Gay Predictors?

"Only you can live the life that you have, so live it well."

I remember being attracted to a girl in my junior Kindergarten class, so when I was like 4 years old. I liked her a LOT. but then on the other hand, I liked boys in my class too.

This year in psych we covered the topic of sexuality and after reading a few articles and studies, I came to my own conclusion that yes, sexuality is strongly influenced by your memories of yourself at a young age. like someone who feels they are gay will remember times when they were attracted to people of the same sex and hetero people will remember being attracted to the opposite. as children we have instances where we are attracted to both. your external influences that continue to affect you (especially during puberty) are the real determinants of long-term sexuality and predictors of your selective memory of your childhood attraction.

I'm pretty comfortable hanging around with guys but gets really shy around girls. Topics we talk i guess. Cause most 'typical' girls would talk about their guy crushes and stuff while i'm looking around, just listening only. Most of the time i'm noticing girls only. Dont know why.

I'm not sure when it started, i guess it began young. While those kissing scenes were on tv, little girls usually go 'squealling' over it, i'm more of thinking in the other way. I've been much of a rough one. Like playing with guns and swords, and i'm actually pretty scared of dolls, barbie, those [still]. I remember the time when i would force myself to wear skirt so it looked more right? [girls wear skirts and boys wear pants] it didnt lasted long enough. Growing up along, now, theres more attractions to be seen, gradually i began noticing how some girls dressed. There's just something that attracts, cant really define it.

My good buds says i'm confused. Haha, guess i agree-ing with them.

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Lets just say "Weirdo."

I had two major crushes when I was seven but it was only when I

was a teenager that I realised what they were. I don't remember

any kind of attraction before that – boys or girls, then bam! Two at

the same time!

I was always drawn to women. I remember thinking that my kindergarden teacher was the prettiest lady in the entire world. And with TV characters, I was always much more drawn to the female characters, and pretty much completely ignored the male ones altogether.

So I was very aware of the feelings I was having for women, but since people kept telling me that it was normal, and one day I would wake up and be attracted to boys, I didn't much think about it. I figured it if happened, it happened, and in the meantime I would just keep crushing on the women.

It wasn't until I was about 14-15 that I put it together with the word lesbian (I never knew any gay people growing up, nor was there any homophobia around me, but there just wasn't anyone who knew enough about it to tell me it was possible), but once I realized there was a word for it that meant I could keep having these feelings for the rest of my life, I knew that that was exactly what I was.

I was raised Catholic with a mom who refused to believe that anyone can exist with values other that her own, so I didn't really know anyone COULD be gay until I was 11, let alone bisexual. Even then, I didn't make the connection with how I felt until I was 14.

Even though I wasn't fully aware of what if was until then, I remember having puppy-dog "I'll follow you everywhere" crushes on girls since kindergarden. 

even from the age of about 8 i always knew i was 'different' for some reason!.. i knew why i was different when i hit puberty. my phys ed teacher made me realise *drool* lol.. it was always there, i just didnt know until high school - probably because i hadnt thought about it.. looking back, i've been gay for as long as i can remember.

I think i was a late bloomer =) Back then i am so straight that i even keep a journal full of pictures of guys that i have a crush on. It was when i was 21 years old when i joined this forum in the web that i met this girl who was a bi-sexual and we became friends, she's older than me and she invited me to their pad with her lesbian friends and we watched re-runs of The L word and I got curious, I watched the love scenes and i remember seeing Shane and Carmen doing their thing and it really made me feel something so there...after being curious, and having alot of crushes on girls in our campus and at work, i bloomed into being me =)Maybe because of the "Asian" thing that is why most of us here in our country came out a little too late...conservative and all, up until now, i'm still not out anyway... ='(

Life is divine chaos =)

When I was young (4-5) I really wanted to be a boy. I had short hair, played a lot of sport and always played with boys, so I think that's how it came about. Although I still play sport, I'm no longer a tomboy at all. I realised I was gay when I was about 8... I don't even know how I knew what a lesbian was - my friend and I were joking about it, and I realised that it applied to me. It took until I was 12 to really understand/accept it (which was around the time I started coming out) but it wasn't till I was 15-16 that I was comfortable to actually discuss it openly.

As for the genetics debate, I have heaps of gay relatives (two uncles, a great uncle, a cousin, my dad [kinda] are the ones we know of), but I always think a nature/nurture combination of factors is most likely. I certainly think that having gay relatives around made it a lot easier to accept my own sexuality and come out - without them it probably would have been a much slower and more painful process.

