Let's say the girl - your first love - who broke your heart, wants you back a few years later. Assuming she genuinely loved you, Would you take her back? I realize every situation is different...but let's just say this: 1) there wasn't any huge trust broken in the previous relationship...(besides a horribly broken heart.) 2) you know that you've never loved anyone more than you loved her. 3) you've remained friends enough to know that you still get along with her smashingly.

In this situation, I am on the other side. I am the heartbreaker
...and I want to hear that it is possible to get her back. (Although I suppose if the truth is different than that, I'd ultimately want to hear the truth.)

Not surprisingly, the major problem seems to be her inability to believe that I truly love her, and that I will not hurt her again. She went through an incredibly rough time trying to get over me, and believes she will be backtracking and falling into a danger zone if she even tries to open her heart up to me again. I do not blame her for feeling this way.

BUT I've changed enormously and am finally ready for a serious relationship. I truly love her and care about her more than I've ever loved or cared about anyone. I think she is absolutely wonderful - exactly the way she is - and that two of us are/would be wonderful together. "Perfect" for eachother, if you want to say it like that. I kind of think it would be a big waste of many great things to not be together.

I don't think she owes me anything, and I do want what's best for her - and if that is to not be with me, then I will be able to accept that. However, I am willing to go to great lengths to be with her. I would be willing to marry her on the spot if I thought that was a reasonable offer.

How do I gain back her trust? If you were in her position, what would you want? Would it be possible for you to open your heart again?