lol I dont forget per say... I've just decided that if a girl tells me she's straight then she's just telling me she's not interested. Much like, if she told me she's already seeing someone, busy, etc. Just another way to say "no thanks" so it doesnt startle me.

hmmm... the last time i forgot that...

2 years and counting :wink:

I get that a lot too. I just find it hard to imagine that some women aren't attracted to other women. How could you not be?

And it's funny because I've only realised my bi-ness for the about 5 years now, and it just seems so totally natural.

I have to keep reminding myself that what seems like gay signals aren't always gay signals. But then my gaydar is kind of nonexistant anyway.

Interesting that this topic is here... I've been thinking about it specifically over the last week or so. I wonder, if society was completely open about sexuality etc, how many more people identify themselves as bi? Would there still be an overwhelming straight majority? I suspect this is particularly relevant for women, as they are more social creatures and I think their relationships may be harder to classify...

I don't tend to worry too much about whether a girl identifies as gay, bi or straight (or even whether a guy identifies as gay, bi or straight). If I am attracted to someone, I tend to make it pretty obvious, but (hopefully) non-threatenting. I've never had someone actually be angry or insulted that I was attracted to them, but if I did I might change my tune a bit!

I do tend to forget not everyone is used to lesbians existing, living in NYC. My attitude is I don't give a rat's a$$ what you think! Then I go home to Oklahoma, where I'm originally from, and I'm horrified and get strange looks and get called "Sir" despite my DD cups. Scares the hell out of me, my little reality check!

I like your attitude and would like to think like you: Really! :D I think I'm resigned, thinking all the girls are straight. And when I meet a cool girl ... my thoughts are: arg, some boys must be really happy trying to seduce her. You must feel much more free than me... nothing strange about that.

[quote:c470c228df="maryon"]I like your attitude and would like to think like you: Really! :D I think I'm resigned, thinking all the girls are straight. And when I meet a cool girl ... my thoughts are: arg, some boys must be really happy trying to seduce her. You must feel much more free than me... nothing strange about that.[/quote:c470c228df]

Awwww well that just makes me feel special :D :wink:

Guess ignorance really is bliss eh? (with the exception of the odd looks you get when you hit on a straight girl... that can be a wee bit awkward at times, I must say.... fun on occation, but all the same :? *winks* )

I agree that you have a great attitude, Kt. I doubt most straight guys go around thinking "I wonder if she's straight" before hitting on a girl, so why should we? You go. :bow:

I really wish my strait roommate could answer this for me. She tells me all the time that I need gaydar because I always go for the strait ones, but I just tell her I go for them even if they are strait because you just never know what they want at that time. LOL. It makes sense in my head but that doesn't mean anything. I dunno, I love hitting on my strait teammates just to see them blush or roll their eyes, its fun. Also, in my experience most strait girls love the attention, and some even play the tease card. Its interesting to see how strait they really are. So I don't forget, I just assume all girls I see are bi until proven otherwise. :wink: I'm not saying I run around hitting on everything in a skirt or anything. Just I never really wonder is she strait or not. Which can get me in a bind at times, don't mean to freak people out but sometimes I do. Close-minded people ruin my fun. :roll:

I can't say I forget it but I do admit that sometimes, I tend to imagine that a beautiful girl is interested in me because of the way she looks at me and then she turns around and kisses her boyfriend... or when a girl starts talking to me in the bathroom of a bar, I'm like is she trying to get with me, but then I think it's impossible, she just wants to be nice and friendly... anyway I have this huge problem cause I just can't believe a girl could be interested in me, but I don,t know why. Maybe it's because I don't think a girl has ever been in love with me... not that I know of... Not that I'm ugly or anything, it's just that the only lesbians I know are my friends so...

I'm with you on that one, yes, that sure happens to me most of the time. but the girls i notice and think are pretty later do show to be gay or bi. of course, i had a period in my life in which they all showed to be straight..but luckily, now it rarely happens :D

I'm still in high school, and openly bi, so most of my friends are pretty much used to me hitting on them for fun. None of them get freaked out or anything, so I do get myself into trouble by forgetting that not everyone is as accepting as my buddies. Its not so much that I think everyone will be bi, but I expect people to be polite about turning me down. Not always the case though sadly

Nope, can't say I do.