Lesbians Are Bisexual Part II: The Explanation

WOW!!!!!!!!! 90 replies in less than 12 hours LOL. Damn!!

Ok, so I've been called a gay man, a misogynist gay man, a straight man, a misogynist straight man, a homophobic bi woman, a homophobic straight woman, a troll and probably some other things too, but you are all wrong. I am a 28 year old lesbian. It's not because a woman is a lesbian that she has to accept what other lesbians do. The lesbian community is not immune to criticism just because we are a minority. Black people can criticise other black people. Women can criticise other women. Gay men can criticise other gay men etc.

Now, I did not write this post to offend. I did not use abusive language, graphic language yes, but not abusive. I also didn't call anyone any names. The reason you are all so angry is because lesbians don't like to talk about this subject. It's very taboo. It makes us all very uncomfortable. It made me very uncomfortable for a loooonng time but now I'm just being honest. You can call me whatever you want, but I'm not a troll. I'm just telling the truth and you all know it's the truth even though you don't want to admit it.

Many of you have said in your replies that I'm wrong and completely crazy for saying these things. Well here are a few links that might change your mind:

http://www.lesbilicious.co.uk/community/why-do-lesbians-love-gay-man-porn/

http://www.afterelton.com/node/22359   (Well well well, the girls of afterellen are talking about gay porn? Hmmm...)

http://www.mikealvear.com/2008/11/11/why-do-lesbians-watch-gay-porn/

http://gracethespot.com/?p=336

http://gracethespot.com/?p=305  (That blog is funny and talks about the excuses lesbians make about their attraction to men)

http://lesbianlife.about.com/od/lesbiansex/a/Fantasy.htm

http://www.afterellen.com/node/29429 (Interesting quote from Dr. Diamond: "Similarly, two thirds of the lesbian women in Study A reported experiencing periodic attractions to men". Wow, two thirds of lesbians??? That doesn't leave a lot real lesbians out there.

http://nymag.com/nymetro/nightlife/sex/columns/nakedcity/n_8301/

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=7016

Also read the book "The Female Brain" by Dr. Louann Brizendine. It's a very recent book like 2007 or 2008 and there's a section on lesbians where if I remember correctly, she says that atleast 50% of lesbians enjoy sleeping with men.

There's also the book "The Lesbian Sex Book or Guide (not sure)" which talks about how many lesbians get more sexual gratification from sex with men and also fantasize about men.

There's much more research out there and many more books on lesbians attraction to men and hasbians. But then again, all you have to do is open your eyes to see what's going on. When I was younger and just out of the closet, I felt the exact same way as many of you. It was all about denial. Everytime I heard about a lesbian leaving her girlfriend for a man or sleeping with a man, I would say "Ohh well she was just bisexual to begin or she's trying to be straight to please society etc." Or when I heard about Joann Loulan, Anne Heche, Sinead O'Connor and Julie Cypher all leaving their girlfriends for men, again, I didn't want to think about it. To me, they were all stupid straight girls who had used their lesbianism for popularity. But then as the years went by I realized like Dr. Lisa Diamond says in her research, that for lesbians, attraction to men is the norm, not the exception. The only difference is that it's all a big secret. Lesbians are ashamed of this and rightfully so, because it shows that they need a man even if it's only occasionally and they've spent their lives telling society that they don't need men. I understand the shame and the discomfort with this. I totally get it, but it's still the truth.

The reason I mentioned gay men is that I do believe they are much more gay than lesbians are. They make much more sense to me (No, I promise, I am not a gay man!!!). They don't get turned on by lesbian sex because of the women in it. The female body does not turn them on. Dicks, balls, sperm, cock-sucking, men's bodies turn them on so they like gay porn. Makes perfect sense to me! I've also never met a gay man who fantasizes about sex with women. I'm sure they exist but it's not common like it is for lesbians to fantasize about sex with men. I just don't understand lesbians for the most part and that's why I'm being honest about my feelings.