The common crush on people one shouldn't crush on...

I fell in love with my language lecturer.  She was smart, spunky, and incredibly cute: shorter than me, had a very nice derriere, boy-cut hair and her two front teeth stuck out (I know this sounds gross, but if you'd met her, you'd think it was cute, too!).

I took one course with her and completely drooled all over her during classes... then I took another course with her, then another... I think in total I took four courses with her, in a subject I wasn't all that interested in.  Heck, I even went to a concert to watch a singer I hadn't even learned of up to that point (but totally don't regret because I got to learn about Cesaria Evora).  Needless to say, I just swooned over this lady.  

Even though she was dating this skinny, tall, pony-tail wearing guy, I didn't care -I even bought her a stuffed Scooby dog because it reminded me of her and gave it to her.  She didn't think it was weird (perhaps in her culture students give teachers random gifts?), or at least didn't show it.

I kept this charade up until I was to leave for my study abroad program in Europe.  I confessed via email.  Her reply was short but professional.  In replying to my "I think you're cute, I'm crazy about you" message, she wrote, "I just want to make it very clear that I want things between us to remain professional."

That was that.  Never saw/spoke to her again after that... if your teacher's professional, you can expect an answer like that from her... but the flipside is that you may burn a bridge between a potential rec letter for later.  

...but do I regret telling her how I felt?  HELL NO.  :)

That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

Whatever you decide... g'luck!  :)

(Smart, sexy women... they are dangerous, aren't they?)

That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

Teachers, movie stars, people online *cringe*

*s* -everyone- has these crushes, (two teachers one male one female in highschool for me) annd *headscratch* im -stoopidly- crushing -big time- on someone here (started past few days) and same situation as you almost (just online not in a class room).

there is no ways in -hells- it'll happen, but ya know what helps?

I dont beat myself up for stopping and looking a moment at the knee-jellyingly gorgeous slightly quirky smile they have (normally i dont even look at the pics unless they're new, and i normally couldnt list alot of adjectives to go with thier eyes/smile/etc)

I dont track everything they say but like everyone elses posts if its in a thread that's caught my eye i'll read thiers and happily disagree if i do disagree (20% of the time)

I happily believe they dont actually have a clue because the thing is, most people arent as perceptive/we're not as obvious as we imagine to be the case at times like this.

and instead of staring at thier pic/what they've said (for once instead of them being a total "mystery" i actually get -why- they said what they did, maybe im growing up somemore? *cheers*), every time i see thier pic/post i do what i think you should do.

dont give it another thought (niether repress nor stress), get on with life as normal, happy to feel how we do, happy to see the gorgeousness in another person, be yourself and each time you see them, secretly, silently, wish them the very best for their life without condition or expectation.

it'll pass and like QU33R did, before you go from their lives forever, do take the time to tell them someone thought they we're gorgeous and wonderful. cause everyone should hear that once in a while.

~"The Secrets worth learning make no sounds by which to be known, They are Of Blood and Bone, Of breathing anothers breath, Of in, behind and before the hue of the eyes, Of loss and of sacrifice, Of life and death."~

...all that which I want to try and incorporate into my being from now until.......  :)

Wow, that sounds like an ambitious one!  Having the tips curve to the front of the hips sounds unique.  Never seen angel wings do that.  Do it, do it do it!  :D

That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

At the moment I do not feel the need to tell her anything regarding my feelings for her. Especially since she hangs around me for at least 2.5 years when it comes to lectures and at the moment, it looks like you can add another 3 or 4 years lol.

And yeah I knew I was too paranoid. I think she knows I'm gay though, since I never do anything to hide it or whatever. And yeah, the words 'lesbian bar' have been dropped by me and she reacted pretty cool to it. Cool in the good way and not cold and formal. But yeah, she probably would not suspect any of her students to have a thing for her.

Considering I have to spend a few years in her presence, I won't tell her, but I think I will just enjoy the feeling and be less uptight and worried about it. Perhaps it will make me more comfortable around her when I don't have to watch every step. Oh and yeah, if, after a few years, I still remember this crush as anything big, I might indeed tell her. My guess is it will end up with the both of us grinning.

 Get a taste of religion. Lick a witch!

good plan *s*

-love- your sig by the way, heres another for you...

"Go veggie, lick a druid" (yours is better)

~"The Secrets worth learning make no sounds by which to be known, They are Of Blood and Bone, Of breathing anothers breath, Of in, behind and before the hue of the eyes, Of loss and of sacrifice, Of life and death."~

Currently "crushing" on one of my friend's ex, who is also a good friend...it was a bad break up between the two..I sympathize with both of them..my girl friend end up following an arrange marriage and left the country, leaving him heartbroken and distress...Not to mention I had an interest in him, when all three of us were just friends years ago and then we broke off to separate cities. Now he is close by attending grad and we'll meet once or twice a week......Its been hard on me..listening to him, comforting him, worrying for him (not the best in health), his personality is a lot different than other guys in a very positive way..why I shouldn't be surprise..he dated my awesome girl friend after all...this really blows..blows..but I'll survive..these feelings are as strong as my first love..but it surfaces more around the feelings of love and "pity" ..I feel like I just want to give him all the love and care I can ever give......In difference to my first love the rhythm of my heart beat beats sporadically out of control just thinking about her, so innocent in terms yet so strong in yearning for just a glance of her ....while this one squeezes like hell, as if I'm suffocating, just the look of his eyes can make me crash..its like as if I feel the sorrow he feels of his loss......Urghh..its so frustrating..

damn, urghh, I can't believe I just type that...but what I really want to say in my opinion....is that one can't really control how they (me) feel towards another.... no matter how wrong and intense these emotions might hurt the individuals themselves, I think its amazing to be able to cherish these feelings....I guess to me, it gives me a sense of how I am and how my feelings are among "others" and how should act upon my own emotions....but everybody have their own perspectives around their feelings, whether they are right or wrong...but to me they are all special, especially the ones that gets you hurt really bad T_T but it really makes me look forward to that one person that will make me happy and bring out muche motions to be forever engrave them in my heart...with the others..hehehe but they'll hold a more special place, neh?! ^_^

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