I got a reputation for making out with girls at my school, as well as every relationship I'd had with a guy being a complete catastrophe, so all my friends referred to me as "the lesbian", despite my protests as I didn't think I was until more recently...

 But otherwise I don't think they knew at all, although one or two did tell me "you know, I wouldn't be surprised if you were a lesbian..."

And I'm a total femme!

okay, so it was almost 7 months ago, when i told them. My freinds picked up that i had been acting like i was hidding somthing, because we tell each other EVERYTHING but i had been feeling down and would tell them why. So for about 2 months they were CONSTANTLY guessing (i told them i would only tell if they guess it) why i was so  depressed. Finally i just gave in and told them that i had broken up with Sam, the best thing to have ever happened to me, i later in formed them that Sam was short for Samantha, a girl i had been in love with for about 8 months......yea my friends aren't very perceptive lol.

oooh and get this, i came out to them in a text message!

They were like "I never even thought about that!"

then about 2 weeks later i came out to my sister, tho again she had to guess. My sis was much quicker on the uptake, she guessed within about umm 20 minutes? our convo:

her "........you're failing skol?"

me: nope

her: had you first kiss?

me: nope

her .."you gay?

me:.......... starres into space....

her: OMG! runs into house and doesn't talk to me for 15 mins!

 okay so im in my room freaking out and crying coz i think my twin sis HATES me, then she comes in my room like "are you serious? i just thought you were like me and thought guys were gross!"

yea i don't wana write any more so that'll be all, unless u want the rest, if so messge me, my inbox is sooo lonsome! :-(

that I was gay.  I worried at first that everyone else could see a huge "L" on my forehead. 

I'm also a lipstick lesbian.  So when I was younger, my friends had no clue, except I didn't show any interest in boys.  They thought I was just more interested in school (they were half right).  They had a very narrow idea of what lesbians looked and acted like.  My family, on the other hand, was the same way, except they already figured it out before I told them because I never dated boys and turned them down.  They just didn't buy the idea that books ruled over boys.

My family and friends all know now.  However, new people in my life still make assumptions that I'm straight until I correct them.

my sister and I were talking about our plans for the next week.

I told her that I'm about to get my hair cut on friday. I want to try something new, so I think I'm gonna have it really short this time... just to try what it looks like.. i mean it'll always grow back. Anyway.. she looked at me and said:

"No, stupid! The shorter you hair is, the more people will actually think you're like.. gay or sth! I mean they already do, but.. just keep it the way it is.. it's about as good as it'll get anyway"

enough said.

there was this episode of mtv true life-- "i'm living a double life"-- and one of the people was this gay boy who was closeted to all his straight friends... he agonizes throughout the whole episode over telling his friends, he's like "what if they reject me, this is going to shatter their world," etc.

then it interviews his best friend and she's like "Is this about him being gay?" apparently all his friends had known for years and are all fine with it, they just figured he didn't want to talk about it :P

My dad basically guessed I was gay. He assumed it after all of my dropping hints. Shortly after, I told my sister. Then my mother found out by accident. My mother and sister thought it was surprising, my dad basically knew and was cool with it. Some of my friends told me they figured I was gay prior to my telling them - though they said something like "You'd be too much for a guy to handle. And I think you'd be bored." which...I really don't know how to take, but okay. Otherwise, I don't really flaunt it about, but I don't quite hide it, either. If I see a good looking girl, I'll outright say, "she's hot" or something along those lines. I don't hide away at work, either. My bosses know I'm gay. They once asked me to tell them one thing about myself that they didn't know and I said something along the lines of, "well, you both know this already. But I feel like prancing and singing so: I LIKE GIRLS, I LIKE GIRLS, I LIKE GIRLS! DOO DOO DOO! I LIKE GIRLS!". And, yes. Prancing was involved.


"GET RID OF MEANING. YOUR MIND IS A NIGHTMARE THAT HAS BEEN EATING YOU: NOW EAT YOUR MIND." --Kathy Acker

When I was 15 everyone I knew then, knew I was gay. My parents and friends and everyone, though the older I have become, the more weary I am have become of telling people. People I meet don't seem to be able to tell, until they get to know me a bit better (and generally find out things like the fact I have a girlfriend) It's not information I like to volunteer, because I think it's a weird thing to do. I've known a few gay people who like to declare their sexuality as soon as you meet them, and in a way I can understand why, but I prefer not to.

The first time I told my friends... they said they never thought about it before, but now that they knew, it was completely obvious.

I met a girl and the next day she flat out asked me, "Are you a lesbian?"

She was straight, though. =[ Slightly depressing. <_<

I haven't shouted anything from the mountain tops but when someone questions my sexual orientation i respond "I am much too interested in finding a great person to love to limit my relationships to a specific gender." hahah i hate labels

but when someone honestly asks me the question, i am honest....cept people at my work....it's awkward when they ask me, since i met my boss from church like 4 years ago lol.

but i think alot of my close friends assume, it's kinda weird cuz we joke about it alot, we always say shit like "man i'm such a lesbian" or telling people that me and my best friend were in a lesbian porn together (deep cave 3, the cover is on my profile) and so on and so on...but some of my friends are convinced i'm completely 100% straight. Why? Because more than a year ago they asked me, and i lied straight to their face (but of course i thought that was actually the truth) Now today....i wouldn't do that...unless of course it's like my boss or my grandma or my homophobic republican conservative father.

cept lately i've noticed my father wearing more and more tye dye, doing more and more musical theatre, and hearing more and more stories about him smoking weed sometimes when he goes on camping trips with his brother...

so maybe in the next few years my dad will be a tree hugging, liberal, gay-lover

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"Valentine's Day's coming? Aw crap! I forgot to get a girlfriend again!"- Fry

Well, when I came out to my closest friends, they didn't seem particularly surprised.. and my parents said they'd figured it out :S .. I was actually quite shocked cos then, when I firstly came to the realization, it wasn't THAT obvious.. only that I never showed ANY interest in men.. But this year especially, I wouldn't say im out, but it's really - i mean REALLY - obvious. But people don't seem to get the hint.. oh well..

