i love mushy!

i do believe there is one person out there which fits perfecty with me.  I read that there is actually 7 true loves in our lives but it also said these can be non-lovers and just friends or whatever.

how do you know it is true love....you just do.  I believe in love at first sight.  If you need to know if it's love or lust then you just have to wait about 3 months into the relationship.  No one can keep up a fake act for 3 months and this is usually the time you see someone for who they really are...you know - the honeymoon period is over and you start to see if the relationship is going somewhere, if it's real or not.  It's not about dependence and reliance...they are there....in your life...not in your pocket. And you can do your own thing and know that you are connected even when not in each other's presence.

Butterflies in your belly...touching...cuddling...giggles...caring...wanting...would do anything for them...holding their hand...trust...*sigh*....love - believe in it.

I'm not certain that I'm understanding your definition correctly or not.  What I *think* you are defining "true-love" as, is a one-time person - similar to what some people refer to as a "soul-mate".  If that is your definition, then no. 

To think that there is only one person in the world that is right for me sounds kind of silly, given the billons that exist.  I think that I can love and be in-love with many different types of people, often based on my current life situation.  I know I've been in-love at least 2 times; maybe 3 and none, in the end, did it for me.  No doubt, I'll fall in love again (not infatuation - never had that) and hope for the best again.  I think it is possible to find someone and settle down for the rest of your life if you are that compatible and passionate about one another, but I also wouldn't suggest that had it not been for that person that I wouldn't fall in-love with someone else. 

Although, perhaps I'm not the best person to ask - I've never had a relationship or been in love with a woman and now, years and years later, I know that I am more than capable of doing so and, long over due. 

How do or did I know it was love and not infatuation? Well, in one of the relationships I knew that no matter how they changed over the years, I would still love them, and to this day, still do.  I knew that no matter what the circumstances, I would be there for them.  I admired them but was not jealous of them.  I thought they were beautiful but didn't just lust after them.  I respected them and saw myself playing games when we were older.  I took them for their good and bad and still loved them just the same.  In the end though, sometimes love isn't enough and you need to part to live life. 

But, let me get back to you incurablygay in a few years... (LOL).

I don't believe in love the way you described it. Maybe because I've never felt that way before, but everyone is different.

Yet, I do believe in love, because I love someone, wholly and truly. And I know it is love because you can feel it, a connection. You would die for them. They could call you up and tell you to do anything and you would. They say jump, you ask how high.

Luckily, they don't abuse this power (I think, because they may not fully understand they have it). And your friends are right, it is unhealthy, painful, and damning.

What I mean is that I don't think it is a complimentary thing, more of a saturation. Not two halves making a whole, but one person coming to the realization that they are two.

 o i totally believe in it. now i just have to work on not losing it when i get it...

 -i have my moments.

i am a hopeless romance T_T

Soulmates? No.  I think it is a great concept and a great thing to hope for, but I don't think they exist.  That's why relationships are work, you find someone that is compatible, that compliments you, makes you a better person.  But we are all human, and different, and somewhere along the line you have to work to accept that, to continue to work together and be happy.  Being with someone for the rest of my life, at this point, to me is unfathomable.  But I think it's always like that until you find the right person to change your mind.

Kudos to hopeless romantics!

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At times I feel love is just filled with materialistic vows of affection that masks a motive that can be sinister; then again I tend to be very cynical. On the other hand, I feel at times love can make you break down all the things you once thought were true, how one becomes utterly dismantled and pathetic. How these personal institutions that were governed by a stubborn tyrant, the heart is broken down by the scent and the sound of their lover(s). It’s a sight to see; a delusion of extreme co-dependence where if something happened to their beloved, they will drop dead-literally (of a broken heart). Of course that’s one type of love that seems to be monopolized by the tragic romantic novels and some Shakespearian plays.

