i jsut have to say to you is that you dont have to explain to some guy why you like women or anything else about yourself    unless you want to    but  i  just  tell them  hey im gay  and if they dont leave me alone i tell them to back the f*** off

but im gonna say it again you do not have to explain yourself to some guy hitting on you

Im not crazy, my reality is just different then yours.

What´s a Gold Star? Is that some kind of an Austin Powers Sequel?

Well sometimes it´s really funny keeping the guys in the dark about being gay. You let them pay your drinks until they think they could have a chance getting laid and in that moment you kiss your Girlfriend.

But hey, there´s no need to explain why and how and stuff. If he´s not stopping to hit on you just ask him if he would imagine a naked Dickeling slapping in his face. Most of the guys are celebrating silence after that sentence ;-)!

yeah i think it's important to assert your preferences but there is also the danger of acting like some of the homophobes do when they get all anal about gay men hitting on them. Here in NZ, they have what some people have called the "gay panic defence" which let's homophobic people who have commited crimes against the community off a lot easier after freaking out about a supposed come-on and reacting violently.

Not to say i expect many female queers to react with violence, but i think it's important to really get a cross simple statements to back someone off without acting offensive because it's no better than the other half if you get me. If they are igoring the message though and it becomes sexual harrassment it is a different story 

I just tell him I am not interested and walk away. And if he keeps bothering me I would yell rape! That would get him to back off. 

Blondes rules

and the rest of you girls

want to drool all over us! LOL

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Blondes rules

and the rest of you girls

want to drool all over us! LOL

I'm in a band and at our shows I am usually half naked so I get hit on by lots of guys when I come off of the stage. I usually act like I can't hear them because the music is so loud. But if that doesn't work, I tell them the DJ is my girlfriend and that they might want to talk to her. She's much better at confrentation than I am.

I do sometimes to get into those long discussions with guys about how I know for sure that I am gay, but that tends to be when I've had too much to drink and at that point it's actually fun. I think drunk me is sometimes looking for an argument, so bring it on. I'm still a lady and they usually end up understanding a little better in the end.

"not interested" -works every time.

-Nathiest
the devil is in the details

Just getting back out into the wolrd of dating after the "divorce" and I still have the same probelm i alwasy had at GAY BARS!! I constantly get hit on by men. I just tell them ..I am not niterested..or say sorry.. I like girls..or whatever. If I am dancing and some random guy comes up and tries to dance with me.. I just turn and dance away from him..LOL

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Voogle A Voogle Plea

I've never had so many men hit on my that i have since i've come out. Lame. I had these three Hispanic gentlemen (they were there together) all trying to get me to go home with them one night out at the bar. i dont speak spanish, and it was tough getting them to understand. i finally had to kiss my fwb of the moment to get them to go away. I think they got it. lol

Mostly I just tell them I'm gay, but when there's a language barrier, you have to show them. But then the ones who tell always freaking ask CAN I WATCH? NOOOOOOOO

I'd simply say I'm not interested and it's the end of the topic *walks away* . Besides you don't have to explain to him why you are not interested in him. 

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"Can you tell me softly how you'll always haunt me..." t.A.T.u

Normally I don't go to bars alone, so the bar scene doesn't happen that often. Most of the time, guys hit on me at school and I just tell them that I'm in a stable relationship and they usually will back off after seeing my wedding ring.

One some guy cooking food at a fast food restaurant  saw me, whipped out his phone and asked if I had a boyfriend. After gagging I simply just said that I like girls. Then when the guy asked me if he could wash my hair, I asked if he was a hair dresser. He said no, "i just like washing hair" I said no thank you and walked away. The no and walking away thing is the best.

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice anywhere.
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
MLK

I don't hit on guys, they don't hit on me; we have an unspoken agreement.

I don't normally get hit on by guys.  Most of my guy friends know me well enough to not even try (though they don't know I'm gay).  If I do get hit on its usually by some guy who is drunk enough to miss the "f**k off" sign I supposedly wear on my head.  All my friends say I seem unapproachable and that I wear this sign (in straight clubs), I had no idea. 

If a guys does hit on me, I'll be nice the first time and either say I'm not interested or walk away.  Two guys have had the unfortunate experience of trying to grab me and pull me away from friends to dance or just getting in my face.  The result.  I pushed them physically away from me.  I almost punched one because he wouldn't stop.  He subsequently called me a bitch and I laughed.  Oh buddy, you don't know the half of it.

Bottom line is I'm nice until you start to get physical and then I reply in kind.  Like I said though, most guys don't even try to hit on me.

i don't care. i figure I'd rather get hit on by a decent dude than a mangy lesbian. Many straight women feel the same way..they're rather get hit on by a woman who's on their level than a mangy-ass dude. I let him down the same way i let anyone down that i'm not interested in...stutter and make no eye contact. lol. 

Or tell them i'm not interested. I don't think it's necessary to bring up the 'lesbian' factor if you're turning someone down.  That does more harm than good sometimes.

I got a dick like a mule...with a big dick.

If he seems like a nice guy I'll just chat with him. I'd tell him I'm in a realtionship so nothing is going to happen. But anyway we could still have a laugh and a couple of beers. And of course scout for pretty women. You're allowed to look at the menu as long as you dine at home.

Come out, come out. Whoever you are.

I was at a gay club for their halloween party and I was a dominatrix (surprise surprise) a guy comes up to me and says, "hi I'm bisexual....and a mascohist"

I laughed so hard, then said "hi I'm a lesbian...and a sadist"

he said: "well there's one fit the sado and the maso but the lesbian and bisexual man, not so much..."