I tend to like an actress in a tv drama my family was watching when i was only 3/4 years old . She's very pretty and i tried to be just like her or lets say ACT like her. I'm not really attracted to other good looking male characters in the drama though. And i'm more attracted to females since i was a kid. So...i guess i'm born-gay?????

My parents are too teriffic . zzz~~

I always thought I was straight because I didn`t know any gay women and thought they were just from T.V. also when I kissed girls, they were always my freinds and I never realy felt much..but still more than with boys. I always played the guy when my freinds played house or other stuff. I always payed attention to the women on films and shows...I had lists of actresses I thought were HOT, but I had crushes on boys up untill I was 13-ish, I wondered why every boy I went out with, I ended up dumping...I always thought it was stupid when my friends would plan their marriage to a guy and icky when they had topless pictures of guys everywhere..then when I was 8 I became a MAJOR Tom-boy and girls were from a different planet than me...I realy just assumed I was straight...when I was 13 I got a HUGE crush on Alyssa Milano then Kate Moennig when I was 14...I also got a HUGE crush on my now best friend...now it`s Leisha Hailey and another girl..who makes me squeal like a girl (yes I know, I am a girl) whenever she says anything nice...*sigh* also a girl in my tutor..hehe yeh plus everything I luv is lesbian...isn`t quite evidence but still....I look back at the little me making my barbies make out and cutting their hair and then ripping off thier heads..and I like to think I have always been gay/bi or whatever..I was always different..

Hey you, you can stay here if you want you can even mess up my life-The Murmurs-Squeezebox days

thinking back to being younger (i.e. pre-teens) I always wanted to be with the girls.. but they were just playing stupid girl games, ha ha.. I, somewhat of a tomboy, preferred sports and boy's stuff (including their toys) .. still I wanted to be with girls for reasons I didn't know nor could explain (at that time I had no clue about sexuality, being gay, gender norms, etc). There was a phase when I wanted to be a boy.. but in hindsight I reckon it was because I was confused about my affinity to girls which no other girls around me exhibited too..only the boys, hence I wanted to be one of them (plus being one of the boys would make it less awkward for a girl being with them, doing the boys' stuff, etc). I also remember that I always had a certain affinity (a crush I suppose, if you can crush at such early age) to some female teachers, be it in kindergarden (started at the age of 3 I think, till I was 6) and in primary school (6-10).

Hitting teenage years and starting to widen my knowledge on sexuality and gender norms those feelings intensified to the degree of full blown physical attraction and crushes, just with the added knowledge that it's being called homosexuality by society and a no-no (or taboo at best). Cue a struggle with self for years to come to terms with it. My peers were all straight.. and raving about the opposite sex..not me. More crushes on female teachers, actresses, fellow pupils, you name it ensued. Having finally come to terms with me being who I am at the age of about 18/19 (coming out, yeay) all those childhood and teenage years finally made so much more sense!

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I have always had closer relationships with women.  I have only two really close male friends and never tried as hard to maintain my friendships with men as I do with women.  I definitely feel that I was more attracted to women for friendship growing up.  And...recently...my aunt told me that I have always had a thing for boobs...:)

Honestly, I might've known since I was in 3rd grade.
I only realised until 6th grade though.

I used to go to an afterschool program (Which was a pretty long one! It was until 6 oclock!)

But I kept on going because of one of the teachers there,

She was this young beautiful indian teacher, and I was so attached to her even being in 3rd grade!

Ahaha.. I have to admit.. I still have fantasies about her too! 

I don't remember having any crushes on girls when I was younger. I do remember thinking that boys were gross, and not being able to relate whenever my friends talked about boys. When we had sex ed in 5th grade, I told everyone I'd go to a sperm bank and have in-vitro fertilization because I didn't want to have sex with a guy. 

I had one crush on a guy in middle school and a few more in high school. Mostly, I remember a feeling of relief and "thank god I'm normal." But I would have been really awkward and bored on a date with most of those guys.

As one of the posters above me said, I've just always had closer relationships with women. I've never had a close guy friend until this year, women are so much more interesting even as friends lol.

In the past, there were a few girls I was really attached to, or got butterflies in my stomach whenever I saw them. I just put it down to friendship or being nervous because I was shy. I even remember reminding myself not to stare at certain girls because it could be misconstrued as a sign that I was gay -- and I, of course, knew that I was straight. (I can be a little dense sometimes.)

Then, when I was 16, I completely fell for this amazing girl. A lot of things clicked for me and started to make sense. I knew that if just talking to her made me feel so happy I'd randomly burst into song and dance for the rest of the day (yes, I really did this...it's so embarrasing lol), there was no way I was straight.