Did you like girls when you were younger?

When I was younger, I dated guys exclusively.  I do remember, however, being in high school and telling girls how beautiful they were.  I wasn't hitting on them at all.  I was just commenting on and admiring their looks.  It wasn't until just after graduation that I started really thinking about women in a sexual way.  That lasted for awhile until, at 30, I decided to leave my boyfriend of 7 years and date one particular woman who totally captivated me.  I am happy to say that it was the best move of my life.  She and I are still together now and going strong!

 So, to answer your question of "Do you think kids having crushes at that age would predetermine their sexuality?" I would say no.  I don't think crushes determine sexuality.  They don't even determine the type of personality you like.  We've all had crushes on people in the past that we would never think about crushing on now.

I hope that if this little girl grows up as gay or bi, that she will have an easier time identifying and accepting it for herself.  Let's hope that the community she is surrounded by during her coming out will be accepting and supporting!

you probably read my comment on there...I do not recall liking girls until about ten, but I was boy crazy...I remember liking Tom Cruise, though. And then I was like what the hell when Rosie O'Donell had a crush on him, too, once I understood what that meant of course. So, I guess I was closeted from an early age...

This is a tough one to answer, especially seein how everyone is different. Well, I know that when i was younger i wasn't really into girls (but i wasn't really into boys either, i guess i just developed slower), so much so that my mom even said i stopped watching Xena (a tv show which i loved and still love to watch to this day) when i learned that in the show she was a lesbian (which is weird and kinda funny now because i think Lucy Lawless is beautiful), but in my opinion i think it depends on the person. At the same time i feel that to be able to say that at the age of 4 can also depend on who she is around on a daily basis. It could be that this is what she sees and so she is imitating, but then again this is coming from the girl that stopped watching Xena. Of course the crushes are natural but i don't think it could predetermine sexuality so much (not at all saying that it can't though). For me, my first crush was with a boy, but as i got older that changed (i came to realize i was more into girls). At the age of four, its just more of something thats cute and not anything really to think to much into, my lil cousin, who is 7 now, apparently he has already had 4 girlfriends and a lot of crushes, but then he let his mom know that he liked girls at a young age lol...

I guess what i'm saying is that at such a young age its hard to tell anything (it can either be my situation where i learned later on in life, or like my lil cousin where he knew right away), but i think it's cute 

haha, I used to spend all my allowance money on candy and send it to girls across the playground that I thought were pretty, usually the older girls, I just thought of this when I saw this topic.. Oh and remember those games like "BESTEST FRIENDS" "PERFECT LOVERS, you'd write down your name and the crushes and see how many letters your names had of the two words and then add them up and score them to see how you match up??!

...Lame but i used to do it when I was like 12 and I always used girls names ..I wish I would have put these things together years ago....  I didn't think anything of it at the time because I didn't know what gay was... and I did date guys, but I never really "dated" a guy.  My relationships with guys were very awkward and surface.  I generally found them attractive, but I never wanted to mess around and it felt forced when I did. 

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I liked everything when I was younger. I remember being in a poly-like relationship with a boy and a girl. We would practice first base...I was 6. It only lasted for a day and half since she left me to be with the boy only since they loved closer to each other outside the daycare. Later when I was elementry school I really liked my gal pals, but the boys I liked thinking about it now I was better off sharing my crayons. Things happen that shapes your life but I was never the same when my mom's subscription to Victoria's Secret came in the mail; everyday was like Christmas, Tyra, Cindy, Heidi ohh!

I also liked RuPaul, I had strange feelings.

I had a "thing" with anyone I found attractive whether it was a boy or a girl, but I knew deep inside I had a thing for catholic school girls and nuns, Sister Act was a wonderful movie for me. As I got older my feelings for women grew and eventually surpassed what I felt for men. It's to the point I don't notice them {men}, it's quite sad really because I have no idea what guys my peers are talking about unless we are watching a movie or I happen to find them platonically attractive.

I mean I tried to be bi for the most part but it was for the wrong reasons (mother's guilt of no grandbabies). I was upset to realize that I was gay because dammit things are going to be a little bit harder, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

I've been playing soccer since I was seven, and I can pretty much say that I've had a crush on every female coach I've had since! I don't think I really had crushes on girls my age too much as a preteen, but I think between my growing love for soccer, my complete respect for them as female coaches, and my developing sexuality...yea, definitely.

