That's a tough one, hehe.

Maybe it's all about personal experiences and situations you've been through that you learn from and just try not to make the same wrong decisions you once made...?
But how would I know that I'm doing the right thing or taking the right choices...Personally, it's a matter of weighing things around your life...Just juggling the balls my direction..to benefit ME before anything or anyone else. It's a bit selfish, I know...But that's what I've learned from my past experiences. So why not be selfish when everyone else is doing the same?

And as long as it FEELS right then I just assume I should go for it. Sometimes it really depends on the situation or the decision you're about to make...But generally speaking, with a bit of risk and common sense you'll be just FINE. Seriously, if you want to do something so badly, whether be it good or bad, then do it...Take your chances and just DO IT.

I hope I wasn't way off topic....? =)

Personally, I believe this is part of growing up .. as indivduals living on planet earth always aiming for the best n always in the race to better ourselves .. if we don't go throw life n always try to find the easy way out .. I say that's prolly not living life to the fullest ..

I do not think we can point out and list when/where/how you could possibily know whether or not the desicions you take are right or wrong .. it's right .. when deep down .. it feels right .. on some decisions to be able to decide whether or not it is for u .. u'll have to wait longer than others .. possibily take more risk ..

I agree with Dubai.Girl in that you should put urself ahead of everyone else .. cuz u know wht ? That's wht everyone else will do if they were in your place .. not saying be totally selfish .. cuz at the end of the day .. we have people in our lives that we care about .. n most probably have our decisions affect them one way or another .. do not totally neglect the fact that they are part of ur life .. just consider it when making those decisions .. but keep in mind .. that ur all that matters ..

Dun think n worry about life alot .. cuz as u said .. all it will lead to is make u "a very grumpy old lady" .. we r only here for a short period of time .. might as well enjoy it and make it worth while ..

Stay positive .. n it'll all turn gr8! Take risks .. trust me .. it feels great! Take it one day at a time .. ;)

 

XO

Sarah

PS u need to read The Secret .. and The Power of Now .. I think u'll find some answers there

Thanks for rephrasing my post?????



Sarah, The Secret is rubbish. (No offense) It's a brainwashing mechanism that's made for weak lost souls and probably doesn't even work. Simply put, stay positive and stop reading such crap. WAKE UP!!!! lol

You're right though about decisions that might affect others. Those should be made with extra carefulness and caution.

Perhaps a good way to make a decision would be...Predicting...Try to foresee...Ask yourself, what would happen if I did this or that...!!

Ya .. that's wht i was going for .. if u scroll up n read .. :P .. i said " Stay positive .. n it'll all turn gr8! " .. that's basically wht The Secret is trying to sell .. :D

But The Secret is brainwashing. Me no approve! :P

I disapprove of any brainwashing mechanisms, good or bad! Because it takes you to extremes and our aim is..Balance and normality. :P

thnx for accepting the fact that I'm right =P

Yeah, no problem. =P

hey sam,

I went through a similar phase, some years ago. During this time I was brought really down by any decision, even the smallest most simple things.

Fortunately I am totally out of that now, I think for various reasons. First I think it happenes when you put yourself under big pressure from various sides. I too wanted to please everybdy and make everything perfect. But thats just bullshit. Nobody has to do that. I learned to say "f... you, I don't care" (really important lesson in life) ;)

And that doesn't mean that you will say that always, but in certain circumstances you have to be able to say it.

Second: there are no right decisions. If something turns to be different than you thought, it's also ok it will have also positive effects. its not about to be responsible or to be blamed for something.

there is a way bigger leeway for the decicions and things in life general than you might think.

YOU are the only person to ask whats right, because you are able to make those decisions, trust me. You just have to learn step by step to trust yourself and to learn that you are important enough (of course) to decide, to be the judge.

Don't be afraid to make mistakes. you can keep it relaxed but dynamic :)

At least that were thoughts that helped me. hope you'll feeling better soon.

My two cents is once you hit rock bottom... you can only go up from there... i've learn from personally experience... if you feel like you have given all you can give... you been a good person with good morals and values.. and yet you feel like you've short change yourself... then its "ok" to be selfish and to go for your own desires

i've had a couple of exs where they have been torn between personal desire and obligations expected of them... as much as we love our parents and we want to do right by them... if they tend to expect too much from us... and it drives us away from our own dreams and aspirations ... then its selfish in a bad way on their part... the truth of the matter is our parents are only here with us for so long ... as we get older (i'm experience this right now) taking care of my mom and making sure she will be secure... its the least i can do but on the flip side i have to keep my own goals in tact

 

My curious mind embraces the world ~ MadeInSF

She's just a friend... she'll never know... sometimes I wish I never knew her at all (dedicated to a summer love)

Dil ne phir yaad

When I look out into God's infinity, and i know I am His work, my soul rejoices.

But girls how to deal with being insecure?!! Am very confident of my abilities sometimes too sure of myself maybe because of the things I experienced throughout my life made me a better judge of things, but still insecurity will nag at me like a snake!! Am a very easy going person loved and cared for by many but the moment I feel that I said or did something wrong I hide or keep a low profile till I feel the coast Is clear again.

Like lately I’ve been chatting a lot and going out on and off with some girl-friends from AE without inviting my  partner cause she's not really an outgoing person and would tell me she'd rather not mix with people she doesn’t know!! so when I call or see her afterwards I’ll find her very reserved and guarded even. she is making me feel guilty or just like a thief..i don't know!!

 

Okay, you should probably let your girlfriends and partner meet  to get to know each other, that way she'll be more comfortable with the idea of you hanging out with them...And who knows, she might actually enjoy their company and start hanging out with all of you.
I think you should get your girlfriend involved in what you do, where you go, and who you hang out with etc. She probably feels left out or feels like you're paying your friends more attention than you should be. Just try and convince her and see how it goes! :)

When I look out into God's infinity, and i know I am His work, my soul rejoices.

Stone eyes you asked me what I feel guilty about? I’ll tell you am very open and expressive about my interests/sexuality and now I have a group of friends that support me whenever I need them but my partner on the other hand is still living in a shell with a very close knitted friends which we both share, this is not wrong but for me it’s not enough and my partner was against me meeting or knowing other girls thinking that I would leave her for someone else!! she is really a very possessive and jealous person (lucky me)!!..

Am going to go with the idea of letting my partner meet my friends that way she will be more at ease and open up a bit..

So girls who is game to meet this Friday evening? Dubai girl you already know the plan but confirm it on msn or sms to decide who is coming.

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