HELP ME!!! Really conflicted and confused!!!

You say that if you don't tell  your husband about your sexuality, it would feel like lying and would eat at you. This may sound easy in theory, but telling the truth is the best policy. Tell him about your sexuality and assure him that you have no intention of cheating on him or leaving him. Remind him what a great family you both created together. Be extra attentive and reassuring for a while after you tell him, if he is that insecure. Once you've told your husband, it should be simpler to tell you sister-in-law.

This advice may be a bit naive, but it is the only one I can think of at the moment. Hope things resolve themselves favorably.

Speak with your Sister-in-law, if she is the person you described, then she will understand you, and much more easier to carry a secret for two person. I think your husband don't need to know, because you said, you dont want to cheat on Him, so this information is not really relevant to your marriage.

so, what  advice do you want us to give you. This is something that you have finally accepted about yourself, unless you are prepared to act on it than your husband doesn't need to know about it. I say you should talk to your sister-in-law about it if you need to get it off your chest or it may be easier to talk to someone you don't know, there are a lot of places for gays & bisexual people to go now. Why tell your husband that you are bisexual & maybe risk having your husband question any little gesture you make around other women. Unless the urge to be with another woman gets to much for you to handle than you should talk to your husband & see where you go from there. You say you love your husband & you would never cheat on him & he's the only man for you, so what if you finally realized that you like women too, you love your husband. And if you are in a committed relationship to eachother than you sould not allow your curiosity to get the best of you, just because it's another woman doesn't  change the fact that you are already in a committed relationship, you just know one more thing about yourself, that's all & one more thing you're not lying to your husband if you don't tell him about your revolation about yourself, now....the only way you should feel guilty is if you are having thoughts of acting on your feelings, goodluck. 

 "where you're at now in your life is where you need to be, you're there for a reason, so figure out what it is you need to learn so you can move on".

IMHO, if you are thinking of coming out to your husband then you need to prepare yourself for his reaction, whatever it may be. Even if he's the greatest guy in the world, he may not know how to handle this. Truth is important, but if you feel that your family is more important, you'll need to decide if they're worth (possibly) losing if hubby reacts negatively.

Sorry for the doom and gloom, but I was once in your position (sort of): I came out to my then-bf as bisexual and he didn't handle it well. I did it because I wanted to be honest - like you, I had no intentions of leaving him or cheating - but he just couldn't deal with it. Paranoia, jealousy, false assumptions, you name it... It didn't work.

Good luck. :)

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