I can't remember if I liked girls when I was much younger or not!? I think I was more fond of older females, i.e school teachers who I remember sometimes getting abit too attached too and wanting the whole comfort and attention thing from. But I don't know if thats related to me liking girls now or just one of those typical child needs. 

haha hell yeah! but i didn't know that's what it was until high school taught me about different sexualities. i remember when i was younger i'd always want my older sister's girl friends to carry me and let me sit on their lap and stuff. i was such a little attention whore. they would be talking about guys and whatnot and i didn't care as long as the "prettiest" friend was holding me like a baby until i fell asleep in her arms haha.

and my old best friend and i would always draw each other gettin married..together lol. and when i would sleep over her house her dad wouldn't let me sleep unless i took off my socks [i sleep with socks because i get nightmares if i don't] so i would take them off. then wake my friend up after a few hours of staring blankly at the dark ceiling, so she let me sleep next to her on her tiny twin bed. it was pretttttty sweet. ;) 

I think I love these stories of childhood romances more than maybe any other stories.

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Now that I think about it, I always seem to gravitate towards girls when I was younger and always did things to try and impress them. I remember following this girl around like a little lost puppy but I had crushes on boys too so I didn't really think about it. It was when I was 10 that I kinda went "Damn, girls are hot!" and realized what I was. 

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my cousin's bestfriend, my friend's sister, my bestfriend, my teacher, and some more older girls :p they make me smile for no reason. i was never extremely attracted to guys.

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The earliest crush I can remember having was in preschool, probably age four.  I was totally fascinated by this one girl and would have done anything to have her pay attentio to me.  She had a habit of chewing on the ends of her braids, so I did too, but she never noticed, lol.

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I don't know how my parents didn't know so many signs. I guess I didn't realise or identify it was just an instinct. Like I'd be the husband in role playing. My friends i would often play sleeping beauty and i was the prince always. One day my friend and i went up to our parents i think when i was about 6 and said we were getting married. I had a big crush on christina ricci in casper too. I was a big tom boy when i was little and wanted to be peter pan. I got girler though the more i realised i was gay.

" a pretty girl in her underwear, pretty girl in her underwear if theres anything better in this world who cares" - magnetic fields

I always thought women/girls were pretty, but I didn't want to date until I hit high school.  The same thing happened with guys...lol.  Hence I am bisexual.   

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Totally!- I was the guys worst enemy back in kindergarten, I remember I got in trouble for punching a guy and busting his lip, his sin was pulling my best girlfriends ponytail...haha. The little guys feared me ever since then and I had to see him for two more years-he never came close to me or her again xD. Then on elementary I definetely had a lot of girl crushes and was also known as the big bully and was always dying for the girls attention, the guys were just friends whom I could rough play the way I couldnt with the girls.Then on 5th grade I fell for my science teacher,fell hard!, I used to send her notes, tried to share my lunch with her and I followed her everywhere the classmates gave me shit for this and I just replied that I loved her every time they questiones me. DAMN when she left it was the worst thing to have ever happened to me -I was totally heartbroken....and so It went  from there, I have always been different and now looking back on it I have Always been gay -le gasp-.

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I don't think I really knew until I was a teenager. But when I think back, I'm sure I had a crush on my kindergarten teacher. I used to pretend like I didn't know how to tie my shoes, so she would tie them, and I would pretend like I was napping at nap time so she would wake me up. And I always wanted to be the helper. I remember I always wanted her to touch me. ...That  seems weird to type out.

I also had certain female celebrities I was fond of. But again I just thought it was normal. I used to crush on guys, but I think it's just because I thought that was what i was suppose to be. Like I was brainwashed.

I don't think I really started crushing on girls I went to school with until middle school. And it was usually girls in higher classes than me. Even then though I think I thought I was just like everyone else. It wasn't until 9th grade where I realized, maybe I dig chicks.

I had a lot of feelings towards girls that I didn't think of as crushes at the time, but in retrospect, that's definitely what they were.  I didn't see it until much later, probably because we are all so socialized to be heterosexual ...

Now when I like a girl, I'll do anything to for her. In primary school I had a friend who was gorgeous but to be honest, a bit of a bitch. She'd ditch me and I'd go off with other friends, but I'd always take her back when she'd fight with someone and I'd end up leaving my other friends for her. I think she was actually my first girl crush... I cried so much when she moved schools.

