Transgenders, lesbians and straight women

I think it all depends on self-evaluation. Like what we see in ourselves when we look in the mirror everyday and how we choose to label it. But I think this whole labeling system ties into what sexually attracts or satisfies us.

It doesnt necessarily mean labeling ourselves is bad, it's just an easier way to know what we want in what form we want it in.

I agree, why label a woman if she's woman? But I also think it's kind've a tribal thing. Everyone, subconciously or not, wants to belong to a group.

Wow, I hope that makes sense. haha

People like labels. We say that we so not care, but like things that are comfortable.

However some lables have a lot of baggage that is connected to them, distrust that we  have picked up growing up. I know an ex of mine, he is always talked about as she behind his back because that is what people have learnt to label him, regardless of how much he has changed.

Transexuals are on the edge of this acceptace, and some decide to hide their past to cover this, which may lead to more mistrust. 

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Because we're not all the same. Butch cis-women are different to femme cis-women. Stone butches or femmes are different to non-stone people. Androgenous dykes are different to lipstick lesbians. Straight women are way less likely to sleep with other women. Transwomen may or may not present in a way that appeals... then again, cis-women may not either. However, transwomen have had a different set of early life experiences and assumptions, and different experiences of sexism and bigotry. But as we all have had different formative experiences, they have all made us what we are.

I think you're trying to claim acceptance based on the fact that we are "all the same". Since that's patently not true - other than the fact we're all human beings - I think asking that people accept difference is more constructive. And acknowledge the fact that we've all have experiences of difference in our lives - save the judgements for those that may have a detrimental affect on your life.

Labels are safe.  Humans natually seek those who are just like them.  They like to keep that group small. Humans naturally live in clans or cliques.  It's gives us a sense of security.

Solidarity, equality, and unity are these big Idealistic words that no one is really interested in.  Because those ideas are inherently dangerous.  We live under the false presumption that those who are just like us will protect us and defend us.  That they are more loyal and trustworthy.  Inclusion is only desired by those who are not included.  People already in the fold are not interested in inviting others in.

If there is any trait that makes you different, you are automatically untrustworthy.  And above all, scary.   Oddly enough, you only hear the outsider (minority) speak of unity or equality because they are just trying to reach level ground. Rarely does one want to associate with those who are being judged or persecuted (unless they've suffered from the same persecution) because they don't want that turned on them.  

Some don't understand that people accepting your differences is not the same as being included.  And most of us want inclusion but  our differences is what separates us and gives them reason to exclude us.

There will always be "us and them" in the realm of human relations.  People will always find reasons not to accept you or include you.  

So the key is to be open and accepting of others.  "Be the change you want to see in the world."  Then find those who will embrace you as a unique human being and cherish them, because they are rare. 

if we were all the same it would be a boring world. I agree with jackedup.... stay open and accepting. I dont like how hard lesbians can be on a person thats bi or bi curious. Everybody isnt fortunate enough to know they are gay as soon as they come out of the womb. I invite straight women into my life and let them see how i live because Im a good example and role model in the gay community. Im proud of who I am and we all should be. Spread the Love..... stop the hate!!!!!

Well personally I don't really believe most women are straight or lesbians. And I'm absolutely sure most women are not transgenders.

Labels can be dangerous. However everyone needs to feel identified with being something and someone - even if that means you end up saying - "I'm not straight, lesbian or bi, or trans, or queer - I'm just me." :)