Well I am not sure what the girl feels but I was in a similar situation. I thought I was a lesbian until I met a guy I really liked. I dated him and even loved him. But I still did not really see myself being with other men only other women. So maybe she is straight with a few exceptions. Maybe you are just a person she likes despite you being a woman. And by closer and closer do you mean that you are dating? Because she may just be bicurious. You  should really make it clear whether she would like to actually date you or just have some fking type experimentation.    

I am my very own shade of grey.

Sometimes people just fell in love with the person and not because of the gender. I have a friend who keeps saying he will never be with another man but ended up falling in love with another man. They broke up but anyway, he said he fell in love with the person and not because of his gender or whatsoever. This friend of mine has tons of girls who would want to be with him! Apparently he's one of the hottest guys in his school. So yea, maybe she fell in love with you not because you're a lesbian but maybe just because you're YOU.

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I was in a very similar situation. My ex had been dating this guy for a couple of years, we met at work and became friends quickly. One day she tells me that she thought about dating me, i was of course very flattered by this, I was hesitant at first which should have been a warning, but i went with it. Over the next few months she broke up and got back with her ex boyfriend several times, told me she loved me and wanted to marry me, and then she tore my heart out. i thought i could change her, i'm mean when you tell someone you love them you'll do whatever and put up with whatever til that moment comes when she tells you shes not gay but loves you.

Well first of all the situation you have presented isn't fully clear as in well is she single?

If she experimenting granted you'll be in for a hard time but you have to assess the situation accordingly and make sure she isn't using you(I know it's a hard concept to understand but take from someone who has been there mutiple times). Since you both are friends you know emotions get in the way so just calm down and think you know? Spend some time thinking about it but don't reject her outright (in other words let her know you still want to be friends). Sometimes friends make the best of lovers not that i'm pushing you to go get her or anything i'm just saying....I think that's it...

This happens often. She can call herself anything she wants, but girls who are straight but fall for only one woman never actually stay with them. So why even go there?

I think you are right in how you see her. I believe she sees you as a novelty, but nothing more.

If you think that its confusing now.... wait. She is having her first moment with a girl and is claiming that she is not into girls, only you. Leave it alone.... it will be good for a minute and then totally downhill without any brakes.... crash. I don't know why we keep setting ourself up for disappointment.

Run.

For real.

Especially if you turn her out..girls are CRAZY if you're the first one they've ever been with. She'll either go crazy and not know how to handle her new gayness, or she'll be gay for you for about a month and then get bored.

Runbitchrun.

 

I got a dick like a mule...with a big dick.

i was in a situation like this, i'd like to tell you it was great, but i don't know. i didn't stay long enough for her to decide she's actually straight

Most people are telling you to run or steer clear and with good reason. I'm sure a lot of women have been hurt by women who are straight and just experimenting or using them, but I thought I would share my perspective on the situation. I was one of those "straight" women when I met my girlfriend. For a long time we were just hanging out and getting to know each other as friends, and we totally fell for each other. I told her that I couldn't see myself ever dating another woman and that I was straight with the exception of her. It seems that was just my excuse until I was comfortable with my sexuality. I definitely identify as bisexual now because I know I would be happy to date another woman in the future if things didn't work out between us. We've been together for over 3 years now, so it turns out I was not a straight woman experimenting and looking to drop my girlfriend at the drop of a hat, but it took me time to understand my queerness.

That being said, be cautious. You don't want to set yourself up to be hurt.

Between the ages of 18 and 20 I kinda-sorta-dated 3 girls who told me they were bisexual, but it turned out that they weren't. I'm now 31 and I've gain some retrospective perspective.

Did it suck? Yes.

Did it hurt? Yes.

Did I feel used? Yes.

Do I regret it? No.

You can't be afraid to get into a relationship with someone who wants to get into a relationship with you. If you second guess, you might be wrong. You might end up passing up something awesome, but you'll never know for sure. And THAT is what you'll regret. If you don't go for it, and see her again in 5 years and she actually is bisexual or lesbian then you'll really be kicking yourself.

The first time, I was 18 she was 17. She told me she was bisexual, not even "straight but I like you".I took her places, I bought her things, I listened to her, I thought she was pretty and told her so. I cared about her.  The guys she dated, well they didn't treat her very well. How could this have not confused her? Guys around this age, they don't know how to treat girls. It takes them longer to learn. But me? I knew how to treat a girl, because duh...I am one.

So, she wasn't bisexual, and I think she knew that eventually but didn't tell me. I had to figure it out on my own. And it did hurt, and I did feel used. In some weird way I think I felt like I failed, at least until I got it through my head that no amount of patience or being the best girlfriend ever is going to change someone who is straight. But I had to do it to learn it. (Okay, I had to do it 3 times to learn it, but the last two were shorter because I figured it out sooner.)

Someone who was observing this whole thing told me, "one day you're going to make a great...signficant other." That's what I took away from it. If I could get a straight girl to think she's attracted to me for a little while, surely I can get one that's actually attracted to women.

And I like to think what she took away from it is that she doesn't have to settle for a guy that's a douchebag. She can be loved for who she is, if not by me, then someone else.

The moral of the story is, even if you do get hurt it doesn't mean it wasn't worthwhile. Everyone gets hurt, everyone plays the fool sometimes. It's a really bad idea to approach relationships with a fear of getting hurt because it'll become a habit and you won't open yourself up. Every relationship leaves you open to getting hurt. Every single one. And that's part of the point of it. Opening yourself up to getting hurt and opening yourself up to love and be love is one in the same. It's the vulnerabilty that creates trust and intimacy. You can't have a healthy relationship without that.

I've always approached every relationship with the hope that it's going to work. I found a great partner because of that, and we've been together 11 years.

My advice is, if you do get into a relationship with her and she starts kinda pushing you away like maybe she's figured out that it's not what she wants and doesn't know how to tell you, don't drag it out. And don't hold it against her for being confused. It doesn't necessarily mean she used you, at least not intentionally.