I think number 7 is actually a sign that you could be gay....I don't know. I don't know how to not be gay so I doubt I'm "gay for the wrong reasons".(Is there even such a thing?) I never understood why a girl would tell a guy she's lesbian to get his attention...I mean if you're trying to get him to pay attention to you because you like him or something...wouldn't him thinking you're a lesbian defeat the purpose?

I think it should be re-titled as "Wrong Reasons For Acting Gay" and the body of the paragraph should be

You shouldn't be acting gay in the first place, dumbass.

I wasn't quite aware that there was *reasons* for one to be gay. I don't believe it's a choice. I don't think somebody is born that way, either, mind you.

Agree with dear keanabug, if you can't attach to the opposite sex romantically....that's, yeahhhh, probably a sign that you're simply gay. 'Wrong reason' to be gay? Uh, no. It's like somebody who can't attach to the *same sex* romantically, it's not like they have a 'wrong reason' to be straight. O.o

I've been in relationships with guys, too. And then I started developing an attraction to women. I didn't 'switch preferences' because I wasn't getting the attention I wanted from males - in fact, I still get more attention from males than I do from females.

If anybody is 'gay' for any of the majority of the reasons above, then they aren't *actually* gay, and simply kidding themselves or acting on trend.

What an interesting thing from Wikipedia, I must say. xD

In these tough times I do not have as much disposable income I use to on alcohol. Alcohol is a "need" so I use other means to get my alcohol and my gayness helps...a lot. For some reason I respectfully decline an offer of a martini from a male patron but he insists I have the martini. I can't say no since I have NO MONEY and I usually have a good conversation then he's dissapointed when I tell him "Sorry sweetcheeks I'm gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! (I'm usually tipsy at this point). They still ask me out for lunch the following day....friends maybe?

Reason #2" 

I can excuse myself from embarassing conversations that starts with "So I like this guy, but he's only into blondes!"

(Me)"Sorry I'm gay, the lesbians I know are not as shallow or buy into the white male capitalist vision of beauty sorry! Should've been born gay!" 

 Reason #3:

For the fashion pfft! I love those ties with spiffy faux hawk died some different color in the front. Futchness and all its parts. Shane-clones!

"Those who do not like you fall into two categories: The stupid and the envious. The stupid will like you in five years time. The envious, never. "`_the Libertine

This subject suggests that it is a choice to be gay.  Isn't that a common belief that we've been fighting against for, well, ever?  Though, there are no doubt women who experiment with the same sex for the above reasons, I think this question is counter-productive.  They're most likely not women who define themselves as gay.

wow... wikipedia is just stoooopid... lol

okay now that that's said... I never had "reasons" for being gay it was just always there (the attraction, the desire, the connection) I did however have "reasons" for acting straight:

1. to avoid dissapointing my family, 2. to fit in better during high school years, 3. more socially acceptable in "white-corporate-america", etc. etc. etc.

 I agree that the ones that are "gay" for any of those reason are not truly gay. Even #7 is questionable because maybe they couldnt relate romatically with opposite sex in "healthy" manner for other reasons (personality, dysfuntion, etc) People that fall in this catagory may not necessarily relate well romantially AND in a healthy manner with the same sex either... Come on ladies havent we all met at least one woman that just sucks at relationships?!?  

...are you ready for a sugar rush?

Those are reason for one to choose to turn to women.. i for one beleive i am programmed n have some kinda raydar that men just arent attracted to me and i am not attracted to them.. its like the same polarity of magnets or something... two of the same kinda just wont stick together no matter how much u force it.. 

I am not gay for any other reason then well.. loving women...

Ameara <3

For me, if I wasn't queer then my life would be pretty close to the ideal - but alas, I am and so, because I had to go and lie to myself for far too many years, am in a bit of a quandary.  (Note: not that being queer, etc. is something bad or not "ideal" but for the situation that I've created, it makes it very much less ideal, but really, I love loving women!) I had no choice in the matter, I just am.  This sounds like either a hoax or something pulled from some religious site.

Hence my answer above, but thinking about it maybe it is about choice. I can't choose to be gay but to act on it is another thing to consider. I know I have no choice when it comes to attraction but to choose to act on it is a choice, we all know that. The only annoyance I have with it is that with us acting upon our "gayness" (sleeping with women having romantic relationships etc.) people think well you choose to be gay. One can be straight but not act upon it (sleeping with members with the opposite sex, romantic relationships etc.). I feel people get too hung up on who we sleep with. Sexuality is much more complicated than that, it's like political attitudes sometimes it's static with people kenetic with others. Wikipedia is written by our peers with "credible" citation, pure "i'm bored" fodder.  

"Those who do not like you fall into two categories: The stupid and the envious. The stupid will like you in five years time. The envious, never. "`_the Libertine

whatever turns you on...i say if a girl makes you wet, that's reason enought to own some gayness...for whatever reason why you are hooking up in the first place...this topic is basically asking the same question if heterosexual couples hook up for the "right" reasons. we hook up because we are horny...and if that someone is of the same sex, but you identify as "straight" or whatever...i think you might be a little gay...

and we're in relationships because (hopefully) we feel compelled to be with that person...and you have deep meaningful soggy feelings for that person...regardless if you are in the same-sex relationship or not.

PSthatsMe

by gay is women who pretend to be gay. Most of those reasons aren't really real reasons - who the heck would really be, BE gay to attract men or to "shock" people? There are those women out there who call themselves gay just to get attention, but it's more about labelling themselves than really BEING gay. Then again, there are straight married feminists who call themselves lesbian, that makes me confused.

Though that last reason makes no sense at all! as lots of people have said, I think it's a sign of being gay rather than a wrong reason to be gay. I'm gay, THAT'S why I can't relate in certain ways to the opposite sex!

I'm not too bothered about why people are gay. I've never thought about it, and I just don't care why. by choice, by god, by nature, by nurture, whatever.

This thread is annoying because it insinuates people choose their sexuality. Is there also an article in Wiki about whether people are heterosexual or bisexual for the wrong reasons? I don't even think we should buy into more misinformation out in the far right wing prejucided public about homosexuality by some  republican right wingers   people to discriminate against us and deny us our civil rights.

Ok so years ago after many annoying conversations with my mother where she painfully asked me "Why", I finally in a fit of sarcasim started making a list of why I was gay.  Now mind you I have been out of the closest for a very long time and have sort of an odd sense of humor so needless to say I have kept up the list just to annoy the hell out of my mother.  The list now is quite long, and luckily now that things with my mother have improved she actually helps me add to the list.

But I digress....my list is made out of complete sarcasim because what I intended to show my mother is that it isn't a concious "choice" (or at least it wasn't for me).  I didn't wake up one morning and say to myself....ah yes blue shirt, jeans, and why yes I'll be gay...that sounds nice.

...I'm gay for all the social benefits it brings.

;-)

This does imply choice. 

The reaction I recieved from family the first time I came out, or I should say was outed, was so horrible that I eventually made the "choice" to try and be straight.  I was successful, I built up really thick walls in my mind and had myself totally convinced I was straight. 

This made for a pretty unhappy life.  Fast forward 27 years or so, I've stopped living my life to please others.  My family, so unwilling to accept me the first time have welcomed me with open arms.

It's painful that I didn't have the "choice" to be who I really was for such a long time.  It is now time to move forward and have the happiness I denied myself for so long.  I am in love with a wonderful woman and we are working towards a life together.  To say that it is a choice to be gay is a slap in the face.  I guess for some it is and perhaps for some of those reasons listed above.  It certainly isn't a choice for any of the wonderful women I've met on this site.