I like being alone. I like solitude. Is there anyone else who feels this way?

i love doing stuff by myself also. i have a lot of friends that dont like the same things i do so if i want to them its best i do it alone. i wouldnt consider myself a loner eventhough other people would. but who cares what they think. if you are having fun by yourself then it doesnt matter. sometimes i feel lonely but most of the time not.

Humans are social creatures, lame as that sounds, not wanting to be around others is linked to some pretty unhealthy disorders(not saying you have one but just, y'know)

I used to 'like' being alone when i had no friends sophmore year, til' i realised it was just my ego tricking me into thinking i 'liked' it to shield from negative feelings, i got some good friends later and realised no time you spend with yourself is as fun or rewarding as with them. ^_^ This may be your case too.

Of course going crazy when you're not around people isn't healthy either, but most people enjoy their moments of solitude in moderation. 

Some people have a fear of being alone. So I always call them co-dependents. They always with others but sometimes it can be a sign of insecurity or co-dependency issue if it becomes overboard. I'm a social butterfly.  I enjoy being around others even if I go to events. I also love spending time alone, it helps me keep myself in check and reflect upon things going on in my life. Spending too much time alone with no friends can be a problem as well.  It's all about balancing.

 Never judge a person on the outside. They may not be a loner b/c they may not be with someone at that given moment you are seeing them. They might be meeting up with friends later. Your friends were wrong for judging that person.

Don't sweat it you're not alone for enjoying being alone.

I loooveloove being with a group of cool people, but i looveebeing by myself too.

both fun neways..i find"loners" to be awesome cuz they just dont care:] 

that's what my friends call me but over the years they understood my need to be alone most of the time. they get me they know the 'space' i need. i like being alone it gives me the sense of independence and it gives me time to think. even when i'm in a relationship, space is a must for me.

i agree. people need their space. like me for example i spend alot of time alone but im never really alone. i like to people watch but im still texting someone or another while im doing it. people worry about me because of how much time i'm really alone! like i said im really not alone. thats just how i am. i quess im used to it. let me see if maybe someone understands what im saying: i'm the only girl in my family with five guys. between each of us theres a six year age differance give or take. so i quess i perfer it!

show me your friends and i will tell you who you are!

You're not alone in liking to be alone. :P 

i'm the same too, i am very comfortable in social situations, but do like being by myself. i think maintaining your own space is very important-- it gives you time to reflect. that being said, it's also important to have balance between spending time on your own and being around others. but this balance is relative to what you feel is optimal for you.

 personally i think if someone lies on the extreme ends of the spectrum (i.e. need to be around people all the time, or always wants to be alone) then i'd start speculating that there may be some underlying issues. I don't know your friends obviously, and i'm no psychologist, but from people I know who absolutely cannot be on their own, there are some security issues going on (these are people in their mid-to-late 20s tho)

I'm just taking a stab at the age group of you and your friends here but I'm assuming you guys are about 16-17 (sorry if i'm wrong!)? I guess during that age, teens have the need to be around others constantly because of their need to fit into a social circle. When people are young, they're still trying to establish a sense of belonging, and when that's finally established, then I think that's when people feel more comfortable being alone. Just a theory though. 

I just think you've developed your independence at a younger age than your friends -- nothing wrong with that.

I know what you mean, I'm the same way. I do like the company of my friends and i do hang out with them. I can also hold my own in social situations. But i also like my solitude and alone time... whether its doing homework/studying, eating, walking around campus and places and at anime conventions (i like to do my own thing at cons...and i have a habit of disappearing lol). Even if there are a bunch of us i don't mind sitting off to the side and do my own thing.

But i don't mind having the "loner" tag though...cuz that part is true lol.

its good to know im not alone! well me and my girls are around 24. i think i like to be alone  because im from such a small town. theres only so much stuff to do! so sometimes being alone is much funnier then being bored with someone. at least that way we can text each other even if its b.s. or whatever.

another thing i think makes a big differance is even with my job i spend so much time alone. i live with just my parents and both of them are ill. so they spend most of their time in bed. i do everything else like clean and cook, pick up their medz. in order to do so i have to go out of town. so really i dont think thiers anything wrong with me or anything. i figure i might know if there is LOL

show me your friends and i will tell you who you are!

with wanting to be alone and around people. It's finding a balance between the two that I'm trying to figure out. =p I can completely understand where you're coming from. Even at a bar while my friend was bored out of her mind, I was pretty much enjoying myself and watching the scene. I was about to say this will come with old age, but I realize I've always been like this since I was in my diapers. So my parents say.

