Building a Gaydar

Let me know if you find any that work...i am clueless when it comes to gaydar.

Then again, being clueless seems to be a part of my charm...so perhaps its best if i hold on to that for now...

If you are a 'girly-girl' then perhaps think of what signals you put out to try to gain the attention of that one attractive female... and then look for those same signals you use in others.

You can train your Gaydar, with experiences. I think a gaydar is nothing more than the ability to read the signs. Go among lesbians and let the vibe go through you, hard to describe it (it seems to be silly, but sometimes it works). But the most important thing, if you have no gaydar, that makes you not lessbian. We love you so or so :).

"Everytime I look in the mirror, I wonder, how much I resemble to Myself"

The first thing about gaydar is that it's all based on context.  If a woman's attention is focused on something (work, conversation, etc.) it's just going to be difficult to determine whether or not she's queer.  Unless she's wearing some kind of sign, you're just going to have to make yourself vulnerable and risk going out on a limb to fish.

Make eye contact.  Hold it.  If you're shy, your gaydar is not going to work anyway.  You have to be open to the signs, and this doesn't mean the woman carrying one!

If she holds your eye contact then smile.  Start a conversation.  About anything.  If she is queer, then what follows is going to be based on how out she is.  She might be totally down for jumping your bones right then and there or she might be totally in the closet.  And if she's in the closet, then depending on how public you are...you see where this is going.

Luck is preparedness and timing.  If you don't let opportunities for eye contact slip past and you're in the right location to strike up a lil' chat, you might just find out whether or not she's open to the idea.

And when I've been wrong, and I haven't been a complete git, it can usually be laughed off and no harm's been done.  

And with everything else this requires practice.  You want to skate?  You're going to have to fall on your bum...a bunch.  Same for utilizing your 'dar.

If only I had seen this post in high school cause it would have helped me so much. Wow alot of people had to be bi curious. I had alot of awkward eye moments with girls... 

Hopefully I can put it to good use now haha 

Oh gosh, I was having that thought too! Like, how the heck are you supposed to build a gaydar... and then sometimes people are like "Well, you're a lesbian. Isn't it supposed to just be automatically 'built in'?" arghhhh

It's super hard when you're attracted mostly to the femmes and you don't have a gaydar.

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I tune my gaydar with life experience.  I try to first notice a woman's mannerisms.  I look for a wedding and engagement ring.  It is very hard with the girly-girls.  I wish you girls would wear a sign.  It would be a lot easier.  ;)

Are usually good indicaters she is into you. Looking for a purple bracelet, rainbow jewelry, silver rings or other "gay" symbols also help. Someone mentioned above looking for wedding/engagement rings to tell you it would be a no go.

I think gaydar is mainly intuition.  Unfortunately, some people are just better at it than others.

This whole discussion reminds me of the first time I was hit on by a women. I had just moved from a small very conservative town to a large liberal one.  I was at the grocery store checkout line and the women in front of me kept staring for an awkwardly long time and then tried to start up a conversation with me while I was bagging my groceries. Unfortunately, I am shy and a bit of a turkey so I ran away as soon as possible but there was little room for interperatation on what she wanted.  The staring and polite conversation said it all.

If it is a random encounter you could just try what Kitty posted and tell her "I sleep with women"! Although if someone said that to me I would probably go..."holy smokes!" and run away. Lol. I guess that is my M.O.

It's so funny, people just assume lesbians knows lesbians and I'm still confused. My guy friends are constantly like "well, is she gay" and I'm like "I don't know". I never know how in the heck I'm suppose to know or not.

Praise be to the girls that have it worked down to a science.

i dont want to ruin the whole eye contact and smiles thing because it is hard to do when your shy but just know that sometimes it is just smiling to make an awkward moment less awkward, it happened to me, i thought this girl was gay turns out shes not but i used the eye contact and smiling thing. try look for other signals to

Okay so there was this one time that I thought my gaydar, my hunch, my intuition was correct and it was so.dead. WRONG....

There's this coffee shop that predominantly gay in Capitol Hill and there was this one red headed chick who I swear to god was queer, I'm not kidding.  She wasn't so much girly girly but anyways, my gay boy told me, "I don't think she's gay" but I didn't believe him.  

One night I asked one of her co-workers if she was single and he said yes then asked why?  I said, Oh nothing.  Now, I though at the time, if she wasn't gay then he would've said, "She's single but straight."

So one night, I mustered up the courage to ask her out for coffee (stupid because she works at a friggin coffee shop but I was so frazzled and it took me 10 minutes to get it out of my mouth).  Anyways, to make a long story short, she was in fact straight.  Gay boy was right, my gaydar was wrong.  She did give me her number though.

I think I'm going to just pack him in my back pocket...

My favorite tip was always:

 If she looks like she should have a manicure (acrylics, painted nails, etc.), but she doesn't, she's probably gay.

Hasn't failed me yet!!!

When I was a younger lesbian just coming out, I noticed a lot of lesbian "more butchy" women wore thumb rings. I always thought that was a symbol for being a lesbian. I always wear a thumb ring. I am girly, and everyone always thinks I am straight. I was with a straight girl for 7 years so my gaydar is way off or confused. I never questioned my instincts before, but now after my ex is engaged to a boy, I definitely question it. We really need to get this lesbian symbol going for the girly girls because I am only attracted to the girly girls and I find that I keep wasting time flirting with complete straight girls ugh! When you figure one out - let me know!

-The girl wearing the thumb ring on her right hand =)

 I'm not really a girly girl I have long hair and wear make-up etc but i rarely wear dresses skirts etc..and I am too only attracted to feminine girls, my tip is to literally flirt with EVERYONE what someone said before just put ur vibe out there, not in an obnoxious guy way but just banter, laugh and smile most of the time girls straight or gay do react probably just because it's a friendly thing. i do think it's easier for girls to flirt with each other so just go for it I doubt anyone would be offended.

OH! but another great tip/sign I have is if the girl looks at your lips when ur talking to her it's usually a good indicator that shes intrested, so go in for the kill. :) xx

JUST SHUG.

I got my kit at Wal-Mart. Quality isn't that great, frequently misreads, pings too loudly for others to hear, and came in a lameass colour. Don't forget to add the oil to stop the squeaks in your gaydar. 

:)

When i meet lesbian or bi girls i just know or the thought crosses my mind and most of the time i find out that i was right.

a shock absorber on it. You don't wanna look OBVIOUSLY surprised when you realize a chick is gay. 

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