What the F......emme?

This may be a long post. And ugh, excuse me if I sound narcissitic. For the lead up: I came out to my friends in September. I never really dated guys. I met a girl through a friend when we went to a club one time.

We went for coffee yesterday (and yes I asked her).. and I just left feeling weird. The date itself was odd (I'm not interested in a relationship right now.. but I find you very attractive, so right now I'm not really interested, but I'm not not interested) but there was one comment that kind of let me off kilter. We were talking about my sexuality and it came out... "You're really... femmey." I asked her to clarify that, since her ex/roomie/best friend is also feminine. "She's girly but you're... femmey. More feminine."

This kind of left me dumbstruck.

For my style, I like to fuck with "norms". I like to be unusual, I like to be eccentric. I like to be hard to classify. I have a dykey hair cut, but I always have perfectly applied makeup. I like to wear menswear (men-fit blazers, suspenders, ties, bowties, wingtips), unisex AA pieces, short skirts and loud tights. I'll wear heels but strut like a man. When I go out I'll often draw on a mustache.
When it comes to my personality, I don't really see myself as being traditionally girly. When I'm with people I know, I'm aggressive, sarcastic, stubborn as a mule.... I am rarely emotional and approach situations in a logical or somewhat calculating way. I'm down to earth and I am not high maintenance in the slightest. I've always rejected the idea of traditional chivalry and I'll be the one to pay the bill, open the door, etc... Before I came out, a lot of straight people I knew assumed I was a lesbian.

I just feel awkward. I do get approached by lesbians (and straight men and straight women.. and gays and drag queens) yet the one time I go on a date with a woman I'm criticized for my style... or my perceived style?

What the heck does that femme comment mean? This was the first time I went on a date with a girl.. but I'm worried that a comment like that will come up again. Are there negative connotations associated with being femme? Most of all... how can you dispel those beliefs on a first date?

I hope no one takes these stereotypes to be offensive....