 

Now here's my personal experience with "love": 

 

I remember having a conversation about this with my ex. It was a very interesting conversation. I don’t see love as a necessity for life’s fulfillment or something on must experience. By love I mean the romantic type and we all love differently. I cannot say that I have been in love but periods of lust, companionship and deep friendship. If I loved then it was probably the most superficial way a person can love, or at least to say I have deeply loved would be false. I know I did not need or want to make my self “vulnerable”; I realized I kept her at a distance. I did not want to “die” for her. Those feelings I feel belong to one person in my life, and the position has been filled. I don’t think I can have another person in my life I feel that way for at least not romantically because I believe that person if that passes and you could love again (hopefully).

 

I cannot say I have been loved romantically. I thought I was but it seemed she loved the “type” of person I was and not me. All this self-analyzing nonsense at times really just makes me wonder the motives on why we love aspects of a person and not them as a whole. We somehow take away certain parts of a person like picking the raisins of raisin bread. I guess she didn’t like raisin bread, I guess she picked out the parts she liked and loved those parts. I wonder at times that when one has been rejected or their love is not reciprocated they make the “love” a moment of weakness. To cover their pride and make “excuses” for their brief lapses of a beautiful insanity. To prove to themselves they didn’t really love but I think they did and it’s okay. I understand, it hard to break down some walls only for the person not do the same.

 

The moral *point* of this post, well I do believe in love and true love but these things are not immutable. They change as we change, our definitions are at times fluid. Love can be joyous as it can be perilous.

 

Then again I have the moronic sense of love due to my youth. If I were to fall in love I doubt I’ll know that I’m even in love!

 

I think true love involves learning and growing. Every relationship you have is a lesson in love.  Hopefully by the time you mature, all the things you've learned from your past relationships will allow you to sustain a healthy lasting relationship with one person.

I agree that it takes a while to know if your love is true.  That's when people start getting real.

I do think it's a little unhealthy to expect one person to complete you and make you whole.  You should be a complete and whole person before you enter a relationship.  You should be happy on your own; not look to other people to make you happy.  

A loved one should help you grow and enhance the happiness you already have.

I've always thought that friendships that developed into love were the best.

As far as fairy tales... My favorite is when two people can't stand each other and are always bickering, then something happens and the wild passion is unleashed and they end up together.

I  guess i agree with all of you in that one person shouldn't complete you. You should be complete and independent before. Perhaps the one true soulmate thing is unrealistic...but i don't know why i'm so drawn to it.

I guess i was thinking of an LGBT version of Romeo and Juliet. You know, like, I guess "Lost and Delirious" or "Brokeback Mountain." Maybe not the best movies but you watch those movies and you think, or I think, why can't I have a love like that? A love so powerful that society, other human beings shouldn't be able to tear it apart.

That's what I think of LGBT love in general. It used to be the love that dare not speak its name and its a love so powerful that society wants to tame it, to put it in a cage, hide it and banish it. But it never can. From early times when LGBt people used to be killed for their beliefs and now when they are mostly accepted (except in homophobic places) rather than ostracised and killed, LGBT love is still scorned at and seen as inferior. When that is definitely not the case. Same sex love (romantic, erotic and sexual)  has sustained and been the cornerstone of civilisation as we know it. A lot of famous people have had same sex love be the driving force behind their accomplishments. Eleanor Roosevelt, Shakespeare, Greta Garbo, Buchanan (US president), Marlene Dietrich, Walt Whitman(poet), Gertrude Stein, Michealangelo, Bessie Smith, Tennesse Williams, Queen Anne, Hans Christian Anderson, Frida Kahlo etc. etc. For instance Eleanor Roosevelt's family burnt her love letters to Lorena Hick and vice versa. Those letters contained some beautiful words and images. Why hide it?  

We have been responsible for some of society's greatest achievements. How dare society deny the LGBT side of these famous people, when they may not have denied it themselves if given a chance?

People deny this and hide this side of the various people mentioned and that hurts me. Why should something as beautiful as this be denied? Why?