Lol I think for a joke my dad bought this towel with a naked women on it. It quickly became mine :-D

I didn't even think that was odd. I just really liked it.

What a great topic! There are just so many different thoughts over the years it's hard to look at them objectively. I remember going on holiday with my family in grade 1. There was this chick who worked at the supermarket where we were staying for a few weeks and I remember looking out for her everytime we went in to get something!! she must've been at least 10 years older than me! It was different in the following years - we all competed for the boys' attention. I remember squabbling with my friends over who would get who and the various pairings up that would go on. We'd talk about having boyfriends when we were older and not once did I ever imagine that I wouldn't have one. I even had posters on Dean Cain all over my wall when I was about 10. Ewwww....why oh why did I pick Dean Cain? My older cousin asked teasingly "So you liiiikke Dean Cainnnnn?" and now I remember thinking that I didn't really, and that I wasn't really sure why he was all over my walls.

Oh my god....that's the first time I've thought of that situation. God things become clear when you look back! Though I do remember actually thinking Leo DiCaprio was super hot to look at. Yet does any 10 year old know why they like a celebrity? Wow...no wonder I was and still am so confused!

In my teens I was always thinking that I should have a boyfriend and would consider certain guys. Almost intellectually consider them, without actually having any proper attraction. It was always 'he's cute looking and a nice guy so I guess I should like him'. Hahaha this is getting amusing for me. Probably extremely dull for all of you. But this is kind of cathartic for a semi-closet dweller like me. In grade 8 I was in complete and utter unrequited love with this gorgeous older year 10 girl from another school. I would obsess over seeing her at soccer training each week. Once, I scored a goal in an important close match and she came running up to me and gave me a huge hug. I thought about it all afternoon! Hahaha.  From then on I was always in love with some older girl from school or work or sport (or teacher!). But like others have said, I more just thought I wanted to be really good friends with them. I still went out and kissed the boys, went to the movies, got excited about playing spin the bottle etc. Even legitimately wanted to get in the boys' pants. Hah! Never had more than a fleeting attraction to them though, so maybe I was 'straight-curious'?

God if anyone can make sense of that I'd love to hear it. I'm new here so forgive my inadequacy! Though maybe it needn't ever make sense in a conventional way. It 'was' just how it 'was', right?

i only had crushes on boys when i was younger but most were only coz the guy was cute or popular. really, i just wanted someone to like me, i didn't actually want to be in a relationship with a guy. anyway, i may have had a crush on a girl in 1st grade and i was a bit clingy to my 1st grade teacher. but... my childhood memories are a a bit of a blur so i'm not sure if they were actually crushes or not. i started getting crushes on female celebrities in my mid teens and only got my first crush on a girl recently.  

but no, i don't think all lesbians had crushes on girls when they were younger. who you crush on does not determine your sexuality, it's who you want to spend the rest of your life with. 

But I always presumed I was going threw a phase and would one day end up with a guy. But then I had my first girlfriend at 14 which kinda confirmed it all for me.

heh.. I remember my first "crush" was a really good-looking boy in kindergarten and we actually chatted on a phone for a while until I forgot he was on the line and went to play with dolls instead. Odd.

When I was in primary school (elementary), I remember being fondly attached to my bestie who was a girl. Then came high school and I was enrolled into a girls' school where I met my first serious crush. Serious as in wanting to have a future with her. It was a bit embarrassing to keep blushing and stammering in front of her, but it was then when I realised why I couldn't fit in with my straight cousins. Too bad it didn't work out and it became my first heart break instead haha.

Right now. I am still as confused as ever. Not the part on liking girls but just the part on liking boys. Odd, I know.

I was always about girls more then guys. I remember being 5 and seing 2 classmates kiss, I wanted to be kissing the girl. BUT I did have crushes on boys, of course most of them have ended up being gay, lol. I have also always had girl best friends, girls are just cooler, what can I say, lol!!

I'm only 97% gay....the other 3% is for the sexy trannies!! ====>GAY<====

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I loved girls when I was little. I still love girls now. If I live to be an old lady lying on my death bed, I'll be like *thumbs up* *old, shaky voice* "I love women!"

I've liked girls since i can remember hahaha...
In kindergarten and a few years later i'd play house with my friends and convince them that they had to kiss me so we would be like a real mom and dad (guess who was always the guy... xD), it worked everytime.