I'm a "straight" girl, and I like a lesbian.

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Instead of clarifying yourself as straight which in my book you're not. you are questioning your sexuality. I'm encouraging you to do that. Tell her how you feel. Don't ever deny your feelings for someone. Forget the ex-gf. She's an ex. Give Danielle something to want you.  This is a time to for you to "be." Be in the moment you are feeling. Flirt with her and do what you do  in getting what you want.

Sorry,I speak in abstract words.

Go For It! You're nervous about the situation. Relax and enjoy your journey.

and thats talking and being and feeling her. Just let go and feel. If that involves being in a relationship with a woman, oh well. Even if it doesn't work out at least you allowed yourself to experience something that is obviously inside of you. BUT MOST IMPORTANT, ENJOY YOUR TIME WITH HER...THAT'S THE PART THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER. Dont worry about the labels of straight or lesbian. Just be you because that's who she likes.

*s*

sorry hun, but i dont think you like her...

your not describing attraction in your post, your describing LOVE, your using all the expression ive heard those in love with someone use.

your in love with this girl, actual love *s*

and as this is the case, i can only tell you a few things.

sexuality is -not- binary, its on a continuum (google "kinsley scale" for an idea), just we only have the words "gay" "straight" or "bi" to conceptualise this.

im not going to say your gay or bi, because your probably not, your in love with this other person who happens to be a woman, how you'd like to "identify" yourself i'll leave to you.

your anxiety that the person you've fallen in love with may end up being nasty and picking the Ex over you, is very natural and is just a fear of being hurt, the Ex, is an Ex for a -reason- it may reassure you to know -why- she is an Ex, chances are, why she's an Ex will tell you why danielle will never go back.

enjoy being in love with her, because love is one of the best things, it makes us angels most of the time, instead of selfish flawed humans this is the kindo f thing you cant plan out or predict (which is why i cant give oyu specific advice in heaps)

go with it for so long as your happy to, be respectful of your heart -and- her's and if chances come up that you feel oyu should take, take them, because listening to the fear that'll follow an instant later, will only leave you with regrets of what you didnt try, even if those fears are incidentally confirmed later on.

good luck *s* do keep us updated

"weigh each of your words with care, for they will betray "you" and are by which you are weighed."
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daym she must really be something! i wish i could turn a "straight girl" MY way! i believe that "OUT" people have this effect of making us realize what we've wanted all along, and that we shouldn't suppress it but let ourselves feel it. shamelessly.

even if she breaks your heart in the end, you're gonna be more sure of yourself and what you want ANd..i bet you 100% you won't regret that you did. :)

bold as love. -jimi hendrix

Hey my namessss brittany, aka burrito, haha and yeah.. i had a 2 year relationship with a straight girl... and well in the end i got my heart broken. :/ make sure not to get carried away.. cuz love really does make you blind. i wish you luck... :]

p.s. the relationship was worth it. :] but i need time to recover so im kinda not talking to her for a while. if u have any questions feel free to message me :] i just joined and i wanna make some new friendsss :D

We all know what we are looking for in another person. That comes in two ways someone we want to share part of our life with and some we just want for a night or month just for comfort. The story you laid out seems to me like Danielle likes you and you seems to display attraction for her. But, before you make any decisions you need to figure out what you want from her. People get caught up in labeling gay and st8 then settling on bi or deciding on one team. These are just word that decribe what we normally go for, they don't decribe how you feel about someone. I have been in a similar situation with the whole half way across the country and the ex. Mine did not work out but there were more circumstances than I feel I should share in this VERY LONG response. But, the truth is relationships without face time die. If all you two will have is phone conversations and two or three visits a year then it probably won't work but if both of you are commiting to actually trying to make this work then I don't see any reason why you should try. Now, about the ex... Some females are just the type that can't let go. They either don't want to feel like they have failed or they are holding on to hope that should have faded a long time ago. You should talk to her try to get in her head about the ex. All females have a great sense of intuition. A lot of us decided to ignore it. So when you talk to her you will know where she stands with her ex. Then you decided if you want to try to fight or just let it go. But the only way you are going to get hurt is if you start trying to live in a fantasy. Which means you know the situation if you start trying to make that situation into something that it's not and have yourself believeing something that is only in your head you'll get hurt.

 WOW! That was a really long ass post. Hope it help. If you want to talk more you can message me. I just joined still figuring it all out so probably best to email me @ kmb4189@yahoo.com

This happened to me recently. But I was the dyke. And once I'd given her everything I had to give, she moved across the country, stopped talking altogether, broke my heart. Presumably because the feelings went away and the friendship left either wasn't enough for the distance, or was overshadowed by shame/regret/disgust. 

I mean, do what makes you happy. But don't let a sexuality experiment turn into something more if you're pretty sure you're straight. Getting fucked over like that, probably the least fun thing in the entire world.

...and therefore is wingéd cupid painted blind

Ask yourself this. Have I ever been attracted to a woman before? And if so was I just curiouse? I had a similar situation only I was the lesbian! And she was stright..there was an attraction there, yes, but she still had tendensies tward men, and to a lesbian thats NOT bi-sexual, its hard to understand! We ended up on my bed making out and I could feel her tension and not letting loose...understandable it was her first time doing anything with a girl! When I asked her how it was she replied to me that there were other things besides sex to keep our relationship going. That was my red flad to jet went up! Be honets with her and yourself. Tell her your not sure and that you'd like to try (if you do) and see where it leads. Dont hurt her, just BE HONEST. It's the BEST polecy!

Good Luck!!

that you can do. be honest. I think you should go with the feelings, and just - don't ever lie to her. if you find yourself one night, or one morning, or one day, stopping and saying, hey: I don't feel the same way as I did. then just tell her that. she can't blame you for being honest (you seem like a sensitive kid anyway) so go for it. better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, and all that.

...and therefore is wingéd cupid painted blind