_________________

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain."

I like to be alone too. i feel like it's easier to think when others aren't around. you can do stuff you want to do, not what others want to do. i like to work out alone, i hate when people push me. they should worry about themselves. on the other hand, i love hanging out a lot too. i find a happy medium.

I completely get what you mean! I like being alone at times and I need time for myself. I have interests that none of my friends share and that alone takes up a lot of my time. When I'm in a bad mood, I don't want to pretend that I'm not and most of the time I'd just rather be alone and be in the mood that I'm in. Yeah, sometimes I want to be with friends so that they can cheer me up or just distract me, but I definitely need 'me-time'. When I moved out I really cherished the weekends in my apartment when my roommates weren't there when I was alone all weekend. I can go two days without talking to anyone and it doesn't bother me at all. I like going to the movies alone, mostly because I go to the movies way more often than my friends do and because when you do, you watch a movie anways. it's not like that's a 'social' activity, so it really doesn't matter whether you're alone or with friends.

My sister and my dad cannot be alone, they don't know what to do with themselves when they are alone and that used to really bug me because my sister would get on my nerves all the time.

Yes, humans are social creatures, but that doesn't mean that ALL humans have to be social 24/7. Back in the day when we were hunters and gatherers, I'm pretty sure that we humans spent hours at a time not talking to anyone, just hunting/gathering. So as long as it doesn't bother the person, or as long as that person isn't sad being alone, I don't see anything wrong with that.

There is a HUGE difference between being alone and being lonely! That's why those two words are two different words with different meanings - because you can be lonely in a group of people and you can be alone without being lonely!

http://babydyke.blogspot.com/ - my take on all things lesbian

That's cool, so am I! I don't know if you're American, but I feel like Americans really devalue solitude. Just because you enjoy time to yourself doesn't make you shy, unhappy, or ill-adjusted. You might just have a different way of engaging in society. I find that as an introvert, I really value quality versus quantity in all my relationships. 

Check out this article in wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extraversion_and_introversion

Or this quote from about.com:
Definition: Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge."

When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.

Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population.

I don't mind hanging out in big crowds but amidst the craziness I'm more of an observer than a participant.  Hence why most people think I’m shy…or somewhat of a loner…Meh..think what you will...

 Personally, I like alone time. I am sometimes annoyed when people invade my space when I am having 'alone time'. But, dont get me wrong total solitude isn't healthy. But, some humans are introverts and others are extroverts. I don't believe people should judge others who are loners or enjoy being solo. I mean, we're all given lives to live, so why not love yourself and have some fun by yourself? When you close your eyes at night you're left with yourself, might as well value time with yourself.

"And it's amazing
With the look in your eyes
Like you could save me
But you won't even try"
- Matt Nathanson

i don't know where i'm wanting to be, i just know i have to be there alone... 

i can spend hours reading a book on the beach, going on a walk with headphones and losing myself in the music or just hanging out at a bar/cafe. i'll admit though that while i felt extremly confident doing that when i was backpacking by myself abroad (oh freedom how i miss you), i don't feel as comfortable doing it over here. i don't like it when people stare...  

some people are just born with tragedy in their blood. 

I can totally relate to this.

While I enjoy the company of others and am completely comfortable with social interaction, I also really enjoy my own company. There's something so wonderful about being... solitary... sometimes. Being able to think--mulling things over in your mind--or taking in the sights, smells, sounds around you. Take some lunches away from the crowd and lie down in a field, listening to tunes and feeling the wind against your face. It's hard to do things like that with people around and really get the full benefit. 

But people can be cool, too. Just... not all the time. =)

GO INTROVERTS!?

It really depends on my mood, to be honest.

 But I do love to be on my own. I especially love going to cafes on my own.

I order myself a coffee and a sandwich, and sit down with my iPod and my notebook, and just write and write and write.

And I have very different tastes to a lot of my friends (I am the type to stand there and analyze a painting for the longest time, while they'll go 'ooh, colour, cool' and move along), so it works out for us all if I go off to do my boring nerd stuff, than rejoin them later when I'm satisfied :)