I want to see that represented and shown in movies, films, Tv shows, billboards and everywhere. I am passionate about LGBT love and I always will be until we all realize how beautiful and special it is.

Maybe this view of love is unhealthy  and nihilistic, but I don't know guess i'm drawn to it.

The psychology of true love says that what we want is the unconditional love of infanthood, where we get all our needs met unconditionally and automatically.  I do not believe this occurs in adulthood, and wishing for it without working for it is ultimately the demise of most relationships.

This is the syndrome that makes people think that the other is supposed to be a mind reader, or that if I don't ask, they'll figure it out.

Simply put: adult relationships, true adult relationships, are damn hard work.  If you don't ask, you don't get.  If you do ask, you still might not get, depending on how much the other person is able to give.

The real solution is in knowing yourself, because only then can you ever know anyone else. And that's the first step in picking the right person who you can consciously be romantic with

I read somewhere for it to be true love it means that you have to love the essence of the person.  The moment I read that, the meaning of true love clicked for me.  As in, underline and put the word "TRUE" in all caps and bold print.  And make no mistake on what you're experiencing is true to yourself and the other person. Now experiencing it for myself, thats another story.  I haven't been in love myself.  They say "Its better to have loved than to have not loved at all."  I don't agree with that statement.  I rather be sure that it was true love than not sure at all.

I believe that you can fall completely and totally in love with a person, aka true love. I'm completely in love with my girlfriend, and she gets me better than I thought anyone ever could. But, I don't believe in soul mates. I think you can fall in love with multiple people, but you just have to pick one and make it work.

I believe in true love but i dont think you are limited to just one. I believe you can find true love with your friends or true love w/ a lover. In my life i have found my true love friend. I think w/ true love it becomes a little easier and you work harder for it cuz you know for sure this is who u want to be w/ forever.

I have never been in love, so I cannot say for sure, but I do not believe that there is only one person out there for me. If nothing else, I can look at people who were completely in love, widowed, and then found that type of love again. How could that be possible if there was only one person for each of us?

On the other hand, I cannot say for sure if there is someone I am "meant" to be with, i.e., the person I am supposed to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes I think there is, other times I am not sure. Maybe it is more a matter of who you are meant to be with at a certain time in your life--like friends, they come into your life for a reason. (Can ya tell I tend to go back and forth on this topic?!)

Who knows? I certainly don't right now. I hope that when I do fall in love things will make more sense, but then I am sure other questions will come up! I do believe though that it is important to know and love yourself first, otherwise you cannot truly love someone else, and that it takes a real commitment every day to make it last.

Hopefully sometime soon I will have more answers!

Love is the fire in your eyes, the passion that glows from within. That connects your heart to mine. When you leave me standing here without your love, my heart looses its circulation, because you are the life blood that flows from valve to valve. Without you near my heart stops. Okay so that was extremly mushy, but its the kind of love I long for. I guess the difference between infatuation and love then is, To love someone is to have a connection that only both hearts understand. And infatuation then is having a connection that only one heart understands. As for the cynical, you can't really go through life without having someone to love. Love doesn't mean that you have to rely on someone but that both are pillars that holds the bond of friendship and compromise together to maintain the passion of the heart that is..............LOVE!!!

I know a lot of ppl will try and say that i don't know what love is because of my age.

But i think that is rubbish. I think that if you are human, you have the ability to love, irrespective of age. I personally don't believe i've ever been in love, although it's something i would like to experience quite soon.

There are many types of love

Love to me is being able to be yourself with someone, and them be completely themselves with you. I'm a really silly girl. I like to be silly and have fun - pull faces, sometimes make stupid noises, and just let loose all around. Love is unconditional. Excuse my platitude, but i really believe this.

The biggest compliment for me, would be a girl who feels she can be completely herself around me, and not have to worry that i'm judging her. Love is clicking with someone, and caring for the to all extents. I think that if you have to work at it, then it's not quite love. Love shoud be easy.

And it didn't sound so mushy when i was typing it lol