Lesbian activism-- or lesbian lovin'? When you have to choose

My lover and I started our relationship a few months ago. It's been hotter than a furnace for us ever since. We are incredibly madly in love and every time we're together we steam up the windows like the car in Titanic.

Here's the thing. When I came out a few years ago, I joined a circle of amazing, conscious, activist queer women that revolutionized my life and inspired me to become an activist for LGBT rights too. I'm a passionate woman who cares passionately about LGBT liberation and who has thrown herself heart and soul into the movement. I have thrived as a dynamic participant in the local queer activist community, made many dear friends that way, and have become committed to this work that brings real meaning to my life.

Then I fell head over heels in love with this woman, she came out as lesbian for me, and now she is my whole life, she is everything to me. She started by going to this year's Dyke March with me, and has been accompanying me everywhere, including my activist meetings and stuff. 

We don't get enough time together during the week. Our mundane circumstances get in the way. So our weekends together have become precious time for us to be alone together. We get away to a hotel and steam the windows all day and night. We can't get enough of each other. This weekend, I said let's go to the march against Prop 8. This is going to be huge, everybody's going to be there. It is not to be missed! She reminded me we had planned to get away and make love this weekend. I had to choose between missing this historic march that has been compared to the new Stonewall-- or to disappoint my lover and spend the day without her. Well, I chose her, and we had the hottest time together ever, we actually had to put on the AC it was that hot.

Now I have to ask myself what does it mean to be a lesbian-- who am I as a lesbian-- is it more a matter of activism in the movement, or is it more about just loving my woman? What is the movement about, anyway, but to be free to love women? I hated missing the big important march, but I don't regret I gave all my time to her. Have you ever had to make a choice between the movement and spending quality time with your girlfriend? How do you feel about it?