He was funny, I had no idea what he was for halloween, but in the end he really liked my whip more than me :O!

Usually I say "no thanks" or "i'm taken" because that's how hate crimes on lesbians are prevented around these parts.

Some men do not like "no thanks I'm gay" it translates to "you suck your mom sucks therefore harass me for the rest of the night or worse!"

I don't have time for that.

I'm not really quite sure how I'd react, seeing that nobody hits on me in real life (yes, I'm that abominable). But I agree with refrigeratorraider, I would rather get hit on by a nice guy than a girl who I don't find very appealing

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Vidi, Vici, Veni - I saw, I conquered, I came

That is funny!..It has happened to me, of course you dont have to explain yourself just throw em a disgusting line and they'll scamper off. BUT there are smart asses out there XD ...Ive told one if he had a sis to introduce me to ..and he says 'Oh no but I have a GF are you in for a threesome?' XD. I wanted to kick his balls sooo badly!!!.  I like torturing then bwahaha, after a while knowing and talking \to them ..they start to like me and all >_> I just drop the bomb all of a sudden and they all like :O I cant beleive it?! yo uare lying right?!...The best girls are always lesbiand, married or taken they say LMAO.

'Tis too funny XD 

Not to bring in race, but black guys don't get the hint that easily. When you tell them "i taken...or not looking" they want to know why. Then I tell them i'm a lesbian ( Again ) they want to know why. I don't mind telling them.  I simple ask them why do they like women.......when they answer.......I say i like them for the same reasons. Once that is said they either take it as a lost or want to become best friends and suggest we go out and pick up chicks together. But clearly a male competing with a sexy well put together lesbian is a bad idea!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

Lesbian Libra 

Just give them the standard fake number 867-5309/jenny. See how many of them catch on. LOL 

I dont really ever get hit on but... Dont they have those numbers on some radio stations that you give out to people who leave voicemails that they play on the radio... they should have numbers for straight guys who hit on girls and they get to the voice mail and get shot down.  I would use that.

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice anywhere.
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
MLK

I used to give out the rejection hotline # til some guy stopped me halfway through and was like, "that's the rejection hotline number!" I have never laughed so hard. Poor kid. How many times must he have been given that to have it memorized? Haha

Most of the time I smile and just say "i'm not interested...sorry" and then give my best friend the "rescue me now" signal (and hoping she's sober enough to notice the signal comes and rescues  me)... that ususally works for me, and yes I've given my number out to guys 'cuz sometimes it builds their self confidence or ego (whatever) and who knows maybe a platonic friendship might come out of it...

 I did happen to be in NY one time and this guy asked if my friend and i had boyfriends... my friend said No... he asked why... she said she doesn't date man... he goes and asks (and the look on my friend's face after hearing this was priceless)

BUT HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU LIKE MACARONNI IF YOU'VE NEVER TRIED SPAGETTI" ... wow.. haha

I like things with holes.

Is it my bloody fault if Macaroni has bigger holes.  

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horny potter and the philosopher's daughter

One you have a d**k and two you are a d**k.

For startes I'm bi, so yeah, I can pick and chose, which is, well unfair to a guy, when I'm not all the way gay..

I was on a girls night out, when this really cocky guy starts hitting on me.. I'm reeally not into those kind of guys.. Soo I politely tell him, "sorry, I'm gay" figuring that a white lie, would get him off my back quicker.. Well this guy didn't feel like giving up, so I played a game I usally play with people, to get free drinks.. The game is called; " Guess where I'm from?" I told the guy he had 3 guesses, if he could guess where I was from, I'd give him my number and a drink of his choice, if not he would have to buy me a drink and back off..

The thing is, I'm from Argentina, but I don't look Latina at all..! I live in Denmark and look like a typical Scandinavian chick, the guy and I spoke to each other in English, I have an American accent due to 1 year living in the states.. Overall this guy didn't have a chance on earth in this game.. (that's why it's such a great " get drinks for free" game)

Anyhow, he obviously lost.. Being such a soar loser, he didn't keep his promise.. He stalked me most of the night, eventually I had it and I ended up giving him, what he thought was my number.. I actually gave him the number for the WSPA charity organisation - when you call or text that number you automatically donate $ 20 to the charity.. Luckily I never saw him again!

thats the only word i can think of..

A guy is talking to me on Myspace and in the nicest way possible I told him i'm probably not his type and he's not mine

And he made a joke about me being gay. I'm like, yeeeahhh, thats pretty much the reason.

And now he wont stop talking to me and he keeps calling me cupcake and sweetpea, and i dont wanna be rude and man-hatey, but dude, your barking up the wrong tree.

I am not your cupcake.

I get hit on by guys a fair bit but I'm also a touch alternate and weird so the guys that hit on me are usually really cool alternate weird (in the good way) guys that end up becoming my mates.

I tell them I'm gay almost straight away, but usually we have worked out that despite no chance of anything happening, we enjoy each others company and want to spend the night chatting.

My straight girl friends are slightly gobsmacked at my ability to go home at the end of a night with a bunch of guy's phone numbers. They kind of dig it though because it means I can pimp them out to my new male friends haha I do all the leg work for them.

"Once people start saying you're funny, slap them . . . Tell them it was a joke." ~ Brad Wease

I just smile politely and move along.  I'm too embarrassed to do anything else.  If I need to fulminate when I get home, I do so, usually to my mom.  And she reminds me that they don't know any better.  I've also made involuntary wisecracks on a couple of occasions, and that scares them off pretty effectively.