Gay for...boys? (and not in a gay male way)
Sooooo... i'm in college, and as such, i find myself at many parties. At these parties there are many, many, many...okay screw it- all the ('straight') girls, all of them sit (stand/lay/hop) there and make out with each other to grab the attention of males in the room. All while the actual lesbians stand around awkwardly watching this while trying to find a new beer pong partner. sexual fluidity or sexual from fluid intemperance? thank you.
Submitted by bobsfrankenbeans (83 posts) on June 14, 2009 - 9:53pm. |
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It is called
"sexual fluidity or sexual from fluid intemperance?"
It is called sexual perversion.
"I believe that I will be with one person for the rest of my life, but that person will be a woman." Luce-Imagine Me&You
I used to think that
I used to think that straight girls acted gay for the attention it garners, but due to an inordinate number of facebook pics (of that particular caliber) showing no male presence, I have no idea. If its any help, I used to act in a very similar manner, before I came out to myself.
On another note, I can't really tear my eyes away from the pic, so thanks for that.
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haha
Sexual perversion?
So not going to entertain that one.
And that is not what sexual fluidity is about. Sexual fluidity involves attraction and some form of intimate affection that goes deeper than ones curiousity and kissing and sexual contact.
Those girls you are referencing we would like to call barsexuals. They do it for attention thinking it is cool or hot when it is not. They basically exploit the lesbian/bisexual name for selfish agendas and it is not right. The media does too and I am tired of it because it is wrong.
You never seen an actual lesbian who has a sense of morals and self respect being seen as a sex object by mainstream. The act of lesbianism/bisexuality is sexy not the relationships in which men are excluded.
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yea, i know... :/ Ah!
yea, i know... :/
Ah! barsexuals! that's the term- nice! And yea, you rarely see ANY lesbian representation in matinstream -- some day we'll have the immoral to accompany our 'upstanding citizens' of tv today *sigh* that'll be the day.
Yeah that will be the day
I feel as if lesbians and bisexuals are seen as a joke to mainstream society because of this. When I was femme I was scene as some trashy sex object. I could not take it anymore. I was scared of being a stud because they got the crap beat out of them in the neighborhood if they did not show the bullies any respect. I hated it and it was wrong. I just wanted people to take me seriously as a lesbian. I get irritated when I see girls making out with other girls for idiots attention. The lack of self respect and self worth is disturbing. I went to a seminar one summer and the girls seemed to be really interested in what the seminar was about. Having self worth and self respect but then after the seminar it was like all went in one ear and out the other. This one girl who participated the most was outside repeating trashy lyrics to a song that the guys was singing and all hugged up on a girl for their attention. I find it sad and wrong.
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wow
that's really unfortunate (the social dynamics you have to deal with in your neighborhood)... so how do you deal with it?
I'm often confused with how we all talk about how much we value ourselves (particularly women) and then turn around and our actions clearly negate everything we've spoken out about. I have a very close friend who is extrememly supportive, informed, loving, educated, etc. etc. etc. and yet she is one of those bar girls... one minute she'll be screaming about womens and gay rights and the next she'll be trying to seduce a dude with her gal pal and a beer bottle.... yes i get that she's 'just having fun' but i also know the deep psychological scars that gave her the idea that such 'fun'must be had.... so many reasons for her (and their, i'm sure) actions that run the gammit of 'good' or 'bad'... so many layers... like a cake. mmm cake.
Let them have their fun.
I think it has a lot more to do with genuine experimentation and having a good time than wowing the boys, as I've seen girls do this without the presence of guys as well. It's something fun, not to be taken as a definitive choice either way, something they can get away with within the parametres of society that still pushes the limit a bit.
It's like, "Hey let's go camping for a night or two!" as opposed to "I NEVER WANT TO CAMP EVER" or "I don't ever want to go home, camping is my life!"
Honestly, it bothers me more than seeing/hearing about straight girls macking it when hear lesbians whine and complain about 'bi-curious girls ruining the names of REAL lesbians and LEGIT bisexuals everywhere', when the whole 'kiss girls for guys/shits n' giggles' has nothing to do with claiming to be gay or bisexual, or assuming that role/responsibility in any way. It just means 'I'm drunk, I like to fool around with girls at parties, wooo!'. Imposing restrictions on what functionally heterosexual people do with their time and their identities is as ridiculous as straight folk doing the same to us. And sexuality, particularly amongst women, is a fluid thing, so let it be, perhaps one day they'll realise something about themselves, if not, there's no real loss to our community or our well-being, is there?
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Good point I would not care so much until society starts judging that this is what lesbianism and bisexuality is all about. That is what irritates me the most. There are girls out there who exploit lesbianism and bisexuality for selfish reasons and it is wrong. What kind of message is that sending to the younger generation. I say stay true to yourself and let people judge you on your character and not by how many girls you are willing to make out with for some idiots attention.
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gotta be honest
ah dude!
i LOVE CAMPING.
and i hear ya. it's interesting how a little drinky drink makes so many things acceptable - ie. 'omg i was soooooo drunk last night that i ___________.' nothing wrong with that- i just find the role of such an atmosphere and substances interesting.
i also like to think that sexual fluidity has exists in all of us- it's our cultures that bind us. though it seems (thanks to that all so wonderful Oprah and...womens rights i guess ;) ) womens sexuality is at least becoming more 'acceptable' (i hate that word.... but there it is). someday we'll be able to just fall in love with the brain inside the sexy body -no matter the sex. sex.
barsexuals
barsexuals irk me, kissing and all is fun to them, and then they start thinking that "oh lord, this feels nice, maybe i should find some poor sod of a lesbian and try this further".
so she 'experiments' with this lesbian, until some dick gives her the slightest sort of attention, and whadaya know, the lesbian is thrown under the bed with all her other sex toys and dirty laundry.
i dont approve of this, its whorish, and gives a bad name for all of us. most people are ignorant enough about homosexuals, and we're trying our best to prove ourselves to them that we're not just into it for the 'sex and thrill', there is a deeper emotional psychology that comes along with it. hearing about these sluts shames me.
fuck you Katy Perry, honestly...fuck you.
i agree
I personally have no issue if they are just doing it amongst themselves. but when they start playing the sike-a-dyke game that is not cool. it is like let me know up front before anything goes too far. i knew this one girl who played the sike-a-dyke game and ended up breaking my friend's heart because she was just exploring her options. i found it to be so wrong, it is like do you not have a heart or something.
New Music Video Genesis Be aka Lo-Key Soraya's Song(In The Name of God)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OsSD6dzWs_k
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