it feels weird sometimes, I can relate

I identify as TG, I disliked labels of any kind until recently, now it somewhat eases for me to know, I fit someplace

hate fitting people into boxes, yet

someone who identifies as a female, looks like a female and feels like a female, will never need to be boxed, and will find it difficult if not impossible to be empathic towards a biological female, who looks as such, yet feels like a man either at certain times or always

I brand myself as TG and get told off by total strangers for wanting a box or wanting to fit in somewhere

in a fucked up way it feels comforting, as the reality of feeling like a man trapped in a female body yet not wanting to fully transition to become a man, can leave you confused, unhappy and ostracised by the community of heterosexuals as well as the gay community

I have ignored the fact or the feeling for years, living and appearing as femme, confusing my own sense of self for an unclear reason ;) walking down the road looking hot as a femme in high heels and full femme gear, with thoughts such as - 'Fuck, I am a guy!' I would look at myself in the shop window and rethink - 'Fuck, no, I am not. I am a woman. But, fuck, hell, no. I am a guy.'

;)

it was a continuous struggle of thoughts and emotions

now, as I finally started looking the way I perceive myself, I feel better and more adjusted, without the need for the full transition

...

take it easy, the life is ahead of you, you'll figure yourself out eventually

in the meanwhile, be happy about having a supportive girlfriend

;)

hmm, it seems to me that gender isnt exactly a binary thing, and it can be confusing because in some ways gender is a concept created by society. i guess its semi-similar to figuring out youre sexuality in a way, ficuring out which box to tick, and which label fits. I'm sure you'll be fine, you have all the time in the world, and it sounds like you have an awesome girlfriend to help you along the way:)

literally, boxes to tick can play with your sanity

cause if your pen vacillates over the 'female or male' in some bureaucratic form, it doesn't help

sexuality as such has nothing to do with it, not unless you want to play with the concept of

'am I a straight guy trapped in a female body'

or 'am I a lesbian woman, full stop' or 'am I a lesbian woman who feels like a straight guy' or what the heck

hmm

nah

there is more to it

labeling TGs is almost impossible

Gender is, in my opinion, a social construct. And we are conditioned to think that it matches with our physical sex, when that is not always (if at all) the case. Really, you're not supposed to be anything else but yourself, because what truly defines 'male' or 'female'?

You are a person, not a gender, and you should do whatever makes you feel most comfortable.

I feel that gender expression is fluid some days I want to wear a dress others I want to put on a pair of nice pair of jeans. I'm quite fond of male clothing although I tailor the fitter so I do not look like a box. So my advice is to express yourself on what you see fit and not the societal expectations of gender and sex.

PS: Genderqueer women overly stimulate me in the most lustful manner ^_^

*Goes back to leering at AE profiles*

I don't consider myself genderqueer and I identify as female. But, a similar person may consider themselves genderqueer. It might just come down to choosing your label, nor not choosing. I do think it's different than being TG.

When I was about 12 I had a brief gender identity crisis. It was brought on because I typically relate to male gender roles. Whenever I read a book or watched a film or TV show, I would often relate to the male characters. I always wanted to have and play with the toys that were for boys. When it came to "make-believe", I would always imagine myself as a character that would typically be male. On top of that, I felt an attraction to women.

The only rational conclusion was that I was supposed to be male. My 12 year-old self literally said, "God put me in the wrong body." That, I think, is the way a transgendered person feels...that their physical sex feels incorrect.

For me, the theory pretty much instantly fell apart when I actually pictured myself as male. I don't mean I pictured myself in a male role, or in male clothing doing male things. I pictured myself as physically male, naked with a penis and no boobs, a male frame. And it looked wrong to me....I mean it didn't look like how I feel. It wasn't a match. I feel physically female, and I'm comfortable with that.

I think we are each a unique mix of male and female. It's as unique as DNA. We all have male and female hormones at varying levels. Gender is not binary.

Gender exists in three forms: Mind, body and spirit. Mentally and spiritually I feel androgynous. Physically I feel female. 

By physical I don't just mean outward. The way I dress, the way I act, the things I do, and the way I think is androgynous. It is only my actual body that is female. I have soft facial features, and boobs, and curves and I like that. I don't feel like it conflicts in anyway with how I feel mentally and spiritually, because androgyny is a combination of male and female, and my physical form relates to the female aspects of me and I can still express the male aspects of me in other ways.

Some might consider that genderqueer, but I don't I guess because I think it would diminish the meaning of the term. Because then does that mean essentially everyone is genderqueer? You know, like in terms of sexual orientation is everyone who sometimes feels attracted to the same-sex gay or bisexual? Am I not gay if I think John Cusack is cute? I don't think so.

There has to be some sort of line for the term to have a definition for those who claim it. But within those lines there are varying degrees. It's not so much a box, but rather a spectrum. I feel I'm just enough female to identify as such without feeling conflicted.

list of TG links to delve into...

I don't know if you all have seen this documentary that was on logo, but you can view the entire thing online and I found it to be pretty interesting. Its called Gender Rebel:

http://www.logoonline.com/video/?id=1585354&vid=103253

that was the best video.

 :) terrific. i love it :)

Ok so i was totally going to ask the same thing as you Dani and now i dont have to cause all these people answerd your question . So thanks alot to all of you.

*Im not a fake man, im a REAL BUTCH*

I know I'm jumping into the discussion a bit late, but I found all of this to be really fascinating. My girlfriend is genderqueer and at first when she told me, I was totally cool with it. But lately, the more I think about it, the more I have a hard time trying to wrap my mind around the whole concept. It's all so mind boggling and I'm afraid to ask her about it for fear that I'll seem unsupportive or become frustrated.

I think reading this discussion has really helped me to gain a bit more insight into how she may be feeling and thinking. I'll definitely be more comfortable talking to her about it in the future. I'll gladly accept any advice regarding my situation as well, I may need it, haha. :)