I also just got out of a 3 year relationship and not only do I feel unattractive, but I feel unattracted to anyone. I think its just your minds way of telling you that you should let your heart rest a bit before you get started with anyone again. Although I myself am finding it hard to follow. Good luck with your healing process :)

I don't feel exactly unnattractive just very out of the loop. I've only had one serious long term relationship before and it lasted almost 2 years. After we broke up it took me a while to get back to how I was before. Going out all the time, having fun, flirting, etc. And I was used to having her by my side no matter where I would go so I even felt like I was alone with a big group of my friends or that half of me is missing. So I realized I needed to give myself some time to cope before I throw myself back out there.

What makes me feel unnattractive is the fact that a lot of my relationships lately are very short lived. Like the longest one recently has been about 2 months. Maybe it's just me or maybe I'm hooking up with the wrong girls. Who knows. I hope it's the wrong girls because I can fix that, I can't fix if I'm extremely unnattractive.

The heart has its reasons which reason knows not of.

I don't see how you can feel unattractive if you haven't put yourself out there. People may be standoffish if you give an unavailable vibe, so they won't try to approach you.

I think it's normal to feel lost when your usual routine is broken, but not unattractive. If you can't go out by yourself or with anyone else, then I guess it's a feeling you will have to get used to.

Some time ago, my ex of 2 years left me for another woman who wasn't even remotely attractive. Afterwards I felt like the ugliest woman on earth, and my ego was shattered. I had great friends, who were supportive and willing to help me drown my sorrows, but I was too caught up in my own tragedy to notice how good I had it. When you get your heart broken you die a little inside, but not everywhere. You can't let the insecurities and poorly articulated actions of your loved ones/former loved ones affect you. It does you no good to sit at home and wonder about what you did wrong, or what is wrong with you. Start doing the things that matter to you, and try to be the best you possible and you'll love again or at least get laid consistently again. 

     yeah my ego was hurt because after i kicked her out she moved right in with the girl. And i dont have good freinds to help me out I go out a lot with one of my buddies but everytime we go out i  feel like the whole club is going fast and im walkin in slow motion. My family say being by myself is good but im not looking for love. I come home from work and rotate from myspace, downelink, myyearbook, and this site just to do something. I feel lost in loneliness and no one understand that i just want a friend 2 talk to besides type to. Especially now when i just got out of the hosipital and cant go to work so im online 24/7

Everyone goes through trials and tribulations in their lives, yeah breakups do suck bigtime like a $2 dirty hooker (anyone know where I can find one? Just Kidding)......You just have to dust yourself off and keep on trucking.....Other than that, stay positive and focused and you will do just fine blondieishawt!! Peace!! ;-)

A very smart person once told me that ending a relationship can feel like mourning the loss of a life-in this case a life is substituted for a relationship or the life of your relationship.  I have found that statement to be true in my own experiences. Don't feel bad about allowing yourself time to go through a mournging phase which may make you feel a little disconnected and down on yourself but remember it need only be a phase.  On the attractiveness topic, before you entered the relationship you said people expressed interest in you, maybe it would be a good idea to explore what you were like during that time and see if you were participating in some activities then that can now help you get back to that state.  Also, maybe there are somethings that you are currently interested in that you didn't have time to pursue because of the realtionship that you can now explore-like learning another language, or picking up a hobby, etc.  I also recently went through a tough relationship break-up (over 6 years) and although I have great friends they weren't always available (due to some tough problems they were also facing), which was hard at first but I learned the importance of being a good friend to myself and taking time out of my day to review some good qualites about myself that I really liked and just embrace them.  It also helped me to put my problems in prespective by helping others through participating in community service activities.  Maybe at this time you should not focus so much on external attention from others-since it appears to be currently causing you some emotional pain.  It might be good to direct your energies on somethings about you that you deem attractive and take sometime to honor and appreciate them.  Most likely people will pick up on these vibes and express interest in you in no time.  Other attractive qualities include a love and appreciation for life so be sure to live yours to the fullest.  Sending positive thoughts throughout your healing process your way :) 

~CreativeSoul~

I got out of an almost 5 yr relationship a few months ago and it's still hard. You will have good days and bad. I went through a period of feeling totally worthless, unattractive and overall loser-y*, but things are improving now. As has been noted previously, it really is a lot like mourning a death. As cliche as it may seem, time really does help.

And I know you don't know me from Eve, but if you need someone to talk to you can totally msg me. Hang in there!

 

*this word non-existent in most dictionaries :)

Everything I do is wrong
But at least I'm hanging on