It totally came out as a surprise for pretty much everybody, except maybe for a few people who were wondering because of some comments I would make. Other than that, I looked very straight I guess !

 "Seize the day or die regretting the time you lost"

My close high school friends weren't shocked when I told them, considering the behaviors I used to engage in in High School.  But I always had a boyfriend so that was a nice little cover...

My college friends, however, were a little more shocked.  Some told me it was a phase, some told me "Don't worry, you're not really a lesbian".  (Bisexual seems to be an easier concept for them to handle)  Some didn't even care, considering everyone has thier own issues to deal with.  My coming out was very slow, it went from "I like kissing girls..." to "I like making out with girls..." to "I kind of also like girls..." to "Maybe I only like girls..." to drunkenly proclaiming my crushes on various straight girls in my classes as my friends stared at me wide eyed and thinking "Hm, maybe she's really serious." 

Damn right I'm serious.

The only person who probably wouldn't be shocked at all would be my mother.  She became worried when she realized her 12 year old daughter watched Dawson's Creek for all the wrong reasons.. But I haven't had that discussion with her yet.  Waiting until after college, possibly in a relationship. When I have evidence she can't refute. Hahah.

 she looked up at me from her reading in our room when i was in 8th grade and said to me 'you're gonna be a lesbian' i just kind of scoffed at her. and lo and behold less than a year later i realized she was right.

  when i told my friends they hadn't figured it out, they were just like , ok so you're gay, cool...

for years i had huge, obvious crushes on girls but was like "i'm not a LESBIAN, yo, it's just that one girl. and that other girl." i really didn't think i could possibly be gay.

when i finally came out absolutely no one was surprised.

This is the total opposite situation for me- I've known I was gay(ish) since forever, but I'm very girly. I dislike trousers and did play hockey for a year but stopped after I got bored and broke 2 nails in 1 match. Also, a mild concussion. My friends, straighter than I am, still play hockey so they wouldn't take it as a sign anyway. I don't really listen to gay music (etheridge et al) and though we sometimes watch gay films together (mainstream, not porn) they know me as ultra-liberal and open, so it probably wouldn't surprise them, but also, there's probably little reason to suspect.

The interesting bit comes when you throw in to the mix that I've secretly been crushing on one of them for a little while now, and just waiting for the perfect drunken-party-opportunity to make my move...

Nice to have some eye-candy around, though.

Good with milk.

 i came out  2 really good friends of mine about 2 years ago and in a later conversation one of them told me oh yeah we talked about it all the time. my jaw just dropped i mean i've probably always known but the fact that they thought it too and had actual conversations about was just funny to me. a co-worker also asked me if i was gay but that could have something with all the hot women i have as wallpaper on my computer : ) and when i told an older friend of mine who has know since age 7 her first response was it all makes sense now.

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"But I dream of flight, not to be as the angels are, but to rise above te smallness of it all. The smallness that I am. Against the daily death the iconography of wings."

*Hello and welcome from a former Marylander :wave:

I've experienced that as well, and it boggled my mind for a while. All kinds of people--my older sister, a classmate I'd never spoken to, etc--said, "Yeah, I knew..." after I came out to them. I'm a t-shirt and cargos kinda girl, but WTF? :google:

Anyway, eventually (to save my own sanity) I decided that hindsight is 20/20. When they already know I'm gay it's easy to go back and find the clues ("Of course! You played softball and thought Shakira had nice abs!"), but it's harder to acknowledge those hints before they're verified. I mean, surely my entire high school softball team wasn't gay, but when I came out they could point to that and pretend it's an irrefutable sign of my gayness. :roll:

The only person I really believed with the "I knew" bit was my sister, who knows me better than anyone in the world who isn't my wife. :P

Oh my god, thanks to nickij, I watched an entire series of Sugar Rush via you tube, and it was fantastic. Well fantastic in a sense, that my fav WAS south of nowhere. Honestly the acting is way better in Sugar Rush, and it is definitly hotter. I found myself laughing out loud during Sugar Rush, when S.O.N only made me grin on occasions. I really want to own this. And by the way, can you say "International Emmy winner" That is just awesome. Sugar deserves it, if compared to other shows of the like.

Lmao. I was the same. Throughout all of high school, I assumed all of my friends were closeted bisexuals.

I guess it sort of made me feel normal.

I find it interesting that most of you had friends that knew you were into girls. Everyone I knew were completely shocked. I guess its because I came out a few weeks after I broke up with my ex boyfriend?

I was the other way around. I assumed that most of my friends are bisexuals.

Koma,
Former Crabbie now Fish and chips. How lucky you must be to be able to watch Sugar Rush. Its killing me that I cant order it without having to do a makeover on my entertainment system because of the region thing. But at least I am gettinig good info. On their sight, and just imagine.

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Apologies!! Didn't know it wasn't allowed!! :oops:
You can cyber spank me later!!

Oh nooo Koma,
Please do not squash my hopes. I was sooo looking forward to seeing
rush when TPTB Americanize the DVD's. After being frustrated and blue balled by South of Nowhere, I have been on edge for a little tongue and bedroom action from the lesbian characters on Rush. Why do you loathe it so much.

Nickij you can "LINK ~" me anytime. darn1121 aol