Reasons people think you're straight

Got that one a lot, aparently you have to have sex before you can tell. Not "lesbian sex" mind you, but sex with a man.

too young to understand your feelings.

That sets me on fire.

you can't get a boyfriend?

oh, that pissed me off!!! from my sister-in-law. who has a lesbian friend whom she worked with and hung out with for at least a year before i came out. i couldn't believe she said that

btw, i bought the "yes i'm gay so please stop bothering me" shirt off Bridget's Zazzle for a reason. no problem getting a boyfriend if i wanted one. eww, not for me.

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i do not discriminate. i just ignore certain people.

look so straight and look like a homophobic.

I just tell them that i'm gay and that's it.

*Okay, bout the homophobic part, i was and used to before i came out to my friends*

"No way...you're not gay...you don't look gay...you've got long hair."

And from another lesbian: "You're not gay...I haven't seen you at any gay places."

That just blew me away...she must be superhuman to be able to hang out at all gay venues at the same time so she can make her list of lesbians and make us all legitimate.

... probably 'cause I'm not that into wrist-cuffs.  Or mullets.

...because you've never tried to seduce me (said by a friend)

"Because that only happens in Europe!", got that from a Bulgarian dude. 

 "Why so serious?"

In undergrad, I was sUUUUper active.  SGA Senator for the College of Arts & Science, Vice-Pres of the NPHC, Historian/Webmistress for my chapter ... the list goes on.  Toward the end of my collegiate career, I met my lady.  Feminist for Progress was putting on thier 3rd production of The Vagina Monologues.  We hit it off instantly. 

Folks were confused.  REALLY confused.  As if it were not possible to be an active student on campus, in your community ... AND gay.  

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Got that when I came out to this really hot girl in order to find out if she's gay too. Judging from her reaction, she isn't. Way to go.

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This guy at work doesn't believe that I'm gay. He said to me: I think you just haven't met the right guy.

First of all, I HATE when people talk to me like they know me, when they don't know me AT ALL.

So I laughed at his face and said: Dude, I've been going out with guys since I was 12 or something. I've been with different kind of guys and they're all the same. Trust me.

Then he said something that confirmed what I just said: "Those guys just weren't treating you right, I'm sure that if I made a move you'd love it, 'cause I already seduced a lesbian once.."

OH MY GOD, what is wrong with this guy??? He's so full of himself and I'm sure the last part was a lie! I'm sooo irritated.

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just dating David like last year?

uhm.. and like that means that I can't ever, ever be gay  because of that guy I dated.

oh.. and the classic.. " you don't look gay!!"

There wasn't exactly a "but you're.." situation. See... I hang out with 6 guys... 4 of which have had crushes on me at one point. So when they found out it was more of a "she's just confused. She doesn't know what she wants yet." But the reason they were saying this was because they are upset that now they REALLY don't have a chance with me. Poor guys. They do need some help in the girlfriend department. shit... so do I.

I LOL-ed when i read that. yea cuz there's totally NOOOOO gay asians...

I haven't had anyone not believe that i'm gay. but had people (my roomie's gf and one of the gf/roomie's friend) try to get my roomie to believe that i was gay. even though my roomie did see my got pride? (with a rainbow in the back) pin when she first met me.

you've been with men!"

Yeah, so? They're retarded.

the "you haven't met the right man", the "you're too pretty/cute" to be a lesbian, "you're too straight looking", the "you used to date guys" and more idiotic or in denial phrases mostly from my family. The other thing that irks me is that because I'm Christian I can't possiblely be gay. Because being a lesbian has something to do with immorality. *rolls eyes*

geesh, people really amaze me with their ignorance. :P

...well that were comments from young pupils in schools (13-16 year olds) we got when I was volunteering for a sex education project about homosexuality.... they were obviously expecting the living devils...and when we came into their class room to talk about homosexuality and tried to "enlighten them" they were wondering where the gays were, lol!

But yeah...there's the 

- it's a phase

- you haven't met the right man

- you're too young to know

- you look straight

.... littany

*rolleyes*

When I came out to my mom about 5 years ago I got the classic "but you're so pretty" and "you always had boyfriends".  Now grant it, when your mom says your pretty you tend to roll your eyes and when you have to say "no mom, I didn't have boyfriend's all the time" it gets menacing.  Needless to say I still think she finds it a phase even though I married my partner and have been with her for over four years.  I did get the "you didn't always have a solid male influence in your life" as well, which is a load of shit because I had a decent step father in my life until she divorced him and my dad's not a bad guy at all.

Now most of my friend's had the "I can see that" response.  LOL, I did have to have a conversation with a close guy friend of mine last week to tell him I had heard through various friends for a long time that he didn't think I was actually gay.  I love him dearly but he has a habit of shoving his foot in his mouth.  He said he didn't think I was cause I thought guys were attractive, which I had to tell him just because men can be attractive doesn't mean I want to sleep with them or be in a relationship with them.  *Sigh* I didn't think I would have to convince anyone after 5 years of being out.

"You don't look gay." 

"You're too cute to be gay."

"You haven't met the right man."

"You're going through a phase."

Blah blah blah... I don't like boys! They effin suck!

'you cant be gay.. IM gay' My younger sister, apparently you cant have two gays in one family (well three counting my brothers Bi)

'You've never even  said anything about cute girls' a 'good' friend of mine.  YEHHH cause im gonna walk around with a megaphone announcing my opinions of a hot girl to the whole street

'but, you dont look like Tegan OR sara' :| WTF That was so retarded i had to laugh in his face

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