who am I now? Hello, You are still Sally,Ashely, or Jane. If you need femme,stud,dom,etc. to define who you are, then you are just lost and confused. Someone can tell that from a mile away and you are trying to cover it up with a label. It does not help, trust, it will only make things worse. Find out who you are first and what ever you feel in your heart. That is the only thing that matters. If you do not feel it in your heart screw it with a fork, because being apart of a popular trend should not be your top priority. You yourself should be your only concern.
I don't want to meet another femme,dom, AG, butch, stud, ABCDEFG lol, I want to meet Sally or Ashely or Jane. Where ever you are please stand up?
Another point have you ever heard of a heterosexual man/woman going around introducing themselves as "Hi, My name is Tom, and I am a manly man" or "Hi, My name is Amy, and I am in between girly and tomboy that would make me "girlytom"
They say "Hi, My name is Tom/Amy, nice to meet you?"
(Side note: If you have nothing nice to say or if you say something and it sounds ignorant when you say it out loud don't post it in respect to the other AE members. Thought I did not have to say this to grown women but apparently we are childish at heart....Thank You Matt)
