First Time (Sex)

I think talking is the best way to find out,becaus otherwise you overextended yourself and your girlfriend ,maybe shes not ready,may she is ince such a long time and is just desperately waiting for you to make a move. 

 

The test of courage comes when we are in the minority. The test of tolerance comes when we are in the majority.
- Ralph W. Sockman

I would say talk...but for a different reason...I would say talk about what you like, and listen to what she likes...I did ALOT of talkin before my first time. And dnt be afraid to let her know your nervous, because that will put her at ease about her own nerves. cuz u guys have it special, so that ur at an even playin field...where neither of u really know whats goin on lol

AND!

make sure while ur "doin it" you make reassurein comments. ie. "oh thats nice", or "yea like that" or sumthing, cuz then shell know what to do more of...and wait til a few times happen before u suggest changes and critic...

thats all i got! hope it helps/

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined..."

~Thoreau

I think its cool that you found someone on the level with you. But as the others have said, be sure you talk about what you like or expect from your first time. It may sound cheesy but you do remember your first time. I remember my first time with a dude and with a woman. Both times it was rushed and even though I don't regret it I think talking and understanding your partner will definately make everything better. Good luck :) 

I am my very own shade of grey.

i saw someone re-post a similar thread to this and it was re-directed.

my first time was something like fantasty. it was with someone i was deeply in love with, and it was a beautiful spring night. i went to her house to talk. she was my best friend. i told her i loved her. the rest is beautiful history. one thing i learned was to lose yourself in the moment when you know it's in front of you. you have to truly breakdown walls you held up, during that moment if it's with someone you love. it's worth it.

I saw a previous post and was re-directed to this thread, sooo...

My first time was, well, horrible. I was 16, it was my first real relationship, I didn't even think it through, and I was in no way ready for a serious relationship. We were both virgins. My ex was, well... not as smooth as I would've liked her to be (hahaha), and she hopped over foreplay like it was the plague or something. There was no communication, and it was way too soon. I wasn't even emotionally on the same level as her, but I was young and dumb, and I figured "why not." Do I regret it? No. Whatever happened, happened.

My only advice is to make sure that you're mentally and emotionally ready--don't do it 'coz of pressure or just sex. If it's your first time, at least make it a little special so you won't be recalling, like me, how crappy your first time was. (haha) That, and communicate communicate communicate!

COMMUNICATE! If she is doing something that you don't think is working, don't be embarassed to tell her that! Make sure she is telling you too! and foreplay is great thing. It kind of builds up your body and makes your body want it more so that when you finally get into the main part of sex/making love, it's mindblowing. Since it is your first time, it might take awhile for you to orgasm, but don't give up on your body or hers!

Btw I'm not like a sex guru or anything. What works for me might not work for you or your girlfriend. The only thing I know that is absolutely key for great sex is COMMUNICATION!!!

Do it when you are both ready, but...please USE SAFE PRECAUTIONS, risk free okay? o_0

 

Your mind can make you or break you

Can someone explain to me about the safe sex thing for lesbians? no one ever talked to me about it.

Don't think about it to much, just see what happens. I think it'd be better if you just waited till the moment was right, rather than like planning it or something. It's the kind of thing you should just do when you're caught up in moment, and when it feels right. Thats just coming from personal experience though, my first time was in a park, pushed up against a tree :$ Yeah, thats kinda embarrassing... Maybe you shouldnt be taking my advice lol.