Secret single behaviorThe longer I am single for, I find myself developing more and more secret single behavior, things that I do only when I am single, that I actually find quite satisfying. Such as Ordering way too much take out thai, picking up several bottles of Red and watching marathons of my favorite shows, refuse to answer calls, texts or e mails, and just veg. On saturday, after going for a run, i shower and put on new sweats, not intending on going anywhere or see anyone, I wont even bother with my contacts, just throw on the glasses, pull my hair back and put on a headband. Hot right, no wonder I am single! Voulenteer more time because I actually have time that is mine, not 'ours'. Spending an entire afternoon enveloped in a wonderful book, drinking numerous cups of coffee until it is time to switch to wine. Cooking beautiful, big meals, knowing that I will be the only one eating it. I set the table nicely for one, light my candles, throw on Billie Holiday and enjoy the solitude. Buy myself jewlery that I cannot really afford, but that gives me more satisfaction knowing I bought them, and not some girl, as I recenly noticed my jewlery collection is a battlefield of bloody relationship gifts. Ladies, please tell me that you too, have secret single behavior!!
Submitted by Vanessa (119 posts) on January 3, 2009 - 3:21pm. |
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But yea, I do have secret single behaviours! I too sometimes make myself unavailable so that I can lock myself away, wear daggy comfy clothes, not put on makeup and sloth on the sofa and/or in front of the puter, indulging in my "guilty pleasure" movies while eating a bag of something I prolly shouldn't... cos it's nice to "treat" myself once in awhile. I always ensure I have at least one day a week that is aaaaall mine, where I can think about anything and everything random.
I love your idea of a candlelit dinner for one... only I can't/don't cook. And oh, lol, I'm listening to Billie Holiday right now!
I find I crave my alone time when my life is busy/chaotic.
Secret Single Behavior-Hmmm?
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This is the first time in my life I've heard anyone describe singlism this way. I guess mines would be. I buy,if finances permit, tons of groceries. Or expensive purses. I don't have time to cook for just one. Buy them anyway. Some days I dress a lot more down and no make-up. I also spend loads of time watching movies,reading and being on the net on my off days(I'm trying to change that).I rarely go out if I do -movies/bookstores only. I make excuses for myself. (Ironic b/c I'm a sociable womyn). I too refuse calls. I feel bad when I do. I enjoy my alone time. Right now it's nice. Peace and quiet.
I,too, like your candlelight dinner for one too. I should try that. As far as gifts from exes, I destroy those. I don't any reminders of what was.
Don't feel bad.
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Dinner for one.