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Girlfriend Cheats with My Best Friend - Ever Happen to You?

Has anyone else ever experienced a situation where your best friend has cheated on you with your girlfriend?   It has recently happened to me and I am having a hard time with it. Would love to hear from others?  I thought maybe it might help to make some sense of things or what people have done that has helped you process it and move forward? I have never felt so betrayed..and the worst part is I have to see the 2 of them in a particular situation so its like in my face. 

Anyway, would love to hear from any others?


Social Anxiety's picture

Yes

Its happend to me before. It sucks alot. I never really delt with it in the smartest of ways which is why it still bothers me sometimes till this day.
Rachel JW's picture

I'm sorry

It wasn't my best friend but it was a "friend" of mine. A situation of, "they wouldn't know each other if it weren't for me." There is this overwhelming sense of betrayal and I took it very hard. I was in high school at the time and I felt paranoid beyond belief and I couldn't trust anyone for the longest time.

I say cut them both off, do your best to stay away from where they'll be, and take your time to be angry and get over the pain. It'll hurt for a while. I do understand animal attraction and having a connection with someone so that's probably what they had, but it's not alright to over ride someone else's feelings... In time it'll be ok. Mean time, fill your days with business and keep your mind preoccupied and make yourself the best you, you're able to be. :) 

-Rachel 

http://groups.myspace.com/KisstheGirl07
Paperback-Writer's picture

I feel your pain.

Mine was almost worse. My boyfriend cheated on me, with my best friend...in front me..while I was passed out from drinking.

The worst part is that I had to see them the next day. We all share the same class.

Anytime I saw them talk, I felt like running out of the room. I cuuldn't even yell at them. I was just so shocked.

They aren't together anymore, but I still don't talk to them.

I understand how you feel. It feels like a shitty soapopera gone wrong. You just have to pull through it.